I am so mad at myself (rant)

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Registered: 02-29-2004
I am so mad at myself (rant)
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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 12:27am

Why can't I lose weight, or at least make an effort I should say? I will be 36 next week and it seems like every month since I was 16 I tell myself that this is the time I will do it. Now I am 279 (up 4 lbs from 2 weeks ago). I was all set to do weight watchers 2 1/2 weeks ago and that lasted a day. Then I went to my church for a weight loss program meeting last Monday and haven't even tried the plan. I just want to eat and eat and eat. I keep telling myself that tomorrow will be the day. I'm so mad at myself. If I haven't done it by now, what makes me think that I can? I just don't know what to do. Ugh. Sorry for the rant, I just feel so frustrated and mad at myself.

Anyone have any advice for a ranting lady? Thanks!
Wendy

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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 11:24am
I completely understand how you feel. I have been dealing with the whole "I'll start again tomorrow" thing forever. I've managed to lose some weight in the past, but it keeps coming back and getting harder and harder to do. Just this time I did good for a week, then went a little crazy with my eating. Instead of staying off track, though, like I usually do, I just started back in again on Monday. I still went a little overboard last night with the snacking, but I kept my calories in control. It's an every day struggle and something I think I will probably deal with all of my life, the want to just eat and eat and eat, but I am fighting it. My first piece of advice to you is to really look at yourself and why you want to lose the weight. There's a post on here that asked just that question, and the reasons vary, but ultimately they all come down to wanting to do it for yourself, wanting to be healthy, and wanting to be happy with yourself. Figure out why you REALLY want to lose weight, and every time you want to stray from your eating plan, remind yourself. You'll probably fall off the wagon, maybe even on the first day, but just try again the second day. And the third and so on. If you just do 10% better each day, then you'll be eating 70% better by the end of 1 week, and if you just stick with that, that should be more than enough to start losing weight. Don't think you have to go 100% from day one and all the way through--it's easier to take baby steps.


 


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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 12:02pm
I agree.
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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 2:50pm

Hi Wendy:

I love the advice you've been given so far.

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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 5:38pm

Hey Wendy :)

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Wed, 04-20-2005 - 5:00am

Hi Wendy,

I just wanted to tell you that you are not alone in this. All the ladies gave you wonderful advice, and there is not much I can add. But I just wanted you to know that a lot of us are fighting the same battle.

And believe me every piece of advice given here works!! I just started seriously with my weight loss plans less than 2 weeks ago. For one year before I wanted to lose weight, I was sereious about it, but i wasn't PREPARED. Having a lot of healthy snacks available is a key issue to me. Getting rid of the chips and coke was another great move. You just have to be prepared.

Ofcourse everybody falls off the wagon, but the trick is to ride back on. For me I will not wait till i start fresh the next Monday or even the next day. I will start eating right the next MOMENT. Because if i leave myself, it will only give me more excuses to binge for the rest of that day. Yesterday i went to my inlaws and let's face it, it is really hard to eat right at that house hehe. (Lots of delicious stuff around). But when i went home, I just went right to sleep and didn't raid the Kitkat box in the kitchen. I felt so good about myself. (A little brag here lol)

Last thing I could tell you is ask for support. Let the people around you know your efforts and most of the time they will support you. I used to feel embaressed to tell people I was attempting to lose weight, but ever since I told them, I found wonderful support (but be prepared for a lot of strange advice).

Sorry for writting so long. You can do it Windy!!
Mary

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Fri, 04-22-2005 - 12:06am

Just wanted to thank everyone for all the support and advice. One of my problems was looking at the big picture and not giving myself smaller goals. I also had a long talk with my husband and he is very supportive and will help in my weight loss efforts!

Looking forward to seeing how everyone (and myself) does with this journey.
Wendy

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