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| Mon, 01-24-2005 - 4:12pm |
Hi Everyone,
I’m new here so I just want to say hi to everyone and introduce myself. I’m 27 years old, 5’4, and about 260 lbs, size 24. I have been overweight my entire life, and the truth is, not very good at even TRYING to lose weight. I think the longest I’ve ever stuck to any sort of plan is 3 weeks. I’m hoping that this time is different, as I have better inspiration than in the past. I used to want to lose weight so I’d look better and find a great guy. Well, I found a great guy a couple of years ago despite the weight, and we just got married a few weeks ago. We’re talking about trying to get pregnant within the next 18 months, and I really want to lose weight so I’ll be at my healthiest while pregnant. I also know that all this weight will catch up to me someday, and I hate that. I just want to be around for as long as I can to spend every possible moment with my great husband! I’m following Weight Watchers (online) and I go to Curves. I hope I can really drop some weight!!

Oh my gosh...you sound almost identical to me. I can't seem to let myself lose any weight. I almost feel not good enough. I never thought I would find someone, but I did. And since we've been together (3 years), I just seem to keep getting fatter and fatter. We're planning to get married this year and we had a serious talk about having babies last night. He actually got to the point of tears when I told him that I am not healthy enough to have a baby with my weight problem (I weigh 340) and thyroid problem and blood pressure being borderline high. He said he was worried about me and doesn't want me to have a baby to put myself (or the baby) in danger. But he's going to be 28 this year and he said he'd like to have a baby by the time he's 30 and I'm 28-29 (I'm 26 now). I want it so badly too! I have to get this weight off. I love this man with all my heart. I want to be healthy for me and our future. My mom died when I was 12 and my dad is extremely unhealthy. I have so many negative health implications awaiting me if I don't change my ways (cancer, diabetes, hypertension). I'm to the point where I have to do something to change my ways.
I am going to start Body for Life with my boyfriend next Monday. We're going to do it together. I am going to commit to this thing whole-heartedly.
If you need anyone to talk to, please feel free to email me. :)
Good luck to you!
Shannon
You ARE right, we do have a lot in common. My name is Shannon, too! I noticed your birthdate on your profile and I was also born in December. Weird, huh?
That's great that you were able to talk to your boyfriend about your weight and how it could affect a future pregnancy. I haven't actually spoken to my husband about it yet. I'm hoping to lose about 65 lbs before getting pregnant. I'll still be overweight but not nearly as much. I know my husband would be extremely supportive of me trying to lose weight, but the truth is, I'm too embarassed to bring it up. He's very fit and works out all the time. He has never been overweight in his life! He's also never been with an overweight girl before me...so that makes me self-conscious about discussing weight with him. He's made a couple of comments about my weight in the past (not meant to be hurtful) and it embarrassed me so much. It sounds like your boyfriend is VERY supportive. Is he fit?
Wow! What a small world! Same name, same birth month, same situation! My boyfriend is not fit...but he has a lot less to lose than me. I think you should definitely talk to your husband about it. I know it will be hard and uncomfortable. But he married you and it sounds like you're in love and he would never do anything at all to hurt you. It was SO hard to talk to my boyfriend at first. I knew he would love me and support me, but getting the first words out was so hard. Now we are planning on doing a diet together. It has to be really difficult because your husband is in shape. Many in shape people don't know the stigma of being overweight or even many of the health problems that go along with it. In fact, he may not even know how overweight you might be (I think many times, people with less than 100 pounds or so to lose are looked at as chubby, and not even overweight). I know it is so hard to bring it up, but once you do, you will feel so much better. How long were the two of you together before you got married?
Shannon
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Hi Shannon (and others!),
I know that I SHOULD talk to my husband about it. I also know that he will be incredibly supportive. He's told me in the past that he worries that I don't get enough excersise, not because of my weight, but because of all-around health, so I know he'd be supportive, especially since my motivation is so that I'll be healthier when we have a baby (he can't wait for a baby!). I just need to find a way to say it, I get so embarrased!!
Shannon, to answer your question, we were together for a year and a half before we got married. We had a small wedding, and I was torn between waiting until next summer to have it (I thought a small, outdoor ceremony would be so beautiful) and having this winter, a couple of weeks before Christmas. We ended up doing the winter ceremony and I'm happy w/my choice. The Christmas background made everything beautiful and magical. When is your wedding? Have you chosen a date or gone dress shopping or anything?
It must be great to have your BF along with you for the weight-loss journey! I wish I had a friend to work out with me, to help keep me motivated. But...I don't know many people around here. I moved about an hour from home when my husband (then boyfriend) moved in together. How long have guys been together?