I will never be a small woman and frankly I love the curves...just not as many as I have right now. But for me it isn't really about a goal weight, it's about a goal fitness level. I love how my new muscles feel and I want more!!
Oh and I want to shop in a regular clothing store!
Oh boy, where do I start? I want to feel better, of course. About myself, the way I look. I would love to be down to 150 again, but you know what? I doubt I'll ever see it. 170 would honestly be about right for me. But I didn't like that; it felt too much like I was "settling" and copping out. So 150 is a challenge for myself. But we'll see, you know? I also want to not feel tired all the time. I want to be able to run and jump and play with my children, *really* play with them. I want to look into the mirror and like what I see. I want to not look like I'm still pregnant. There's a bit more I'm sure, but that's most of it.
Very interesting question!!! LIke you, I always imagine that all will be perfect if I was only thin but the real reasons I want to get healthy are:
I want to run beside my son as he learns to ride a bike I want to go to the pool with my kids and get into the water I want to tie my shoes without having to exhale before bending over I don't want my daughter or sons to ever be embarassed when their mom comes to pick them up from school I want to teach my children how live healthy and not have to live with a weight problem I want to feel sexy when my husband and I enter the bedroom ***blushing*** I want to keep up with my son as he learns to walk and run I don't want my body to rule what I do, I want to rule what my body does Most importantly, I want to live a long and healthy life with my family
OK, thats enough for now. LOL Thank you for reminding me why I'm doing this and the really important reasons.
"I want to teach my children how live healthy and not have to live with a weight problem"
-- this one caught my eye. I've noticed lately that my oldest son, whose always been thin like his father (the boy used to have a "six-pack") is suddenly starting to be a whole lot less active, more likely to stay inside and play on the computer than go outside and play. He's actually starting to look chubby around the middle and has "ripples" on his tummy (cellulite??). It's scary. I've also noticed him doing what I do...eating when he's bored. So now I find myself watching *his* weight too (and I don't know if I should). And my youngest is very skinny, not underweight simply because he's so big, but he's very stubborn. We're potty training and he's controlling "things", so we're having trouble getting the boy to eat enough. He wants to eat what's bad for him (chips, cookies, etc) when he eats so little to begin with. So I want to get healthy again to teach both my boys that the way Mommy and Daddy eat isn't a healthy way to be.
"I want to feel sexy when my husband and I enter the bedroom ***blushing***"
--I just had to comment on this one. I have one of these reasons, too, but I was too embarrassed to put it down. So since you had the courage, I will too.... I've spent years wondering if the reason my husband is "never in the mood" (blush!!!) is because I'm heavy. But I've never had the courage to ask. I want to lose the weight partly so that I know it's not that.
Excuse me!!! you are NOT weird looking. Everytime I see your picture I think how pretty you are. I especially like the one on the right top side of your signiture.
Now to the question at hand.
I want to be able to be active and climb Mt. Fugi and dive.(Two things I stopeed doing because of my weight.) I want to run around outside and have the energy to play with my kids. I want to go on long bike rides with my kids. I want to run in a 5K race.
I want to be able to shop anywhere and wear clothes that are in style and look good.
I want to be healthy so I don't have Heart disease and diabetes like my father and die of cancer like my mom.
I want to feel sexy. Not for my husband because he already thinks I am, but for ME.
Oh and I want the millions of dollars that people are going to give me because I am so beautiful.(a girls gotta dream.)
I can't bend over and tie my shoes....I have to sit down and use both hands to pick up my leg to my knee so I can tie them.
I don't want to be ashamed to wear a bathing suit on the beach.
I want my husband to pick me up and carry me.
I don't want my children to be ashamed of my fatness.
If I happen to climb some stairs I don't want to have to stop midway to breathe, and then have to sit down at the top for a while to catch my breath.
I want to look sexy.
Now I know I will still have my apron when I lose all my weight and it will most likely still make me look pudgy but I still want to wear those small sized jeans.
I hope no one minds that I'm posting here. I visit this board occasionally (as well as a few other "inappropriate" boards) just to see what what's working as for everyone as far as weight loss and motivation are concerned even though I "only" have 20 pounds to lose. I put "only" in parentheses because I've been battling the same 20 pounds for what seeems like my entire life, and those extra pounds are as much mental as physical.
Anyhow, I just wanted to tell Relydria how meaningful and thought-provoking I found this post (as well as the post on being "normal") to be. It seems like you are doing the hard mental work that we each must do to make our lives better in addition to making our bodies healthier. There was an article in Shape magazine last month about hidden fears that prevent you from losing weight. One thing the article mentioned was that people imagine that they will be "perfect" when they lose weight, and that the fear and pressure surrounding this expectation makes people sabotage themselves. It's something I've done in the past, but I'm now combatting it by telling myself that while weight loss will make me feel look and feel healthier, it won't solve all my problems. I also no longer postpone doing the things that I know will make my life better. I don't need to lose 20 pounds to get a nice haircut, go for a swim, ask for a raise, or just express my feelings. It sounds simple, but to me it was a real epiphany.
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My goals? To be fit and healthy.
I will never be a small woman and frankly I love the curves...just not as many as I have right now. But for me it isn't really about a goal weight, it's about a goal fitness level. I love how my new muscles feel and I want more!!
