What was your moment of truth?

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Registered: 02-22-2005
What was your moment of truth?
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 11:28am

I was aware of being obese but kept avoiding doing something about it. I could feel my body deteriorating as I continued to gain weight but that wasn't enough to motivate a change.

My moment of truth was when I visiting my daughter at College and barely made the walk from the car to her dorm room. Not only was I huffing and puffing but I really thought I wasn't going to make it to her room without sitting down. I even had a visual of me in a motorized chair.

This was heartbreaking for me as I always loved walking before gaining so much weight. In that moment I remember thinking, I will never feel this way about myself again. That night I made a plan including: walking, low-fat food, water, journaling, and finding support (this board). The date - Feb. 21, 2005. Now I'm walking 5 miles a day and have lost 35 lbs.

Did you have a moment of truth on this journey to a healthier you?

LK
295/260/195

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Registered: 02-22-2005
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 2:42pm
Dawn - I have appreciated your positive attitude and support on this journey and now I am adding admiration to the list because instead of taking a low point and going lower you have pulled yourself together and began climbing up one step at a time. You are an amazing woman! LK
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Wed, 05-25-2005 - 3:26pm

LK, thanks for your sweet words. They brought a tear to my eye, really! You're showing the fruits of all your hard work, too! And you have so much to be proud of! I know we'll all reach our goals.....we're a great group of women!

Thanks again!

Dawn

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 5:35pm
Dawn - I feel ya!!! My husband has told me (with a lot of love and care) that he feels bad that I feel so bad about my weight and that there are times when he's embarrassed by me and for me. My initial reaction to that is - "you selfish jerk" but when I really stop to think about it, he's entitled to his feelings and it's OK for him to tell me that it's tough to be a 190 lb man who is married to a 383 lb. (well, now 373 lb) woman. I know that it's coming from love and I appreciate the fact that we can be so honest with each other in our marriage.
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Registered: 04-12-2005
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 9:59pm

My moment was in February when I got on a plane and had to get a seatbelt extender. Before, they had always just made it, but there was just no way to make this one fit. When I asked for the extender, everyone around my seat just turned and looked at me. I could tell some of them felt bad and some of them wanted to laugh at me. Thats when I decided I couldn't be this way anymore. Now, I lost 5 lbs, but when I started jogging I gained it back.

Jen 278/277/160

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Registered: 03-21-2004
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 12:04pm
I have to use the seat belt extender too. I would ask the flight attendant when I boarded and then he/she would bring it down to the seat. It's funny, I don't care much about what strangers think but I do care about my friends and family. I did not want my in-laws to see me ask for one on a recent family vacation so I ended up taking the extender with me when I got off the plane. Hey, for a $400 plane ticket I figured I was entitled to a souvenier :) Anyway, now I bring the extender in my purse and I am able to discreetly use it. Saves me a LOT of embarrassment.
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Registered: 02-17-2004
Fri, 05-27-2005 - 7:18pm

(((((((((((((Dawn))))))))))))) I'm just reading your response now and had no idea! You're right it did make me mad. But I am so happy you are in a better place now! Good for you! Keep up the great work girlie!

Love you - Kerry

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sat, 05-28-2005 - 6:10pm
Rebecca, I am so very happy for you! You have every right to feel proud of yourself. My gosh, you have been through much more than losing your food and inactivity addiction, but losing the drug and alchohol addiction too is magnificent. You inspire me. Kristi :o) <><
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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 6:13pm
Yikes! My gosh! What did you do? How did you get out? Kristi :o) <><
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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 6:21pm
As I've typed several times already, I have a mouth and would have reduced him to an oily, rendered puddle on the floor. That being said, it sounds like you are getting healthy for yourself and for your kids. It never works to lose weight for a spouse, because if they don't accept us at our worst, our best will never be enough. (I like the fire ant idea) But it also sounds like you two are working on your relationship and that's wonderful and so encouraging. I have a fabulous spouse who is tremendously supportive and thinks I'm beautiful and sexy, he says he doesn't see my weight (blindness?). But I grew up with a father who ridiculed my mother constantly, about weight, hair, house, etc. And he lit on us kids too. So I went into adulthood taking nothing from nobody. If you didn't care for my body I'd just as soon sit on you than hear another peep! Ha, ha. I love how you are handling this troubling time in your life and I pray and certainly ask God to bless your journey. You also, in addition to other ladies on this site, inspire me. Kristi :o) <><
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Sat, 05-28-2005 - 6:25pm
Bless your sweet heart. Congratulations on your wonderful efforts! I am so sorry to hear about your baby. I don't know what to say about that except God has a way of taking those Home who are only to be here for a very short while. I trust in Him, and I'm not meaning to put that off on you. It just helps me to remember this when things on earth are so uncertain. Blessings to you, Kristi :o) <><