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| Sun, 08-07-2005 - 9:00pm |
Hi, This is the first time I've actually visited this group. I guess I'm looking for some support. I have actually lost 160 lbs due to gastric bypass 2 years ago. I am 25 now. I would definitly do it all over again if I had too, but there have been some snags in the road. Has anyone else lost a substantial amount of weight and still have self-esteem issues? I guess since I've been obese all my life I really don't know how to be different. I still have 80 more lbs to lose to reach my goal, but having the worst time. I'm afraid if I don't get control of myself I'm going to gain all my weight back. I spend more time afraid of gaining weight than I do enjoying the fact that I've lost 160 lbs. Also I can't get myself motivated to go to the gym, or exercise and I know that is so important in long term weight management. Help please, I need a jump start back in the right direction.
Becky

Welcome to the board Becky!
Thanks for the welcome. I am actually seeing a therapist. I have been going for a couple months now. I think it's helping some. When I first started losing weight it felt great to have people notice, but now I just wish people would let it go. It doesn't seem like I can go one day w/o my weight/weightloss being a conversation piece. I would like to be able to forget sometimes my life before I had surgery and it seems like nobody will let it go. Maybe I'm just being stupid, but I would like to be identified by something other than my weight.
Becky
I'm glad to hear that.
Hi there, I read your post and immediately thought of this: People know that usually persons who are losing weight love to hear that it is noticable to encourage them on their pursuit. I know for me initially this is a big help! But, I can imagine (never lost a significant amount of weight myself) that this could be discouraging as you said you are the girl who has lost the weight.
As mentioned before and it sounds like you have tried to tell them not to bring the subject up....as an alternative I would share with them as the "weight loss" has been in the spotlight, that you have other goals....and other things going on in your life. Maybe then they will get the hint, and start discussing those things. Hope this helped a little.
Have a good day.