new here and need lots of support.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
new here and need lots of support.
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Wed, 10-26-2005 - 12:07am

My name is Melissa and I'm married(9years) with two wonderful kids Mackenzie 3.6 years and Brad 2. I have been trying off and on to lose weight for the last 8 years but not seriously till this past march. i truly didnt see myself as fat???? now i'm so grossed out by me. i'm more mad at myself for just not losing the weight. it should be easy right??? I JUST CANT STOP EATING! BUT WHY.......... i love food. how do you stop that?

i weigh 276 and would like to weigh 150 maybe 130 but 150 would make be happy. i really want to get healthy. i want to see my kids get married. i'm just so mad at myself for not having already lost the weight i have wasted 8 years of my life being fat. i dont want to waste anymore. i dont want my kids being made fun of for having a fat mommy. my daughter starts preschool next august and i dont want the kids making fun of her.

we wend to mcdonalds the other day to eat lunch and play on the playground and some jerk yelled "fat butt" (except he wasnt so polite) i was so mortified that he would do that in front of my kids.

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guess i just needed to vent.

where do i start. since march i have been trying to count calories and exercise but with two small kids it really makes finding time to exercise hard. plus i'm not doing good at counting calories....

sorry to vent so much.
Thanks for reading
Melissa

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Registered: 10-16-2005
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 4:15am
Man! With two children under the age of 4, I would think running around after them would be all the excercise one woman could handle. I spent only a few days last year with my sister and her four small kids, and while they are generally well-behaved, they are definitely energetic! I don't know how she does it full-time. As for being mad at yourself for not losing weight sooner, try not to be so hard on yourself. You came to the right place for support. These girls in here are super nice. As cliche as this is going to sound, "today is the first day of the rest of your life". Try cutting back on calories by finding alternatives to things you already love, and go from there. For example, switching from 2% milk to 1% or fat-free. Switching from butter to margarine. Reach for diet soda or water instead of regular soda. It all adds up quick, you'll see. You're on the right track girl, just hang in there. As for the jerk at McDonald's, there's rotten people everywhere you go in this world, unfortunately. If you were skinny, people like that will just find something else to pick on. It sounds to me like your children have a strong mommy who will teach them how to treat others with respect. Good luck to you. Hope to see you on the boards again soon.
Katherine (375/362.8/145)
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Registered: 07-01-2003
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 5:53am

Welcome to the board! I have a 1.5 years old boy and I am facing your lack of time to exercise problem. But guess what? I already lost close to 30 pounds without excercise. It is starting to get slow now and I do need to fit in excercise, but at the beginning, I only lost with dieting alone.

Try journaling what you eat(I know I sound like a broken record). You may be surprised on how much or less you eat. Also you can try spacing out the food along the day. Eat small frequent meals & snacks instead of the traditional 3 big meals. It will help with the hunger. Make sure there are "mommy snacks" available so that when you need to crunch, you have something healthy to eat. And the best advice of all: post often and benefit from the advice and support of the ladies here.

Mary
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Registered: 10-09-2004
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 1:38pm

I agree....the skinny girls at work eat 24/7....but they eat stuff like carrots, a wee bit of cheese on a few crackers...one is doing low carb, low fat; the other is doing portion control and watching what she eats.

But eating small meals does works for some. I am gonna try eating small meals all day to keep my matablism working 24/7. I don't have a problem with keeping my tummy feeling full. I just know that when it starts to hurt that means I have to eat. So this will help.
Also I have to decide between WW or Low Carb Low Fat. hmmmm

You may wonder how I got fat? I love food...and have a sit down job and I don't exercise...so here I am at 313.0 -- one pound over what I started at last year. This will be my 4th DO OVER. I refuse to quit.

SussieQ
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Registered: 07-01-2003
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 4:40am

>>>>>> You may wonder how I got fat? I love food...and have a sit down job and I don't exercise

Hey that's my story too. And this is my second do-over, although last time my highest weight was at 210.

Mary
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Registered: 11-04-2003
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 6:58pm
Welcome to the boards Melissa!
 
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Registered: 10-25-2005
Sun, 10-30-2005 - 12:55pm

That's the stuff!!!

Don't EVER give up!!!

Deb

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Tue, 11-01-2005 - 8:52pm

Hey Melissa,

You've come to the right place. Everyone here is full of words of encouragement and motivation. All the ladies have such wonderful ideas and tips to make the weight loss journey a little less daunting. Hang in there. Don't be so tough on yourself. Personally, I can remember the very instant I finally realized..."Holy CRAP, Dianne! You're FAT!" I never thought I would forgive myself for letting my body go. But the truth is, in order to become that healthy person I know lives deep down under all this girth, I have to stop feeling angry and sad, and start kicking my booty into high gear. I look at it now as a means of survival. I can’t spend all of my energy on those terrible feelings of doubt and insecurity, because I don't want to be the next person in my family to die under the age of 40 from a massive stroke or heart attack. For me, I just had to find that one thing that makes NOT losing the weight, unthinkable. It sounds like for you, it’s saving your children from the hurtful words of classmates and seeing them get married. Everyday is a challenge. Keep your chin up. We’re all here for the same reason. We know what you’re going through. I hope you find as much comfort and compassion here as I have.

Take Care,
Dianne
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P.S. That *&@%$# at McDonalds needs a quick, stiff kick in the ribs!

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Registered: 10-30-2001
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 12:41pm
Wow, Melissa you and I are alot alike. I just came on here today just to see if I could get re-motivated to loose weight. I also have 2 kids. I just got married on Saturday and I saw the pictures and I had no idea I was so heavy. I am serious, I really had no clue. Others said I looked stunning and all I see is a girl who looked alot like the old Anna Nickole Smith lol. I weigh about the same as you. After baby 2 it seems I just can't loose weight! I don't know why. The baby is 4 mo. old and I just feel like I have no motivation and also it is harder. When you have a family it is alot harder. I don't want my kids to be imbarassed of me either. *sigh*. Well, maybe we can do this together...or atleast get motivated. I am not on a diet yet till I am good and ready. Hopefully this place will help us by giving us a sense of "we are not alone" type thing. Well, hope to tt ya later on here!