I think I rate this up there with a part of my personal life that no one needs to know about unless I feel like indulging...kwim? For myself at least,I'm thinking I'd be alot crankier if people knew I was trying to lose weight and it wasn't happening...or at least happening at the pace they think it should.
I like having some things to myself,and my weightloss is definately one of them.Not only that,but I like when people notice and are surprised about it much better then them knowing and being like,"Oh,I see the diet is working".
I am with you on that. I dont want everyone in the whole wide world knowing my goal, but not because I am ashamed or insecure but because I dont trust most people. A lot and i mean a lot of ppl in my life have let me down and tried to keep tosha down you know what i mean? like i posted before, especially "friends" when i would be like does this outfit look good (and i knew in my self that it totally did) they would say "no it draws attention to you stomach" or when i would ask "does this make me look bigger than i am" they'd be like "oh no, it looks good" and i knew the outfit didnt fit me but they just said it so that i wouldnt look going going out with them ,does this make sence at all to anyone... its the sabatoge thing all the time with me...i dont know why and its only some ppl usuall the skinny ppl with no kinda personality at all. lol... not everyone does it i know i can get the truth with dh and my mom and a few true friends too but no I dont want certain people in my life to know my journy because then it becomes a competition and they end up loosing and it makes me feel like crap.....they can go on and loose weight if that will make them happy but i dont want them knowing that i am ...
gosta go the kids are being tooooooooo quiet for their own good
I dont mind people knowing. It is nice to hear comments like "Looks like you have lost some" and "Good job, I know you can do it" Everyone around me knows. Everybody who works with my hubby knows. I am not ashamed and I will not let the few rude people make me feel ashamed. I am doing this so I can be healthy and those few unconsiderate people can kiss off!! I went to a wedding a few weeks ago where the other women from my hubbys plant snubbed me. It was for a friend of my hubbys at work... nice people. None the less out of the 10 other women from his job only one socialized with me and she was a sweetheart. I guess they figured why bother it was just easier to talk (rather loudly) about us. I just ignored it and went on. No need to get pissed off at their ignorance maybe they cant help it!! :-O HeHeHe. I am proud to tell everyone and trust me I do everytime I lose even a pound. Its good for my soul.
Theresa
With the ever growing population, the amount of thrown away goods increases daily. Why not give that unwanted item to someone who may be able to use it? We've all got things lying around we just don't use. That's where Freecycle comes in.
Did you all ever see that commercial that has this guy walking around telling complete strangers "hey, my cholesterol is down'? Well that is how i always thought that i was about my losing weight but now that you mention it, i only tell a select few, probably less than 5 people but i tell them SO much about my progress and pitfalls they probably wish i was telling everybody else, ha ha. But over all, just my bestf, sister, and mom....and they are all fat too, so they are very encouraging. Stacy
WOW! Well -- as you will learn over time -- I will talk about ANYTHING. I don't really have secrets because .. whatever ...I don't care who knows. I figure, I'm fat -- its obvious -- I mean who can really be "happy" with looking like this????? Or not being able to walk 6 blocks without stopping to breath 8 times... ???? Ya know?
Everyone around me talks about weight loss, we work in an enviorment where weight gain is common -- so naturally weight loss and potlucks are hot topics/events!!!
The ONLY person I have issues talking about my weight with is my Father. I love and respect my Father. I am also some what annoyed by him sometimes! He loves me and worries about me -- but hey Dad, you can't drop 100lbs all that easy. I mean - he wants me to lose it healthy -- but he wants me at the gym EVERY DAY. Pretty much like him. He has never been "fat" but he has been what he considers overweight. Well I think he might have acheived being fat once when he was in the military on a long leave in Germany -- the other guys were getting laid, my Father and his buddy were eating. My Father doesn't drink so it was just EATING! : )
My Father is diabetic like me and he has his diabetes so under control he confuses his Dr. He is .. over 55 and has smoked since he was like 13 and all the test say he has better lung capacity than the average 18yr old male. Yeah !! So he isn't easy to compete or compare with. He knows my potential which makes it harder. I use to be an athletic person, not the most cordinated person, but I loved to run and I was in shape. Even back when I was in "shape" I think he wanted me to be more. I don't blame him -- I have good children and I still want them to try harder and acheive the highest possible.
Due to this -- I can NOT talk to him about weight. I actually lied once and told him "the last time you saw me I weighed 340, now I'm only 290". 290 is actually my heighest weight. I just felt like I wanted him to "see" some improvment. Ok -- so I do carry weight well anyways -- but not THAT well! ha ha! I don't think he really believed me -- but it shut him up so whatever. He probably figured "if she is willing to say she weighed more, it must really bother her".
LOL Shawna, nobody sees my fridge. I close the kitchen door when I have company. (that's because I think the house looks better with the kitchen and bathrooms closed)
Are you open about your weight loss? Yes and no
Yes to a lot of people, but not to the whole world. At the beginning of the journey, nobody knew because I didn't need the added pressure, but now I am proud that I'm losing the weight. This is my life and if weight loss is a concern of mine, then nobody should judge that.
But I might be hosting my SIL's engagement party at my house next month. And the list is definitely going off the fridge.
Even though I'm working on growing my belly, not losing it right now, I've always been very open about my attempts, but not overtly so. I will readily talk about it to almost anyone, but I rarely bring it up. If people comment on my weight loss or food choices, then I'm more than happy to share anything with them (except my current and goal weights). I don't usually keep my inspirational stories or nutrition guides out for public view, mostly because some people react negatively to the need of having a nutrition guide for a fast food place. They think "if you're going to eat something bad, why does the nutrition info matter cause you know it's bad for you". After getting that response a couple times and trying to explain what they do for me, I keep those things to myself.
