To Joyce

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2003
To Joyce
31
Sat, 08-28-2004 - 2:27pm
Joyce,

I have read your posts asking for everyone to calm down. I have read your posts on TOS violations. Now I have a question for you and iVillage....

This is a board that we (people who have 100+ to lose) are supposed to be able to go to for support, tips, and celebration. Yet, when we defend this board against those who ridicule us, make snippy comments to us (check out the Lane Bryant thread, esp. astri_c), WE get a "warning" from you telling us to cool it. Well, Joyce, what are YOU doing for US?

We get ridiculed from the public, told we're just eating too much, even tho there are studies to show MEDICAL reasons for weight gain, and genereally have to be on the defensive all the time, and now we have to take it here too? I thought I was finding a safe place to journey, but instead you (or whoever it is at iV) is telling us just to suck it up, turn the other cheek, so to speak. I have to do that EVERY DAY at work, church, and everywhere else. Why can't I have a place here that no one will mess w/me? Is that really asking too much?

iVillage has a responsibility to US, the members of this board who are here in the SPIRIT of the board. Not to those who ridicule us, put us down, snip at us and tell us we're just too lazy to lose the weight ---jsut because the don't violate TOS doesn't mean they should be allowed to continue to harass us. That is what it is, harrassment.

I've been a member of ivillage for almost 9 years, and I am incredibly disappointed.

Dawn

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2004
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 2:10pm
asstri never told anyone she was wheelchair bound UNTIL AFTER her posts which offended most of the board members.

I was very upset when we were accused of being purposefully malicious to her and I searched back carefully thru her posts. I would gladly offer a full apology if you can show where she had previously posted this information.

furry

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-17-2004
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 2:26pm

Please tell me you didn't spend all this time going through old posts just be able to back up your version of the truth?

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Fear

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-28-2003
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 2:42pm
Ohhh where do I begin... hmmm....

"You should celebrate the fact that a poster does not have to wear fat clothes,"

"fat clothes" ? "FAT CLOTHES" ? ...

"And then little things, Shawna and her friend Yavie accusing another poster of lying about parents in Florida."

I'll say this one more time, really slowly so you get it. **I** was the one accused of lying, and by default Shawna and her parents were accused of lying. Go read the post again, really carefully. **I** said that when her parents called the shelters to find a place for the cat, they were told the shelters were full. **I** was accused of lying because hurricane shelters don't take animals - of course I meant ANIMAL SHELTERS!

**I** said that her parents were under mandatory evacuation, east of Orlando. **I** was told I was lying because Orlando wasn't under mandatory evacuation. When I clearly said EAST OF Orlando. Merritt Island to be exact.

Get your facts straight before you go around BASHING people.

"Yavie (who posts here only when shawna needs "help" running someone off)"

Uh? Try searching my name, *******.

"tells Forte (whose first grandchild is in the hospital, whose daughter just lost her house) "I don't care about you, except that you lied about Shawna's parents" "

Selective reading, AGAIN! I said no such thing, and in fact you apparently (conveniently) overlooked my thread "I admire all of you" in which I specifically point out Forte and her daughter's troubles. And offer my thoughts.

I never said Forte lied about anything to do with Shawna's parents - I will ONLY say this once more, Forte accused ME of lying! Are you going to come down on Forte now? (:


"What is an 'Oprah'?" - Teal'c, SG-1

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-17-2004
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 4:06pm
Joyce, my emails to you have never been read - I know this for a fact, because they have all been BOUNCED. I would like to know the name and email of your supervisor so we can take this further.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 5:29pm
Hold up a mirror sweet cheeks! I want proof positive you are not the same person. There are too many posters on here who don't tell us who they are, no profiles. I will drop the issue once you all come clean. Where you are from, a first name, about your weightloss. I cannot and will not be harrassed any further by you. I have no respect for anyone who hides behind a dozen screen names and tries to give weightloss advice or so they call it that when all it is is little jabs. Just tell us who you are!!!!!!!!!!!!

Shawn and Heather Thornton 7/16/04


Heather and Shawn 7/16/04

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 7:31pm
Well said Dawn.

I've been lurking way more than posting because I fear ridicule or at the least aggravation and I have much too much stress in my life as it is....Most of us do.

Thanks for saying what needed to be said. I hope it helps to make this board and safe and supportive place to meet again.

Faith

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-16-2004
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 8:07pm

14 people more or less replied to this thread and agreed with the OP.

 

  Shawna

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-26-2004
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 8:43pm
Count me number 15.

I think today's posts are just a sample of what we have had to deal with day in and day out. Enough is enough.

iVillage, turn the lights back on and make this a safe, well-lit place for us to post.

We only ask for and deserve respect.

furry

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: two_kids
Mon, 08-30-2004 - 9:29pm
I've read through all these posts and i think it's sad that we're at this point,many members have left the board, i often wonder the reason(if they tired of trying to lose weight,decided to do it on their own,too busy or because of the nasty posters) I think it's a hard journey to lose weight and it makes it easier to know and talk to people who are going through the same, there's a range of people on the board with various amounts of weight to lose most are very supportive and full of empathy. I am glad i found this board and the people on it + that people are trying to change it to the better instead of just leaving.

I do hope that TOS changes,because until it does i think Joyce's hands are tied. But since we've stated that we aren't happy maybe she can help us figure out what to do next to change things. There's other boards that offer the same thing as this one does and IV will continue to lose members until things change.

I hate to think of the people who have to put up with crap in life then come online to get some rest and comfort and end up here having to put up with crap. Hopefully until things get changed people stay on track/start their journeys. Have a great week =)


Edited 8/30/2004 9:47 pm ET ET by angelinoh

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-19-2004
In reply to: two_kids
Tue, 08-31-2004 - 12:13pm
What wonderful responses...count me in as well.

AMy