OT - I am at my ropes end.

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OT - I am at my ropes end.
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 8:20am

Hi all.


This is way off topic and I am sure its going to be long, but I needed to vent.


I had a decent weekend filled with house work and some real work.


My ex husband and his family have been in contact this week because one of his siblings passed away and was close to members of my family. Well in the news of all this happening I was informed he is getting remarried. Not only was I shocked I was really upset as well. They are planning all sorts of things when we had a civil ceremony. They are planning on having children when the thought even came up between us it was shot down and now I am trying so hard to have a baby by myself.


I am honestly hurt more than I can imagine. With this and the episode two weeks ago with the ex b/f that some of you know about I am barely hanging on. I stayed OP because honestly my stomach was turning so bad I couldnt even imagine eating a damn thing.


I cant understand why in the world I cant even seem to have a man notice me and he of all people is getting married again. He is marrying someone from his culture. He is from Lebanon and I know he married me to get his green card so purpose served I guess. He filed for a divorce 6 weeks after he got his citizenship. So he got what he wanted and moved on. The ex b/f well I was there because none of the other women were stupid enough to move to him. But I was.


I am seriously depressed, I am not thinking about going to the gym at all I want to lock myself in my room and forget I exsist.


J


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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 5:27pm
I am so sorry Jodi. I don't really know what to say either to make you feel better. I know how it is. I have been with some crappy men, luckily I had enough and met Shawn. I had almost given up on the male species, I was just as happy without them, lol. Shawna is right, you don't have to have a

Heather and Shawn 7/16/04

 

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Registered: 05-08-2003
Tue, 09-07-2004 - 6:24pm
Jodi,

Please understand that this gophergreen is the freak show. You are a wonderful supportive person. Don't listen to this sick drivel.

Dawn

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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 6:35pm
(((Jodi)))

The fact that you were not loved by these men is no reflection on you, hon. It's a reflection on them because it sounds like both of these men sadly lack character. Just think...if you were still with either of them, would you truly be happy or would you be miserable? You deserve to have a man who will treat you with respect and dignity. You shouldn't have to settle for anything less. As others have said, you will get through this.(((((Hugs)))))


Keeyah

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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 6:36pm
Agreeing with Dawn...Jodi,don't listen to the other poster,she/he is trying to test the limits of the disclaimer atop the board.Ignore the trolls please....this can be a wonderful place for support.

Bren

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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 6:49pm
Agreed Jodi. Just last week we were talking about how pretty you were, even in a nightie!
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 7:10pm
My heart is breaking for you, Jodi :( Those two men aren't worth your time or energy, but I do understand how you feel. My first husband got married the day our divorce was final, and don't get me started on my 2nd.

Please keep up all the good work you've accomplished, you not only have a weight goal, but you have a BABY goal!

And as for living alone, heck, move here and I'll go to art festivals with you (and my daughter too, she's determined to become a famous artist!) and all the other fun stuff friends do together (;

*hug*

- Yav

"What is an 'Oprah'?" - Teal'c, SG-1

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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 7:19pm
(((((((Big Hugs))))))
 
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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 8:07pm
Jodi, I am sending You Hugs, Prayers, Good Thoughts, and Guardian Angels. Hope some of them help get you through this tough time! Hugs, Brenda

Hugs, Brenda 

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Tue, 09-07-2004 - 8:39pm
I understand so clearly and personally. My two ex's were fools and played and played and played. I took it personally and gained all this weight. There is nothing wrong with you and there is nothing wrong with me. It is THEM!!!!!!!! It is THEM!!!!!! Think about this what is she really getting?????? HUH???? Think about it. My philosophy is simply this I am the best me I can be...................no more no less. You are working on yourself because you see the positive in you and your life. Do not let this and the ex put you back in the place where old hurts live and stay. Address it look in the mirror and smile at what you see!!!!! A beautiful lovable woman.............you.
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Wed, 09-08-2004 - 5:35pm
Jodi, I believe in karma...what goes around comes around, and this will come back full circle to him.

Oh, and I hope his new wife gives him a SMOKIN' case of herpes.

Amy