It's very personal, though, and a lot of people aren't comfortable sharing.
I think I rate this up there with a part of my personal life that no one needs to know about unless I feel like indulging...kwim? For myself at least,I'm thinking I'd be alot crankier if people knew I was trying to lose weight and it wasn't happening...or at least happening at the pace they think it should.
I like having some things to myself,and my weightloss is definately one of them.Not only that,but I like when people notice and are surprised about it much better then them knowing and being like,"Oh,I see the diet is working".
Bren
I am with you on that. I dont want everyone in the whole wide world knowing my goal, but not because I am ashamed or insecure but because I dont trust most people. A lot and i mean a lot of ppl in my life have let me down and tried to keep tosha down you know what i mean? like i posted before, especially "friends" when i would be like does this outfit look good (and i knew in my self that it totally did) they would say "no it draws attention to you stomach" or when i would ask "does this make me look bigger than i am" they'd be like "oh no, it looks good" and i knew the outfit didnt fit me but they just said it so that i wouldnt look going going out with them ,does this make sence at all to anyone... its the sabatoge thing all the time with me...i dont know why and its only some ppl usuall the skinny ppl with no kinda personality at all. lol... not everyone does it i know i can get the truth with dh and my mom and a few true friends too but no I dont want certain people in my life to know my journy because then it becomes a competition and they end up loosing and it makes me feel like crap.....they can go on and loose weight if that will make them happy but i dont want them knowing that i am ...
gosta go the kids are being tooooooooo quiet for their own good
tosha
I dont mind people knowing. It is nice to hear comments like "Looks like you have lost some" and "Good job, I know you can do it" Everyone around me knows. Everybody who works with my hubby knows. I am not ashamed and I will not let the few rude people make me feel ashamed. I am doing this so I can be healthy and those few unconsiderate people can kiss off!! I went to a wedding a few weeks ago where the other women from my hubbys plant snubbed me. It was for a friend of my hubbys at work... nice people. None the less out of the 10 other women from his job only one socialized with me and she was a sweetheart. I guess they figured why bother it was just easier to talk (rather loudly) about us. I just ignored it and went on. No need to get pissed off at their ignorance maybe they cant help it!! :-O HeHeHe. I am proud to tell everyone and trust me I do everytime I lose even a pound. Its good for my soul.
Theresa
With the ever growing population, the amount of thrown away goods increases daily. Why not give that unwanted item to someone who may be able to use it? We've all got things lying around we just don't use. That's where Freecycle comes in.
Stacy
WOW! Well -- as you will learn over time -- I will talk about ANYTHING. I don't really have secrets because .. whatever ...I don't care who knows. I figure, I'm fat -- its obvious -- I mean who can really be "happy" with looking like this????? Or not being able to walk 6 blocks without stopping to breath 8 times... ???? Ya know?
Everyone around me talks about weight loss, we work in an enviorment where weight gain is common -- so naturally weight loss and potlucks are hot topics/events!!!
The ONLY person I have issues talking about my weight with is my Father. I love and respect my Father. I am also some what annoyed by him sometimes! He loves me and worries about me -- but hey Dad, you can't drop 100lbs all that easy. I mean - he wants me to lose it healthy -- but he wants me at the gym EVERY DAY. Pretty much like him. He has never been "fat" but he has been what he considers overweight. Well I think he might have acheived being fat once when he was in the military on a long leave in Germany -- the other guys were getting laid, my Father and his buddy were eating. My Father doesn't drink so it was just EATING! : )
My Father is diabetic like me and he has his diabetes so under control he confuses his Dr. He is .. over 55 and has smoked since he was like 13 and all the test say he has better lung capacity than the average 18yr old male. Yeah !! So he isn't easy to compete or compare with. He knows my potential which makes it harder. I use to be an athletic person, not the most cordinated person, but I loved to run and I was in shape. Even back when I was in "shape" I think he wanted me to be more. I don't blame him -- I have good children and I still want them to try harder and acheive the highest possible.
Due to this -- I can NOT talk to him about weight. I actually lied once and told him "the last time you saw me I weighed 340, now I'm only 290". 290 is actually my heighest weight. I just felt like I wanted him to "see" some improvment. Ok -- so I do carry weight well anyways -- but not THAT well! ha ha! I don't think he really believed me -- but it shut him up so whatever. He probably figured "if she is willing to say she weighed more, it must really bother her".
LOL Shawna, nobody sees my fridge. I close the kitchen door when I have company. (that's because I think the house looks better with the kitchen and bathrooms closed)
Are you open about your weight loss?
Yes and no
Yes to a lot of people, but not to the whole world. At the beginning of the journey, nobody knew because I didn't need the added pressure, but now I am proud that I'm losing the weight. This is my life and if weight loss is a concern of mine, then nobody should judge that.
But I might be hosting my SIL's engagement party at my house next month. And the list is definitely going off the fridge.
Mary
247/220/165
Even though I'm working on growing my belly, not losing it right now, I've always been very open about my attempts, but not overtly so. I will readily talk about it to almost anyone, but I rarely bring it up. If people comment on my weight loss or food choices, then I'm more than happy to share anything with them (except my current and goal weights). I don't usually keep my inspirational stories or nutrition guides out for public view, mostly because some people react negatively to the need of having a nutrition guide for a fast food place. They think "if you're going to eat something bad, why does the nutrition info matter cause you know it's bad for you". After getting that response a couple times and trying to explain what they do for me, I keep those things to myself.
It's very personal, though, and a lot of people aren't comfortable sharing.
Staci