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| Wed, 06-08-2005 - 7:51pm |
Hi everyone!
My DH an I went to the grocery store this morning for the first time since I've been working on losing weight. The last few days I've just been really watching my portion size and skipping on seconds and drinking more water than I used too. Never before had I actually taken a list into the grocery store with me. This time I had a list and it was loaded down with fruits and veggies, something neither me or DH have ever really had a second thought about.
I mananged to make it passed the cookie/chips/junk food aisles. DH didn't. He's always got a craving for something down one of those aisles. So on top of the list I had written out, we ended up coming home with his junk food which seems to be more than we've EVER bought before. I call it his, because I haven't touched it while he was ripping the chip bag open before we were out of the parking lot. I even made him put it in the pantry himself.
Now for what I've been wondering all day. If this happens to you, how do you/did you manage to stay away from it when still working to change your eating habits? Also, has any of your DHs joined you in exercising and eating healthier? My DH supports the fact that I want to lose weight and eat healthier. He refuses to even try anything he considers "rabbit food." Now he's saying that on top of everything else I do around here, that I'll also be cooking 2 different meals at night!
Anyone have advice?
Thanks
Terri
My DH an I went to the grocery store this morning for the first time since I've been working on losing weight. The last few days I've just been really watching my portion size and skipping on seconds and drinking more water than I used too. Never before had I actually taken a list into the grocery store with me. This time I had a list and it was loaded down with fruits and veggies, something neither me or DH have ever really had a second thought about.
I mananged to make it passed the cookie/chips/junk food aisles. DH didn't. He's always got a craving for something down one of those aisles. So on top of the list I had written out, we ended up coming home with his junk food which seems to be more than we've EVER bought before. I call it his, because I haven't touched it while he was ripping the chip bag open before we were out of the parking lot. I even made him put it in the pantry himself.
Now for what I've been wondering all day. If this happens to you, how do you/did you manage to stay away from it when still working to change your eating habits? Also, has any of your DHs joined you in exercising and eating healthier? My DH supports the fact that I want to lose weight and eat healthier. He refuses to even try anything he considers "rabbit food." Now he's saying that on top of everything else I do around here, that I'll also be cooking 2 different meals at night!
Anyone have advice?
Thanks
Terri

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I used to have the SAME problem with my husband. He "needs" to have his cookies and candy. He likes to put peanut butter cups and cookies in the refridgerator, right there to greet me everytime I open the door. I kept telling him that it was too much....finally he said - don't you have ANY willpower to which I replied - well, at 380 lbs, obviously I don't!
We finally decided to compromise and we bought a small fridge - like the college dorm kind- where he could keep his beer, candy, soda, etc. I'm an out of sight, out of mind kind of person so it made such a big difference.
He recently decided that he wants to lose about 15-20lbs. So we cleaned out all of his junk and found things that he likes such as cashews, cheese, raw veggies with dip, and Fruit-2-0. I have been following the South Beach Diet so meals include lean meat, seafoods, and lots of veggies. He's been "clean" for about a week now and has dropped 5 lbs.
Hang in there with your DH and remind him that you need his support to accomplish your goals, even if it means keeping his chips in the garage. Good luck!
Let me say, I know how it feels when it seems like everyone else around you is constantly tempting you with junk. My boyfriend, Neil, and his family eat out ALL the time. Or, if they don't eat out, his parents and sister always want us to come over for dinner (like lasagna). I think that in the past two weeks, we have been out to eat at least 7 times to pizza places, Arby's, bar & grill type places, mexican, etc. I have managed to stay under my calorie goal every day, though, by planning for those places and eating super healthy the rest of the time. I also chose healthy dinner choices to keep the calories low, but, if you plan for it right, you can eat out/have chips/have candy/etc.
As crazy as it may sound, I think that the key to avoiding temptation and going overboard is to plan to have those "temptations" sometimes. Every other Sunday, Neil and I usually go out for the Brownie Obsession at TGIFridays---ohhhh, warm, fudgy brownie with caramel and hot fudge sauce with ice cream on time---and I always plan for it so that it doesn't take me over the limit calorie wise. If you truly love chips, plan your day so that you can have a serving (measured) with lunch or dinner or for a snack. Plan it to happen every day, if you want to, and pretty soon, you probably won't "crave" them. On most days, I plan for a 200 calorie "treat". That's a lot, but I always to make sure I get my fruits/veggies/dairy in with my other calories. I have chocolate, white chocolate truffles, onion rings, bean dip, whatever I want with these "treat" calories. Somedays, anymore, I don't always want junk treats, and I'll have 100% fruit juice or fat free sorbet instead.
