Don't ya just HATE skinny friends???

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Registered: 11-17-2004
Don't ya just HATE skinny friends???
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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 12:09pm

Before I start my self loathing here's the backstory to all this. I've been part of a playgroup board for my oldest DS since I was pg with him, many people from that board are also part of a pilates board that I also post on. So we've all been friends for a long time now.

Ok, so 2 of those ladies have had absolutely amazing transformations of their bodies through some slight changes in diet, cardio, and mostly from doing winsor pilates. That enough makes you hate them because they were both "chubby", not obese or anything but definitely overweight...and now they can both fit into a size 2!!! Well they both got picked to be part of the next winsor infommercial.

So, a few of us who are in the southern california area (and even one flew in from Pheonix!) decided to meet up with them yesterday while they were in Santa Monica. Now I know that I'm bigger than they are, but seeing the pictures one of the other ladies posted just made me cringe. I HAD been feeling ok about how I looked yesterday, but after seeing the pics this morning all that flew out the window. I'm sure it looked worse cuz they are all sticks compared to me, but yeeesh! And of course there are TONS of people on our board who are going to be looking at these pictures so that only makes me feel like more of a huge fat pig. *sigh* I'm actually glad now that I forgot to take my camera, LOL!

Maybe I should print one out and hang it up everywhere as a reminder of how much I hate what I look like.

On the upside, it was a beautiful day, and beautiful hotel. We went for a walk on the beach where I burned tons of calories...it was quite a walk there (on a big hill) and we did quite a bit of walking in the sand, and I was lugging my 26 lb toddler around cuz he would freak out everytime I tried to put him down. Oh, and the wonderful Gunthy-Renker people gave us all gift bags that included a pilates mat, the new winsor fat burning pilates dvds, a makeup kit, and a 60 day supply of vitamins.

Amanda

Amanda

mom to Ethan (7), Ryen (6), and Katelyn (2)

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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 12:19pm
Sounds like ya had a nice time regardless. But, I know what you mean. I am thinking of dragging out an old pic of me when I was 19 (I'm 32 now) to hang on the frig to remind me to stay on track. Back then I actually weighed 172 lbs but fit into a size 6 jeans (depending on how they were made...most of my jeans were 8's tho). Back then I always thought I was "fat". Ohhh what I wouldn't give to be "that fat" again! LOL! I'd change my tune real quick about myself and the way I look.
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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 12:33pm
At least you had fun though right?

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Fear

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Registered: 10-25-2004
Thu, 04-21-2005 - 1:23pm
I know how you feel about sticking out among the crowd. I have one friend who has a very nice body and can wear a little girls size 14! She doesn't look sickly or anything, just has a VERY tiny bone structure. I'm the biggest and tallest out of all my friends, so I definitely stick out in pictures. I try not to hate "skinny people" or the way they are, though, because I realize that they all deal with their own issues. One of my friends hates her butt, another thinks she has fat thighs and legs, and another just plain hates her body because she has about 10-15 extra pounds. It actually usually bothers me when that friend literally gets upset and states that she hates skinny people. My feelings on the matter are that you never know what another person is going through and what they have done to get where they are. Instead of focusing on how "perfect" everyone else is compared to me, I try to find things about myself that are great. I love my hair, my eyes, my legs, my smile, and my boobs (:))...and instead of comparing all the things I don't love about myself with someone else, I use them as motivation and say "I want _____ like her" instead of saying "i hate ______ about her". I just like to be a positive person.


 


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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 1:45pm

Oh I know, and I don't literally mean I "hate" them. To witness their transformation in literally just a few short months has been amazing and I am very proud of them, and its pretty cool to say I'm friends with someone on a Winsor infommercial! I know that every woman thinks some part of her body is flawed no matter if she is a size 2 or 32. Regardless its hard to not feel inferior when it is so easy for others and hard for me. I've done pilates on and off (off due to back problems) for 2 years and haven't come remotely close to what they've accomplished, they are the epitomy of "results not typical" LOL!

Amanda

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mom to Ethan (7), Ryen (6), and Katelyn (2)

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Thu, 04-21-2005 - 5:35pm

i hate it when I go shopping with friends, and they all drag me into le chateau and garage and campus crew while they try on skinny clothes... Then to add insult to injury they ask me if I want to go to tanjay or northern reflections... Stupid friends. I've got no support :-(

--Save me from myself--

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Registered: 10-25-2004
Fri, 04-22-2005 - 11:26am

You've always got support from us :). I know how hard it can be when your friends offer no support and seem to make things even harder, whether meaning to or not. It just plain sucks, but know that we are always here and we understand what you are struggling with. Please feel free to ask for support whenever you need it, that's why there's the "support" thread :D.

Staci
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