Anyone out there??

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Registered: 01-14-2005
Anyone out there??
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Tue, 06-07-2005 - 8:57am


I am asking for someone to kicx me in the you know what and give my head a shake...

I have been a real slacker for 2 weeks - no exercise ,no eating regimen, no loss no gain.

Just bummed out. Summer is practically here and all I see when I pick up my kids are slim

mom's in their little shorts and tops with tans and I stand there in t shirts

and capris trying to look good but being the fat mom who is just trying to look good.

People sometimes say- you look so nice and pretty all the time - and I say out of habit

yah not bad for a fat chick - automatically. My self esteem is down and I can't get it up

I'm in trouble here. I wish we were in Greek times where beautiful women were large and

voluptuous ...At least I would not be called a fat cow there.... Claudette

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Registered: 10-25-2004
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:34am

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Hang in there! I know that you can do it, and here's your <<<<<<<>>>>>>> in the you know what to get you jump started. I know that sometimes it seems like no one else struggles with their weight, but look at how many of us are here on this board! More people are overweight than are skinny, so, please, know that you are not the only one out there. It's so very hard for anyone to have a healthy self-esteem in this day and age, and the only thing I can say is just keep working at it. Next time someone says that you look nice, just say "thanks". I know it's hard to do, but every small step you take toward being a better, healthier you is one in the right direction. And, even if you can only take a small step every day, in a year, you would have 365 of them and be a heck of a lot closer to a better you. I read an article the other day talking about weight loss, and how 1 lb a week often seems like it isn't enough, but if you stick with it for a year, that's 52 lbs gone. When I read that I thought "that's so simple, yet so hard to accept". I know that when things aren't happening as fast as I would like, I sometimes get discouraged and give up, and now I want to kick myself because if I hadn't given up all those times before, I would be at my goal weight and then some by now. Oh well, what's done is done and I know that I have to move on to reach my goals.

I know that you can do this if you just stick with it. Before you know it, you will be like one of those "skinny" moms, but you'll probably feel better about yourself than most any of them, because you will appreciate your body with all it's flaws and have the pride in knowing how hard you worked to get it the way it will be!

Staci


 


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Registered: 08-31-2004
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 9:42am

Claudette....Im also hanging out in the capris this year and you know what, its ok.

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Registered: 05-25-2005
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 12:17pm

Here's a big kick for you Claudette!

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Registered: 12-10-2004
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 7:37pm
Staci, that is a great reply. Inspired me too! And to Marie, for heaven's sake, when someone tells you you look nice all the time and pretty, say THANK YOU. Unless you are throwing on whatever sack you can find, not washing your hair or showering, TAKE THE COMPLIMENT. I love my body for the things it does: breathes, heart beats, skin feels, extremities move, etc. If my legs can carry me to the fridge, they can sure carry me elsewhere. Congrats on going to the beach. Of course I feel weird looking at the thinnies enjoying their bodies and probably not even thinking about it. But we both breath, we both walked there, we both get dressed, we both do our hair, we both poop (it's true, even the beauties poop - they don't want you to know that of course), etc. You've heard about accepting your body. You don't have to love the way it looks, but the love the miracle of all the processes going on in it to not only sustain life, but to really live it. Kristi :o) <><
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Tue, 06-07-2005 - 7:40pm
P.S. Telling people that you look good for a fat girl puts them on the spot and in a situation where they don't know how to respond. I don't kick but it looks like you've gotten a couple of hugs and a couple of kicks so I'll leave it at that :o) Kristi <><