When did it "click" for you?

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Registered: 08-31-2004
When did it "click" for you?
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Sat, 03-05-2005 - 9:46am

At what point did you have the "light bulb moment" or when did it

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Registered: 10-09-2004
Sun, 03-06-2005 - 3:25pm

Guys...for me it was all of the above....

1) I went to the movies and my fat behind would not fit in the seat! I couldn't even get one cheek in...nor could I even perch on the edge of the seat! Even thou the seats were really narrow and small (Dollar Movies gotta cram them in to make a buck) I was still mortified and angry...I stomped off to the truck and waited there for my family to finish watching the movie.

2) The little girl said...."You're fat!"

3) The guy said "Hey! when is your baby due?" I said "The same time yours is!"

Go figure.....

SussieQ

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Registered: 05-23-2003
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 12:34am

I have the same issues with men...I tend to shut them out in general, but I want so badly to be married and have a family...I would say that 99 percent of men ignore me, and I'm suspicious of the 1 percent. I've come to conclude that I use my weight as a shield; it protects me from men, so that way I don't get hurt, but I'm hurting anyway because I'm not getting what I want, which is a loving relationship with my soulmate, where ever he is...I know I sound crazy, but that's how I feel...does anyone else feel this way?

~Lori

    
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Mon, 03-07-2005 - 10:14am
You dont sound crazy at all!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 10:45am

I think the moment for me was when I found out my grandmother was going for yet a third hip replacement surgery. She was overweight and sedentary her entire life, as was (and still is) my mother, and as am I (at least the overweight part, the sedentary part has greatly improved). She has had both hips replaced, one done twice. She has also had both knees replaced.

No one has really said it, but I know in my heart the reason is because her joints just couldn't handle carrying all that extra weight for so long. Not to mention the muscles around the joints that are supposed to hold them together must have been practically non-existent due to the fact she never used them.

I don't want that for myself, and I know that's where I'm headed if I don't change, and drastically. I don't want to end up confined in my house and relying on family members to run my errands and cook my meals because it's too painful for me to stand in the kitchen long enough to do it myself. I want to be active and independant until the day I die. Heart disease and diabetes don't scare me nearly as much as being a shut-in does.

~kn

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 11:05am

It doesn't sound crazy at all to me. Often times we want one thing, but the thought of being hurt by the possible rejection or failure that can result from going after what we want is enough to stop us from trying all together. That fear can be so paralyzing that we'd do anything to avoid it.

((((Big Hugs))))

There comes a time when remaining as a tiny bud becomes more painful than the risk of blossoming into a beautiful rose.

~kn

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Registered: 07-16-2004
Mon, 03-07-2005 - 12:19pm

You don't sound crazy at all because I completely understand where you're coming from.

What's crazy is that I'm almost afraid to lose the weight and realize that maybe it wasn't that at all, tmaybe men just aren't attracted to me, and my personality sucks.

Sometimes it's easier to just blame men but when do I take responsibility for my actions and behaviour?

Oh this is a conversation to be had with a room full of women.

But you aren't alone at all!

(((CUTIEKITTY))))

Cheers
Lisa

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