When spouse picks on weight often....

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Registered: 05-25-2005
When spouse picks on weight often....
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Fri, 07-08-2005 - 4:47pm

Do any of you have a spouse who seems to take digs on your weight frequently? Let me give examples that have happened recently:

1. Made a bowl of soup and a sandwich for myself and finished both. Husband came into room, gasped and said, "You ate ALL of that food??"

2. Am currently getting over a bad allergic reaction that I need to take prednisone for. When I told my husband that there's a risk of diabetes with prednisone, he grumbled, "You're probably borderline now as it is".

3. Today, when I talked to him at work, he asked how I was doing on the prednisone, and his final comment before getting off the phone was, "Watch the food", because he knows prednisone can cause an increase in appetite.

4. Husband needed something from upstairs and asked me to get it for him. I told him I was comfortable watching TV and didn't want to go do it. His response, "You need the exercise anyway".

Sure, I know he married a bride of 180lbs (5'4") 15 years ago, and I now weigh 300lbs, but I am NOT a bad person!! I have a LOT of great gifts and qualities, and I feel like he just can't see past my weight. It's not like I nothing all day. I am a teacher, I do "Mom's carpool" 5 days out of every week, I do work for him for his business, I do all the outside yard work as well as all the car and house maintenance. I do all the house paperwork and bills. I care for our aging parents. I am a very very active person. He often says that he'd hate to lose me because he couldn't do all that I do each day....so why is he driving me away with these little digs??

Am I the only one who is dealing with this?

Thanks for reading.

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Sun, 07-17-2005 - 7:52pm
Good luck to you taylorblue. This is not an easy journey but you are amoung us who are all trying to do the same thing. Sounds like you have made up your mind and I wish you well. :-) Stephanie 280/252/223 for now
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Registered: 05-23-2003
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 9:54pm

Taylorblue,


What an amazing post!

    
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Registered: 06-29-2005
Sun, 07-17-2005 - 10:26pm
YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am doing happy dances all over the place!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm so proud of you I could burst. You went about this in the most wonderful way. Oh my gosh, I hardly know what to do with myself. Congratulations, in the biggest, deepest, most sincere way!!!!!!!!!!! Girlfriend, you inspire me, you truly, truly do!!!!!!!!! Kristi :o) <><
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Registered: 08-06-2004
Mon, 07-18-2005 - 8:39am
Taylorblue- That's Great!
You make me want to get up from my desk and go exercise right now!!
I am really glad that you were strong with your husband and you said what you said to him.
I know exactly what you meant when you told him that you wouldn't let it hurt you but that it would damage your love for him.
I've been tough on myself lately- trying to make sense of a similar situation but I don't think I've been tough the right way- Now getting up and exercising and blocking out the world- that's tough the right way and I think I'll join you.
Thanks for sharing this.
Miss
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Registered: 08-31-2004
Mon, 07-18-2005 - 12:16pm
Woohoo!

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