life has gone downhill and the weight up

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Registered: 07-19-2004
life has gone downhill and the weight up
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Fri, 06-17-2005 - 9:46pm
Ladies, I used to be a regular on the board and enjoyed the participation. I was losing, exercising and feeling good about myself. Well, I did not stumble I fell head first. I got overwhelmed on my job started working late and not getting enough sleep. Could not exercise because I left work so late and soooooooooooooo tired. Stopped taking my lunch to work. And yes I stared by buying candy and alas donuts. Ladies, I hit rock bottom. I am trying to get me back up because right now I am not real happy still. I am going back to exercise Monday. My house is in shambles. I am trying to gear myself up to where I was when I was really going strong. Any words? thoughts? helpful hints? harsh words?
Ladies I have got to get to back to the place I was really doing it. Where I am now.. I am frustrated, unhappy and feeling like a low down failure with no hope!
Pookie627
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Registered: 08-31-2004
Fri, 06-17-2005 - 9:48pm
Im really sorry Pookie.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sat, 06-18-2005 - 3:30pm
Don't worry, we got your back. You and I are two peas in a pod. I am always overwhelmed at work (nurse and site manager for adult day care), eat junk for comfort and am overwhelmed by all to do in my house. I have been in therapy for a few years and one of the many things I've learned is to not look at the whole picture but at one thing at a time. It's so much more manageable. Here's a site to help you with your house: flylady.com - wonderful site just for us, to help us keep the house up in a manageable way without feeling overwhelmed. I lost 15 pounds right away by not eating in the car. Also, I don't bring it home. I have an addiction to ice right now and am enjoying it tremendously. Yes, it is a hand-to-mouth thing but quite honestly, my job is so high stress at this time that I didn't mind a little non-caloric comfort. I love my exercise and I think that's what's kept me from having a stroke from the stress. I go to Curves and when I can't get there I ride my stationary bike. Getting those endorphins going is better than a cupcake (although it doesn't seem so at the time when you're making the decision!). We're here for you! Kristi :o) <><
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Sat, 06-18-2005 - 3:44pm
Thank you.
Reality I have got to get a life!!!! I stay at home and rarely go out. I go to work and work late then home. I learned this behavior when I was married. I did not want to accidently run into my ex with his latest gf. I divorced him but the hiding has took hold. I have got to get out I know it. I am embarrassed by the way I look........ need to take care of that.........I just have a full plate and I am going to nibble on it until I get the weight off and stop being afraid to live. I think I also hid behind my weight......... why wouldn't my ex run around look at his wife. Got to change many things. Got to be strong and learn how..............
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 06-19-2005 - 1:00am
What bothers you most, the way you look or what your ex is doing? Separate the two. He has nothing to do with you eating and you have nothing to do with his running around. He's an ex, cut your emotional ties and get to living. If you hate the way you look, work on the things that you can change immediately: hair, nails, makeup, clothes, perfume, etc. These are a great pick-me-up while working on the weight. It's true! :o) Kristi <><
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Sun, 06-19-2005 - 11:12am
The way I look! My ex??????????????? we get along great now. I have a peace I did not have while married to him and he sees it. Our son lives with me so he comes by and visits. My birthday is June 27 and I am going to buy myself a future gift.......... a reward gift and a birthday gift. I love cologne! I am trying to decide what my future gift is. I can not open or use it until I reach a designated weight. A sort of reward in advance. I am thinking about a buying myself a piece of jewelry for my birthday..... I love bracelets and silver jewlery. I am setting up a personal reward system for my weight loss in 10 pound increments nothing big but things I enjoy........ I love mysteries I will buy one from my favorite author......... My problem is the way I look at least to me and how I feel.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 06-19-2005 - 12:06pm
I don't mean to sound stupid but I guess I'm not understanding what you would like support for. You are upset with how you look, I think I've got that right, but I guess I misunderstood the role your ex has in your life. I thought you were upset with what he is doing or how you look to him. I apologize for any misunderstanding I've had. I'm so glad you have plans to get yourself something pretty. What else are you doing for yourself to make you feel good today about how you look? That was my main point. We have this ultimate goal and it will take us awhile to get there, so in order to not be discouraged or disgusted with ourselves, what can we do today to make us feel better about our body's appearance? And do it for no one but our selves? That's what I work on for me. It may not be for everyone. Again, I'm sorry for my misunderstanding and wish you all the best in your efforts and a very happy birthday for you. :o) Kristi <><
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Registered: 07-19-2004
Sun, 06-19-2005 - 3:52pm
Hey!!!
No problem he was the main problem for the weight gain during our 23 years of marriage. After I divorced him he still had a form of control over me. I can talk to him laugh with him and even loan him money. He had control over me and my life during our marriage and for about two years after our divorce. I allowed him to have that power. We are co-parents. I plan on going to Curves tommorrow. Life is good. I know it will be a long road but I have decided to do it positively........ little gifts for each point I feel is important. For instance a five pound weight drop.........go to library and check out a mystery. Just things I enjoy and will reward myself with my favorite things. Low expense.
A way of being motivated to reward yourself .......for taking care of yourself. A win win situation.
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Registered: 12-10-2004
Sun, 06-19-2005 - 4:22pm
I love the way you look at that. I agree, we need to take care of ourselves too! Kristi :o) <><