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Support from friends/families
| Fri, 09-23-2005 - 11:49pm |
How many of you feel that you are really getting support from the significant people in your life, and how much does that help you? I shouldn't complain, really - my DH has NEVER criticized my weight or made me feel bad in ANY way, but I know he is worried about my health, and supportive of my efforts. For the first couple of weeks, he was a HUGE help - a one man fan club. Then the enthusiasm started to fade, and now I can tell that any reference to my diet bores the hell out of him (gee - with 175 pounds to lose, I hope he realizes this is going to be uppermost in my mind for a LITTLE while yet!). I do admit that I miss the praise and verbal pats-on-the-back. He started off really strong, eating my healthy foods and going for walks - but now that he knows I'm rock-solid and will walk and eat properly with or without him, he's gone back to his own junk food on the couch habits. I'm a little disappointed - and even a little worried about him! Although he isn't overweight, he DOES have high blood pressure, and seems low-energy lately. Bottom line, I guess we can't "count" on the support of family or friends, because we need to be able to do this for ourselves, but it IS nice to have!

My dh is supportive as long as it doesnt inconvience him, ha ha, or that is the way it seems anyway. He doesnt bring home junk food so i am glad for that but he gets bord with my dieting trivia facts and diet talk. But i hate it for him.
Now i can TOTALLY relate to someone in your family trying to sabatage you. I dont know why they have that lack of respect for what you're doing but i have it in my family too. My grandmother is the WORST. She is from the day when, "if you were thin you were ill, if you were fat you are healthy"...so when i start looking like i am losing weight, she starts bringing in the temptations. She lives with us so it makes it hard sometimes. Just last week she came into the den and asked me to make her some cinamin (sp?) rolls...ARE YOU KIDDING ME...is it not bad enough that she even put the thought of cinnamon rolls in my head but now she wants me to MAKE her some, so i have to look at them, smell them, and touch them while they are piping hot at, get this, 10 PM....are you KIDDING ME? So i told her no, i am sorry, i will make them for you friday when i can have one (i splurlge on fridays) but i am not strong enough to make you a bunch of cinamon rolls and not eat them, so if you want them you will have to wait or make them yourself. Now i know this sounds rude but i thought it was rude of her to ask me to do such a thing when i had just told her i was hungry but was trying to be strong and not snack.
Sorry to go off on a tangent like that but boy it is sure good to vent.
Stacy
Does your grandmother also tie food in with love? Mine would pour her heart into cooking, so if you didn't eat it, her feelings were a little hurt. It's hard when she gives you food, isn't it?
My brother is a health buff because I got him into it years ago. Now, he's excited I'm back on the wagon. I think it's been six weeks now and he's still getting excited when I say I lost some weight. I think he's happy because it's something we can bond over again like we first did a while ago. He's never liked fast food, sugar, or oily stuff, so hanging out with him is soooo easy. He'll say things like "Aw man, that pizza is, like, an hour at the gym! F#*& that!" My mom seems a little left out. She always talks about going to Curves with me, but she works 24/7, so I don't know how she'll do it.
And, there you go.
My husband is super supportive. He cheers any weight loss, is aware of my eating plans, and usually comments when he sees me straying (darn him for that! LOL). But he usually eats fast food, asks me for burgers and sausages sandwiches at the middle of the night and is clear that he is not on any diet. I normally don't mind if he's eating such food, but he sometimes would insist that I take a bite. That's a killer for me. If I take one bite, I'd finish off the plate. He doesn't get this.
My father is supportive in a way. He doesn't ask me about my diet or anything, but I noticed that he makes sure there are healthy choices on the table when I eat at their place. But would never talk about it.
Mary
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>>>But he usually eats fast food, asks me for burgers and sausages sandwiches at the middle of the night and is clear that he is not on any diet.
Yup, same here.
I have a pretty good support system. Me and hubby are loosing together so we celebrate our better help. Hes now 400# and I'm 335#. We want to be here to see our babies grow old and if we dont do something now we wont be. I also have a great mom who is giving me her treadmill so I have a way to exercise even with 3 babies still at home all day. She asks me my progress everytime I see her. She also doesnt take me places where I will feel I need to eat something I shouldnt. When I am at her house she makes sure there is no sweets (cakes or donuts) lying around. Shes great. We had a party for my daughters birthday there on sat. she turned 4 on friday and my mom kept all the leftover cake(not that my dad needs it)(grin). She also wouldnt let me have more than one small piece. So I guess I'm lucky. Oh and dont forget my private cheering section!! My kids are great they get so happy for me when I lose even 1 pound. Just yesterday my oldest said I was more fun now that I was playing more with them again. I cryed it was so great. :-)
Theresa