OMG! I'm so confused
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OMG! I'm so confused
| Fri, 10-08-2004 - 5:52pm |
OK:
My last day...I interviewed for a job three weeks ago with my organization...never heard anything so decided it wasn't going to happen, started making all these plans to move, and low and behold, I get the call today offering me the job.


Okay, only you can decide what's best for you. You know that, I know you're just posting to let it out. That's what we're here for! So I'm not quite sure if I should give you my opinion.
But...I will tell you I was in the same position 5 years ago as you are now. Exact same almost.
So, I will wait to see if you want opinions and go from there. Until then...I wish you good vibes in sorting out what you need/want to do!
And always remember, whatever you chose will not be a mistake and if it is...you can always fix it!
Good Luck...
Kerry
Please...yes....give me your opinion.
Fear
Okay, so I took your "con" 5 years ago...the road less traveled. In a nutshell here it is:
I was in a career that I was doing forever. My best friend was moving out here to CT and asked me to come along. Since I was feeling blah about work, family and everything, I picked up and moved. No job, no family no friends. It was exciting yet scary. I had no nothing to fall back on out here. So I find a job in the same industry as back home and after a bit an opportunity for a new job came, one that I've wanted to do my whole life. I took it. And haven't looked back since. It has given me everything I have now and I am the person I am now b/c of my experience. I would not have the friends,condo,car or any of the experiences I've had if I didn't do this. For me, I've always felt if I didn't make it here or like it, I can go back home. I may not be able to go back to my old company back home, but I'd rebuild if I had to. I've met some AMAZING people here thru my work now and other places that I can't imagine what my life would have been like if I didn't move to CT. Don't get me wrong, I miss my family and my old friends terribly. But I built my own life out here. It's all mine. And if I want, I can always move back home whenever I want.
Now...that's just what I did. I'm not saying you should do the same. I didn't have a job offer that I've always wanted for me back in my old town like you do now. So, it's a tough choice.
I only knew that if I stayed where I was, I would ALWAYS wonder what could have been if I'd moved. Even if I ended up being married with kids by now and totally happy, I'd still have wondered. And that's the last thing I ever want to say is...I should have or I wondered what it would have been like....?
So dear Kerstin, do a lot of thinking. Put things down on paper...pros and cons. The nitty gritty ones. Even if you think they're small...put em down.
You'll figure out what to do....and once you make your decision...never 2nd guess yourself. Go full steam ahead!
Good luck to you! And keep us up to date!
Kerry
Well I am kind of torn on this one.
You said you needed a change, you have the opp, to make that happen. If you were unhappy enough to look into moving that shows something.
The money is good, the man is good, you're son would be happy but would you?
If this man is going to be a keeper even if you moved he would hang in there, follow you or support you. Which I am not sure he isn't doing already and if he is than he is a KEEPER.
If you want to leave I think you should, your son will adjust. It will be tough but moving always is.
The company you work for should have told you about this before hand, but it also does show that they value you.
When I was at this crossroads I moved. I am unhappy in my new place but that is my own fault.
I think you will come to the right choice. But I am thinking you should go on with the move.
Just IMO
Hugs, Brenda
Hugs, Brenda
Thanks again guys.
Fear