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| Thu, 11-10-2005 - 1:12am |
Okay, so I started my real diet the other day. Today I weighed and saw that I've lost 4 pounds (water) and I was so happy. I emailed my sister right away, cause I was so happy. (She has always been skinny and tall, and basically model like, but she thinks she's fat and is always trying to lose more.) And she emails me back saying that she's jealous, and not to take everything from her. I know my sister loves me, but what do you do when your family tries to make you feel bad for helping yourself? What can you say to them to help them understand? I don't want to be the FAT one anymore, making everyone else look good by comparison. I really am upset. I'm so glad there's no ice cream here, cause I'd be eating out of the carton right now.
Okay, thanks for letting me vent here and not in the ice cream.:-)

Congrats on the weight loss.
Gee whiz, i cant imagine my sister saying something like that. To be honest, i think i would ask her how she can be so selfish and self-centered. That is amazing, although unfortunately pretty common. I think oprah has even had shows about how unsupportive family and friends can be when you lose weight. I would ask her out for coffee or have her over and discuss with her how hurtful that statement was and explain to her how rude it is of her to basically tell you that it is worth it for you to die young due to diseases like heart disease, diabetes, etc, all because she wants to be the "better looking one". Surely she hasnt thought of it that way. But she needs to realize...it is not just skin deep...it is a real health risk to be overweight like we are. She should love having you around more than she loves being "the skinny one".
Shame on her and praise to you for not binging because of her.
stacy
Katherine
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Since you've gotten a lot of mature responses, here's an immature one:
If that's what your sister meant, then to hell with your sister. Email the woman back and say "Yeah, looks were all you ever really had, huh? Awwww... tough #%^&! Start getting some brains and maybe we'll be halfway even -- maybe."
Sometimes when people crap on my parade, I like it when my friends crap all over the offender. I thought maybe you'd like that, too. :)
Four pounds! Go you! Woohoo!
Renee
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Congrats on your loss so far!
LOL Why thank you. I've had my fill of people in my life not supporting me, so this post hit home.
Renee
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Congrats on the weight loss!! 4 lbs in an awesome start!!
I'm sorry but I had to laugh when I read about your sister. Looks like she's still trapped in high school. I feel pity for people who still think like that. People who still think: "I am glad my friend is wearing an ugly dress so I can look good" (I've actually heard this one out loud in a wedding yesterday).
Anyways, don't ever let this discourage you. If she's not mature enough to know that improving your health AND looks is a good thing for you and that is not directed as an attach on her(!), then it's HER problem. Lose wight girl and make her turn green!!
Mary
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