Worried about husband..

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Worried about husband..
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Fri, 04-29-2005 - 7:20pm
Hi Everyone,
I am new here and I was reading some of your posts and I thought this would be a great place for me to get some help. I have been married for almost 2 years and I am currently 6 months pregnant with our first child, The reason I am here is because my husband is over weight, he really needs to lose about 150 pounds, He is very unmotivated and he has all the excuses in the world to why is isnt dieting or even trying to lose weight. I have been trying to get him motivated but its really hard, we have tried dieting in the past but it only lasts about a week or two then were back in the same place we started. I was just wonder if any of you may have some tips to get started and actually stay on a diet plan..Any advice would be helpful because I am so scared for his health.. Thanks to all of you..
~Kerrie
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Registered: 04-04-2005
Sat, 04-30-2005 - 9:02am
Hi Kerrie, Welcome to the board. I look at the way I eat now as a lifestyle change, not just a diet. I make better food choices now than I did before. There are days when it is hard, but I won't let it stop me. I try to stick to whole foods, i eat very little processed food right now. Lots of vegetables and fruits, chicken and now salmon. I just had my first ever sweet potato (Baked- and boy was it good!). I also eat something every 3 hours just to keep my metabolism moving. In the mornings I have old fashioned oatmeal instead of instant because it takes longer to digest and keeps in feeling fuller longer.
And I don't think you can make all the changes all at one time. Just make them here and there, and they will add up. If there is a day that I need a piece of chocolate, I will have it. The other day I had 4 pieces but at least I didn't eat the whole bag, like I used to. Exercise is great too. I now feel so invigorated when I am done working out. I never would have thought that would happen to me. I used to hate exercise, now I can't wait to do it. So there is my 2 cents, hope it helps a little bit. Stick with us, the ladies that come here are all great people. Karen 238/222/145
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Registered: 04-12-2005
Sun, 05-01-2005 - 12:33am

Hi Kerrie,

I will tell you this--you can't make him lose weight--he has to want to do it for himself. I know that my ex-husband used to try to control my eating and tell me to lose weight, but it didn't work, it just drove us further apart b/c I felt like he didn't think I was attractive anymore--it made me resent him. In the meantime you can do lots of things that might help him, especially if you do the cooking. Make healthier meals for him. Pack his lunch for work--he'll think you are a good wife for it and it will make him happy while you pack something healthy for him (throw in the occasional fat-free pudding or something so he won't suspect anything). Look at what is causing him to put on weight, and go from there. There is an underlying cause--why does he eat? Boredom? Emotional eater? what is the reason? Then you can do something about it. Once he loses a few pounds he will be more motivated. Also, you both have to approach it as a lifestyle change--a person can't stay on a diet forever and if he does lose weight, he'll just gain it right back if he goes back to his old ways of eating.

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Registered: 08-31-2004
Sun, 05-01-2005 - 10:31am
HI Kerrie and welcome to the boards :)