Do you feel sexy?

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Registered: 07-01-2003
Do you feel sexy?
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Tue, 09-27-2005 - 4:40am

OK.. things have been a little slow in here lately, so I thought I might stir things up a little..

I know it's a pretty sensitive issue to talk about, but I also know it does pass our mind once in a while. I've seen hints about how we think of our sexuality in posts here and there, but we haven't really talked about it.

So? Shall we start a discussion?
Do you think your weight affects your sex life?

Mary
247/222/165

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Registered: 07-28-2005
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 9:39am
lol...try mirrors on the ceiling !!!
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Wed, 09-28-2005 - 1:06pm

It definitely affects my sex life. Between me weighing 335 and my hubby weighing 400 it gets a bit hard to maneuver. He has to constantly also deal with my insecurities concerning how I look compared to other women. I guess it doesn't help that he has that really cute Texas accent when he talks which really makes the northern women interested. As big as he is they hit on him all the time even in front of me!! He is oblivious and doesn't see it though. FIGURES!! Thank god he is so very committed to us. I still feel insecure though. I try to totally avoid mirrors but there is one on the bathroom door so while u r going to the bathroom you have no choice but to look. :-( UGH!!

Theresa




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Thu, 09-29-2005 - 7:27am

LOOOOOONG post ahead. You've been warned.

Hey tosha.. I laughed so hard at the: "if you got virgin/conservative eyes please scroll over" well, you'll have to be far more explicit than this to get me offended..

anyways.. we're not scared to have a new baby. I even don't use protection so that when we decide to have another baby we don't have to wait to get something removed, etc. We can afford another baby (or 2 or 3 or 10 as my husband would say). *Afford* here means both emotionally & financially.

What I meant is that we can't do it that often since Mark is always around (he's 1.5 years old now). We have to send him to my mom (5 minutes away) or wait for him to sleep. Most of our sex used to be impulsive. Now it feels like scheduled sex. But we'll have to deal with that. We're not going to live alone here anytime soon LOL.

And about discussing sex, that's not a problem at all. My husband and I are very good friends. (We were lovers since I was 18, but not living together until we got married). We can talk about ANYTHING. And I get a reaction from him very easily. Some shoulder rubbing and a hug will make him take his pants off LOL. The thing is, it is ME who has to start. and it is ME who has to convince herself that she is sexy and desired so that I can start.

Is this making any sense? Am I putting too much blame on me? Or do I really have issues to overcome? I have some thinking to do

Mary
247/220/165

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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 5:16am

Ok, who started the rumor about me and shopping?

 
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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 6:51am
Get used to it now Rely. LOL, I always had more of a sex drive than my husband. I know he likes it, just isn't a priority with him. We are still together after 22 years and he ain't going nowhere!! It does make you feel bad tho when you are the one to always be the aggresser. Back to the question at hand. I do feel sexy but the lights have to be out. Even now at my weight I get a lot of attention from men. Must just be something in the air. Stephanie
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Registered: 07-28-2005
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 11:39am

pleeeeeeeease your not nuts i promise !!! LOL

i think i am sometimes but thats my problem anyhow I have those day where i just feel like a blob and dont want to do anything but i think doctor phill calls it "right thinking" i just have to reeeeeeeeee program my mind in my head and say to myself "darn, i look good today... i did a great job pluckin my brows....oh look i can see my neck thingy today i must be loosin... look theres my collar bone"

hope this helps lol
tosha

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Registered: 07-28-2005
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 11:48am

it was me, I THINK sorry lol

anyhow, that is how josh was for the loonnnnnnnnnnngest time. I'd be like "dont you know you are blessed to have a woman that wants to have sex as much as i do???" LOL

finally through talkin and junk lol i found out hissss problem was first that we "argued" too much for him to feel like he could make a move and seccond he was afraid of us getting pregnant again.... sooooo long story short...talk to dbf lol he may have issues like josh did...im sexy so you all GOT to be !!! bol

hope it helps

tosh

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Fri, 09-30-2005 - 1:04pm
You guys are a bunch of horndoggers!
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Registered: 09-16-2005
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 4:01pm

FAINT OF HEART BEST NOT READ THIS..... :-O

Same here... I want it ALL the time!! My man tries to keep up but he fails so badly. He works 12 hrs a day and with the 40 minute commute to and 40 minutes home he is tired!! But on his days off its a new ballgame. He has alot of his own insecurities though(thanks to his ex). But those insecurities actually make it GREAT for me!! He will go three times easily in an hour which he attributes to ME!! He tells me all the time how sexy I am. And when we watch x rated DVDs (bad me HeHe) those women dont do what I can do for him he says and trust me he is NOT lying. I believe in his eyes I am the world. I make him excited which makes me feel oh sooooo sexy. He enjoys watching them but he wont get excited till I am involved. I feel like a godess with him. Which I didnt feel with any of the other men I have been with EVER. I guess that makes me lucky!!

Theresa<~~~~~ definately a horndog!!




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Registered: 08-03-2005
Sat, 10-01-2005 - 2:30am

Yes I do think it affects my sex life. I haven't read any of the other posts yet -- so I hope I'm not going into too much detail.

It does limit my stamina and the positions we can do. We had a VERY good sex life when we first got together!!! : )

We still enjoy a full and enjoyable sex life. I mean -- we have 4 kids -- so for having children in the house at all times its good.

Don't get me wrong -- I have issues with my weight. My SO has issues with my weight.
I don't feel sexy when I look at myself naked in the mirror!!!
I do feel sexy when I'm snuggling with my man -- or other stuff. : )

We find ways around the weight though. We were jokin' last night about how I have a "succubus" hiding in me that comes out in the middle of the night. Its really a pregnant thing I'm sure. Twice now I have woke up in the middle of the night and just been .. well I'm crazy and adventurous.. but I've been CRAZY and not really myself. The best part is the first night I thought it was a dream when I first woke up. I couldn't remember everything. I thought he was full of crap when he told me I had started it. Ok, that was a fluke.
Then the other night I remember starting it. WOW! I was INSANE. So I guess being pregnant really HELPS my sex life! Ha ha !

To anyone who reads this and has a lot of issues with their sex life. As long as your partner still wants it, and enjoys it.. GO FOR IT GIRL and ROCK HIS WORLD!!
(If he doesn't want it -- well that is another discussion)

BIG BEAUTIFUL BABES CAN RULE THE WORLD!!!!!!

Being sexy is not all about looks -- there are tons of women I know who we would want to look like who are uncomfortable about themselves.

Sexy is FEELING SEXY & BEING SEXY! You are what you believe you are! Its not all looks.