Finally, if you are having a hard time and need something to take your mind off cravings, feel free to e-mail me, and I'll be happy to chat with you! HTH!
Staci
I have the exact same problem with dh. He does support my weight loss efforts and encourages me a great deal, but he doesn't need to lose weight himself. So there are always chips, coke, chocolate, and all the junk you can imagine lying around the house. I know that getting rid of the junk food is not an option.
First i gave him his own cupboard and his own section in the fridge (right at the bottom of the fridge, inside a drawer). So I know these are "his" stuff (and ds shares with him ofcourse).
But sometimes i still got tempted to look into his cupboard and dig something out. What really helped me with this is having my own "treat" cupboard and my own section in the fridge as well. I have sugar free jello, low fat oreos, string cheese, and stuff like that. So even if a binge hits, i open *my* section and pick something healthy.
Mary
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Hello Terri :)
I agree with this one. My H has always been one of those high metabolism guys, could always eat whatever he wanted and still remain stick thin. Well, now he's older and he's getting quite the gut (put a long shirt on him and it darn near looks like he's pregnant. lol Not that I'd ever say that to him.) and he doesn't believe me that it's those potato chips and bologna sandwiches he eats every day for lunch. And my kids are the same way.....they're all junk-food-aholics. But since I started eating healthy and keeping more healthy stuff in the house (and cooking healthier dinners, because I *refuse* to cook two meals. You either eat what I cook or you go hungry. lol Seriously, my kids know if they want something different they have to make it themselves. 9 times out of 10 that gets them to eat what I make. lol) everybody's starting to come around. My turkey meatloaf is actually a favorite. And my boys are more prone to grabbing something healthy for a snack.
But I also agree with Staci in that you can cook simple things, like lean protein, things that are healthy but don't taste it. Like simply baking some chicken breasts or some sort of fish. Or using ground turkey in place of beef (you can't tell the different except that the turkey has a softer mouth feel). That's what I tend to do and so far it's working.
Edited 6/9/2005 11:55 am ET ET by joannes0
Thank you all so much for the advice and encouragement!
I have to tell you all what I did. I thought about this all day yesterday and the more I thought about it the more peeved I got! DH had to work this evening and would be at work during dinner time so our meal together for the day was lunch. I had already planned on having some grilled chicken and a small salad for lunch, which I knew he wouldn't want so I didn't even offer him any. I plopped 2 different boxes of frozen food down on the counter and told him to choose. When he picked, I read the cooking instructions, told him they were simple and he could do it on his own. He stood there dumbfounded. I told him it was ridiculous for us to eat different things for dinner and that we would just have to sit down together and make a list (I'm obsessed with making lists) of the things he was not willing to give up and just experiment with the rest. It was only after he burnt his hot pockets in the oven that he agreed. I'm still not sure why he used the oven. I've always used the microwave!
Thanks everyone for such great advice.
Terri
Terri.... You go girl!! Now didn't that feel good to tell your DH to fix his own meal? The real obstacle in trying to lose weight is the lack of support, whether from family, friends or co-workers. When you have made the commitment to yourself to start eating healthy, your hubby should be the first one to support you in your efforts to improve your health and your body. Like Shawna, I have a very supportive husband who eats whatever I put on the table, and enjoys our new healthy life-style. In fact, he has lost his pot belly, and has gone down a size in his clothes. Go figure! Men always seem to lose faster than us women do.
I started the South Beach Diet the first part of the year, and haven't seen a sizeable weightloss yet, but it's going down slowly. I also incorporated exercise into my lifestyle, and for me to exercise is a gigantic accomplishment for the queen of excuses. I've had to give up certain "unhealthy" foods that I really liked, but had to do so when I became diabetic a few years ago. So I had to say, "Bye-bye to my baked goods, candies, and fried chicken, biscuits and gravy!! My DH and I still go out to eat at least once on the weekends, but we've learned to make healthier choices at the buffet bars, and the other restaurants we go to. My cupboards, pantry, and refrigerator are stocked with all healthy foods now, and hardly any junk foods. My DH is a chip lover, so he finds the kind with the lowest amount of fat and sodium. I occasionally have a bag of sugar-free York Peppermint Patties in the 'fridge for my treat.
You could check out the message board on the South Beach Diet, and see if it would be your kind of new WOE lifestyle for you, and even your DH.
I wish you the best of luck on your new healthy lifestyle, and also hope your DH comes around soon to your side of the healthy life! (((Hugs))) to you!
Susie
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