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He is at it again
| Fri, 05-13-2005 - 3:09pm |
Hi gang
I hate to be a bummer but my husband Mr positive...is back at it again. He has been miserable for 2 days now and I am trying to stay optimistic about my new direction and goals but his angry attitude about everything and everybody here (especially me )is starting to wear me down. Today I did not have the will to exercise and my happy demeanor is starting to sink..I don't want to fail this time but he always does it to me then he can make me the brunt of his jokes...Just a little help from my buds to help me give my head a shake before I sink lower.
Sorry to do this to you...
Claudette

Claudette...dont worry about being a bummer to us!
Claudette,
I'm not gonna even start, because I really don't think much of people that act the way that your dh is acting towards you, but I wanted to post and let u know that my thoughts and prayers are with you. You are doing this for YOU..not him..don't even listen to what he says.. and when you feel discouraged, know that WE are behind u all the way!!! Never let anything that someone else says bring you down, or make you want to give up. Just keep at it, and know in your heart that this will make you happier and healthier for years to come.. ((((((HUGS))))))
Lynn~
I think a lot of times when people who love you discourage you from doing something good for yourself (like lose weight or get healthy) it comes down to their own insecurities. My mother was always very discouraging to me and putting pressure on me when I was younger about my weight and how I looked, and though I know she never meant to hurt me, I think deep down she was really afraid of me be skinnier than her, or achieving where she had failed for so many years. With your husband, maybe he's afraid that once you've lost weight, you'll decide that you can do better and run off with someone younger/hotter/etc. It could be totally unfounded, but keep in mind that men can be just as insecure as women sometimes....
Of course, this doesn't excuse his behaviour, and if talking to him doesn't work than just ignore him as best you can - remember that you deserve to treat yourself like the Goddess you are!!! :) Best wishes, keep your chin up!
Claudette:
I'm sorry you're having such a hard time with your husband. I don't like people like that at all, and I'll tell you what, if I were you, I'd put his a$$ out in the cold. There is no reason to be a jerk. Ever.
Hopefully you can take some of the wonderful advice offered to you so far, and start surrounding yourself with more positive people. ((((HUGS))))
Fear
Claudette,
I agree with Decemberraine--he's trying to sabotage you so you won't find somebody better than him (which might not be too hard). Don't let him get you down. He's a jerk--you know that, so just ignore him. You know you can always come here and get support. Send him to a counselor--hes really got some issues.
Well first of all a BIG thank you to all who encouraged me and reminded me that you are all Right and I should just ignore him and I am not the one with the problem HE Is.. At least I am trying to do something anyway...My mom always said Just ignore him/them they'll get theirs in the end...Well on the weekend he fell off a ladder and hit his head and had to get stitches.. He is fine but Boy oh boy what a headache He has...
Claudette
Claudette,
I'm normally not one to