Is anyone else afraid to reach goal???

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Is anyone else afraid to reach goal???
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Wed, 06-08-2005 - 10:02pm

I know this is crazy, but I find that I actually feel panicky when I think of reaching goal.

 

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 5:42pm

Thank you so much for your responce.

 

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 5:43pm

I have been thinking of taking a class for assertiveness.

 

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 6:07pm

LOL....well if that is your face I could see how it would be hard to go around with no chin, ears or hair.

 

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 6:14pm

Thank you so much for your responce.

 

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Thu, 06-09-2005 - 6:19pm

Thank you so much for responding, hearing from others with similar experiences is really helping me feel a little less freakish.

 

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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 3:47pm
I thought I was the only one who felt this way! Thank you for this post. I've spent a lot of time thinking about this question. I knew before I chose to start losing weight that I would need to face, "what is fat protecting me from?" I've only been obese for the last 6-7 years (though I've always had a poor body image and believed I was fat even at 115lbs). I used my weight to isolate myself physically, socially, and emotionally. Right now I can only see myself reaching 195lbs (my first goal) and it concerns me that I am not able to visualize myself at a "normal" healthy weight. So, I include focusing on my feelings as well as my body daily in order to get both in balance. It may not be something I can do on my own and I'm prepared to cross that bridge down the road. LK
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Fri, 06-10-2005 - 4:35pm

I am so glad my post has helped you.

 

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Sun, 06-12-2005 - 9:56pm
I've been afraid of it for awhile, only because I have been to the thin place. The thing I found worse than everything was my family and friends cautioning me to "be careful you don't gain it back." "Thank you! I never thought of that! Because frankly, I was going to live dangerously and not think about gaining it back! Good thing I have all of you to scrutinize my life for me!" Pretty sarcastic about this, aren't I? Yes, I wasn't comfortable with my thin body. I was self concious, not sure how to stand or walk without constantly thinking about it. I was 21 at the time. I'm 42 now and although I'm still not comfortable with how I'll be in a thinner body, I don't think I'll have it so strongly at the forefront of my mind as I did then. I told my therapist that I don't know how to be thin. I think that really threw him! Ha, ha, ha. I guess we will all see how we do. And with God's grace, we'll all be there together teaching each other how to be thin! Kristi :o) <><
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Mon, 06-13-2005 - 1:27am

I would love to be there with you.

 

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Sun, 06-19-2005 - 1:14am
That is such a good point. How do we quit feeling fat inside? I know how I feel physically, I feel like I'm wrapped in a sleeping bag. But what do I do with the fat thinking on the inside? Kristi :o) <><