1- I want to be healthy and feel comfortable (I am so uncomfortable now)
2- I want to be able to keep up with my 12 year old son and the 4 grandkids - be the "fun" mom/grandma instead of the "tired/or not now honey later" mom/grandma
3- I want to live to see my 12 year olds grandkids (LOL) or at least his kids. I want to be there to dance at his wedding.
Great question. I love questions like these. My main reason is I just want to feel better about myself again. My self esteem has always been a bit on the low side, but it's bottom drawer now. Number 2 is a bit embarrassing, but what the heck...I want to see the look in my husband's eyes when he looks at me and know he thinks I'm sexy. And number 3 is I want to be able to run and play with my kids (2 rambunctious boys) without getting exhausted and window and feeling like I"m gonna die after 10 minutes. lol
I can totally relate to your number 2, Rely (ok, actually your number 3, too, about how you hide behind your weight to keep the men away). I do the exact same thing. Mine's a bit more presonal, has to do with my husband and I, but I do exactly that, make excuses. It's not me, it's my weight. Now that I'm doing something to lose the weight, and my self esteem is picking up (a bit...it's still down there), I'm starting to see changes in my relationship, in the way we relate. My self-esteem gets higher, my relationship gets better. Who'd a thunk it? lol
I have the same problem as you and Rely do...I use my fat as a shield to protect me from men...it's ironic, but I want nothing more in life than to have a husband and a family of my own.
I stay overweight so I don't have to do anything. It's the world's easiest excuse to use. But I'm sick of using it. Also, I think I use it to hide from guys. Actually, I know I do. =/
I just broke up with the world's lamest boyfriend, so I am happy to be single once again, but I am terrified at the same time. Before I jump back in the dating game, I want to look my best, so the weight has to come off.
Hi. I'm new to this message board, but I've used other boards in the past and they are all wonderful! I'm just under 5'5", and I weigh in at 275.
I guess I have a thousand reasons why I want and need to lose weight, including the "hiding from men" issue, but I guess the most recent reason is because I'm about to become a grandmother and I want to be around to see my daughter become a mommy, and my soon-to-be grandson become a man.
I've also recently become absolutely mortified at work when my chair broke (from holding all of me) in front of several people. I'm still horrified just thinking about it!
Wish me luck! And the best of luck to everyone else!
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Wow, you guys have really gotten me thinking.
Hi
I want to lose weight because
1- I want to be healthy and feel comfortable (I am so uncomfortable now)
2- I want to be able to keep up with my 12 year old son and the 4 grandkids - be the "fun" mom/grandma instead of the "tired/or not now honey later" mom/grandma
3- I want to live to see my 12 year olds grandkids (LOL) or at least his kids. I want to be there to dance at his wedding.
Good luck all!
Valerie
Great question. I love questions like these. My main reason is I just want to feel better about myself again. My self esteem has always been a bit on the low side, but it's bottom drawer now. Number 2 is a bit embarrassing, but what the heck...I want to see the look in my husband's eyes when he looks at me and know he thinks I'm sexy. And number 3 is I want to be able to run and play with my kids (2 rambunctious boys) without getting exhausted and window and feeling like I"m gonna die after 10 minutes. lol
~Joanne
1. I want to be around for a long time,and that means being healthy.I know at my weight now,I'm not healthy.
2. I want to keep up with my kids.Enjoy the things they enjoy,and have fun.It's no fun when Mom(being me)won't/can't participate.
3. I want to feel good in my body.Carrying around excess weight does not make me feel good.
Bren
I can totally relate to your number 2, Rely (ok, actually your number 3, too, about how you hide behind your weight to keep the men away). I do the exact same thing. Mine's a bit more presonal, has to do with my husband and I, but I do exactly that, make excuses. It's not me, it's my weight. Now that I'm doing something to lose the weight, and my self esteem is picking up (a bit...it's still down there), I'm starting to see changes in my relationship, in the way we relate. My self-esteem gets higher, my relationship gets better. Who'd a thunk it? lol
~Joanne
I have the same problem as you and Rely do...I use my fat as a shield to protect me from men...it's ironic, but I want nothing more in life than to have a husband and a family of my own.
I stay overweight so I don't have to do anything. It's the world's easiest excuse to use. But I'm sick of using it. Also, I think I use it to hide from guys. Actually, I know I do. =/
I just broke up with the world's lamest boyfriend, so I am happy to be single once again, but I am terrified at the same time. Before I jump back in the dating game, I want to look my best, so the weight has to come off.
Joanne, that's great about
When I first started this journey, all I wanted was to be able to dress cuter, so I could turn heads.
Fear
Hi. I'm new to this message board, but I've used other boards in the past and they are all wonderful! I'm just under 5'5", and I weigh in at 275.
I guess I have a thousand reasons why I want and need to lose weight, including the "hiding from men" issue, but I guess the most recent reason is because I'm about to become a grandmother and I want to be around to see my daughter become a mommy, and my soon-to-be grandson become a man.
I've also recently become absolutely mortified at work when my chair broke (from holding all of me) in front of several people. I'm still horrified just thinking about it!
Wish me luck! And the best of luck to everyone else!
Debbi the Hammer Chick
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