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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 7:07pm

I am having one heck of a week! I am soooo stressed and it shows in my journals. I am starting to eat and I want to eat more! I missed almost all of last week because my son had the chicken pox. That put me way behind with paper work and assessments. I am trying so hard to get my kids tested because report cards are due. Today, a co-worker came back from maternity leave and I have been dreading it. She is the most selfish, insensitive, cruel person in the world. She loves to call you out in front of children and humiliate you. Of course my day was started off with that. I didn't call her on her birthday (we aren't even close!) and she was sending messages through her assistant that I was in trouble. Today, she told me I'm on "thin ice and I hope you know that" all because I said, "welcome back". Yes, people, this is a grown woman talking like this. I am very non-confrontational. I will kiss your butt all day. I don't understand people like her. So, I have been overly emotional today. It was a terrible start to an already stressful day. I just wanted to vent and cry a little. Sorry:( Tomorrow is a new day, I'll try to start fresh. By the way, I didn't come home and eat and nap like I wanted. I did Tae Bo and kicked her butt! lol

Theresa

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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 7:15pm
That is the good thing about Tae bo. I love to take my emotions out with Tae bo after I have had a hard day. I am sorry about that woman. I have been there and done that in the past and know how hard it is to go to work when you have to work with someone like that. Feel free to vent all you need to. I hope tomorrow is better and if not you can always kick her....again with Tae bo. sharla
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Thu, 03-10-2005 - 7:31pm
Oh Theresa, I am so sorry that you have been having such a hard time lately.

Rhonda

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 12:56pm

Sorry you have to deal with this witch...maybe I should send you some good ole Iowa maneur to rub in her face LOL

Take care, Theresa!

~Lori

    
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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 1:35pm

Woohoo!

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 8:06pm

Hey, girls! Thanks for the support. Today was much better. To answer Rhonda's questions: Ryan is 11 (12 on April 17th!!) and he's all healed up, thanks! Shawna, I went to my principal immediately after the confrontation. I have the best principal in the world and her and I have a great relationship, so I felt comfortable telling her about it. I think I kicked her butt too hard because my back is all out of whack today, lol. I still Tae Bo'd though! Thanks again!!

Theresa

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Fri, 03-11-2005 - 10:21pm
WTG Theresa!

Shawna

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Sun, 03-13-2005 - 11:01am
don't use others judgement as an acessment of your worth don't take responsibilty for others behavior baily :)
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Sun, 03-13-2005 - 3:58pm

Great job with the Tae Bo Theresa. I use it on a co-worker as well - funny how you feel so much better afterwards! LOL

I do have a tip though. I went through a year of having a bull for a boss and it nearly killed me. I was on the edge of depression thinking I wasn't good enough for anything. Fortunatly I got out in time and am now working with the most amazing people.

In the meantime, I recommend visiting this site, www.kickbully.com
It really helps put things into perspective and helps us non-confrontational people deal with people like this.

Good luck and let me know what you think.

Cheers
Lisa

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Sun, 03-13-2005 - 5:45pm
Thanks, Lisa! The website was really cute! I will definitely be able to use some of the tips!!
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Mon, 03-14-2005 - 12:52pm

Hi Theresa,

I am a very sensative person myself. I can be a confrontational person though when I feel I am being treated unfairly. It's not that I try to pick a fight,. I just try to reason with people. I have learned that you cant always reason with everyone. I learned a new approach over the past few years that has proven to work every time.

Bless the person that has wronged you.

It sounds crazy, but this actually works. I had a superviser and manager that came against me like you would not believe. They both wrote me up and basically tried to make be out like I was insubordinant, incompetent, and a slacker. None of this is true. Anyway, I went out on a limb and took advice from some speakers I had recently heard and it work! I just asked the Lord to bless them. I treated them very nice and submitted to their authority but not their opinion of me. Within a few weeks I had actually been promoted so was out from under them. In fact, my supervisor actually wrote me up and put me on 90 day probation and said she was personally going to watch me (even though I was no longer under her) in one sentance and the next sent me up to my new supervisor. Still, I trusted the Lord for vindication and not my own self. A couple days later my new manager said to me, "Oh by the way, did you hear that your old superviser was fired?" Turns out that within 30 minutes of my promotion she was fired for insubordination by the manager I spoke of and within another half hour he was then fired as well. So I was promoted and they were both fired!

I've tested this out many times since and people that did not like me for no apparent reason I could figure out now just love me. I dont know what their reasons are, but it is really works.

My pastor says, "Holding bitterness against someone else is like you drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." I am reminded of this whenever I let a customer get to me and I take it home with me. That person would get a real sense of achievment if they knew my day was ruined or I could not sleep because of what they said. I take the power away from their scornful words though and bless them and move on.

When you go home and do your Tae Bo or anything else, do it for yourself and not in revenge. Dont give another person power by allowing yourself to get hurt in the process.

For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD , "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and

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