Oh and I want to shop in a regular clothing store!
Oh boy, where do I start? I want to feel better, of course. About myself, the way I look. I would love to be down to 150 again, but you know what? I doubt I'll ever see it. 170 would honestly be about right for me. But I didn't like that; it felt too much like I was "settling" and copping out. So 150 is a challenge for myself. But we'll see, you know? I also want to not feel tired all the time. I want to be able to run and jump and play with my children, *really* play with them. I want to look into the mirror and like what I see. I want to not look like I'm still pregnant. There's a bit more I'm sure, but that's most of it.
Great question! I love Dr. Phil.
~Joanne
Very interesting question!!! LIke you, I always imagine that all will be perfect if I was only thin but the real reasons I want to get healthy are:
I want to run beside my son as he learns to ride a bike
I want to go to the pool with my kids and get into the water
I want to tie my shoes without having to exhale before bending over
I don't want my daughter or sons to ever be embarassed when their mom comes to pick
them up from school
I want to teach my children how live healthy and not have to live with a weight problem
I want to feel sexy when my husband and I enter the bedroom ***blushing***
I want to keep up with my son as he learns to walk and run
I don't want my body to rule what I do, I want to rule what my body does
Most importantly, I want to live a long and healthy life with my family
OK, thats enough for now. LOL Thank you for reminding me why I'm doing this and the really important reasons.
Rhonda
237.5/226/200 for now
"I want to teach my children how live healthy and not have to live with a weight problem"
-- this one caught my eye. I've noticed lately that my oldest son, whose always been thin like his father (the boy used to have a "six-pack") is suddenly starting to be a whole lot less active, more likely to stay inside and play on the computer than go outside and play. He's actually starting to look chubby around the middle and has "ripples" on his tummy (cellulite??). It's scary. I've also noticed him doing what I do...eating when he's bored. So now I find myself watching *his* weight too (and I don't know if I should). And my youngest is very skinny, not underweight simply because he's so big, but he's very stubborn. We're potty training and he's controlling "things", so we're having trouble getting the boy to eat enough. He wants to eat what's bad for him (chips, cookies, etc) when he eats so little to begin with. So I want to get healthy again to teach both my boys that the way Mommy and Daddy eat isn't a healthy way to be.
"I want to feel sexy when my husband and I enter the bedroom ***blushing***"
--I just had to comment on this one. I have one of these reasons, too, but I was too embarrassed to put it down. So since you had the courage, I will too.... I've spent years wondering if the reason my husband is "never in the mood" (blush!!!) is because I'm heavy. But I've never had the courage to ask. I want to lose the weight partly so that I know it's not that.
~Joanne
Edited 2/11/2005 12:18 pm ET ET by joannes0
(((((I'm going to still be weird looking)))))))
Excuse me!!! you are NOT weird looking. Everytime I see your picture I think how pretty you are. I especially like the one on the right top side of your signiture.
Now to the question at hand.
I want to be able to be active and climb Mt. Fugi and dive.(Two things I stopeed doing because of my weight.) I want to run around outside and have the energy to play with my kids. I want to go on long bike rides with my kids. I want to run in a 5K race.
I want to be able to shop anywhere and wear clothes that are in style and look good.
I want to be healthy so I don't have Heart disease and diabetes like my father and die of cancer like my mom.
I want to feel sexy. Not for my husband because he already thinks I am, but for ME.
Oh and I want the millions of dollars that people are going to give me because I am so beautiful.(a girls gotta dream.)
sharla
I can't bend over and tie my shoes....I have to sit down and use both hands to pick up my leg to my knee so I can tie them.
I don't want to be ashamed to wear a bathing suit on the beach.
I want my husband to pick me up and carry me.
I don't want my children to be ashamed of my fatness.
If I happen to climb some stairs I don't want to have to stop midway to breathe, and then have to sit down at the top for a while to catch my breath.
I want to look sexy.
Now I know I will still have my apron when I lose all my weight and it will most likely still make me look pudgy but I still want to wear those small sized jeans.
Sussie_Q
I hope no one minds that I'm posting here. I visit this board occasionally (as well as a few other "inappropriate" boards) just to see what what's working as for everyone as far as weight loss and motivation are concerned even though I "only" have 20 pounds to lose. I put "only" in parentheses because I've been battling the same 20 pounds for what seeems like my entire life, and those extra pounds are as much mental as physical.
Anyhow, I just wanted to tell Relydria how meaningful and thought-provoking I found this post (as well as the post on being "normal") to be. It seems like you are doing the hard mental work that we each must do to make our lives better in addition to making our bodies healthier. There was an article in Shape magazine last month about hidden fears that prevent you from losing weight. One thing the article mentioned was that people imagine that they will be "perfect" when they lose weight, and that the fear and pressure surrounding this expectation makes people sabotage themselves. It's something I've done in the past, but I'm now combatting it by telling myself that while weight loss will make me feel look and feel healthier, it won't solve all my problems. I also no longer postpone doing the things that I know will make my life better. I don't need to lose 20 pounds to get a nice haircut, go for a swim, ask for a raise, or just express my feelings. It sounds simple, but to me it was a real epiphany.
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