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| Thu, 01-05-2006 - 12:14am |
I've peeked in on this board from time to time, but I've reached my breaking point and really need some help. DH and I are both overweight. Both of us have gained weight since we met and got married, and we just had our first child 4 months ago. (I was the same weight on the day I delivered as the day I found out I was pregnant. So, I actually ended up 15 pounds lighter after I had the baby.) I'm 5'8" and 250 lbs as we speak, and I figure I need to lose 100 lbs or more. Truthfully, if I could lose enough not to have to shop in the plus size section, I'd be happy. We both have medical issues that would benefit from losing weight. We've tried WW before with some success, but gained the weight back. We've decided to try it again, but I just can't get into it. It's even harder to keep on track now with a baby in the house. We bought ourselves a treadmill for Christmas, but haven't used it yet.
I don't know what my problem is...I have health problems and bad genes that could shorten my life if I don't lose weight. I have a wonderful husband and son to live for. But, I can't make myself not eat. I plan out our meals the night before, pack the lunches, and I still hit the snack machine or go out for lunch. It's like the thing inside my head that's supposed to tell me I'm full or that I don't need the food doesn't exist. I eat because I am stressed or bored or upset and then, when I am done, I'm even more upset with myself because I've overeaten and the cycle starts all over again.
I'm really at the end of my rope. If you could offer up any suggestions for how to break that cycle or trying to get yourself to stop eating, I would be eternally grateful. Thanks in advance!



Maybe I'm not the best one to resond to your plea, but I couldn't help but notice how alike you and I are. You sound just like me. I know I should be doing something about my weight, yet I do nothing. Or like you said even the best intentions go astray because we are bored, angry, or depressed. I lack motivation. I shouldn't. I weigh 385lbs. and have Diabetes, Emphysema, and have high blood pressure,high cholestrol/triglycerides(sp).As of March 2005 and again in July of the same year I can now add Congested Heart Failure to the list. I don't feel well most of the time. You would think it would motivate me, wouldn't you?
I signed on to this website in the hopes that I could find someone like you who understands. Maybe we can't help each other, but I just wanted you to know you are not alone.
Take care.
hey! I'm in your boat too. I've recently come to terms with the fact that it's my eating habits that are making me fat (stay fat). I have 3 kids, ages 5,3,and 1 this month. Most of the weight i gained i gained before i was pg, and actully only gain 16 lbs with the last baby, i weigh more now than the week after i had her olny by a few lbs) I have tried ww, but i dont like it. I did atkins many times, and dropped weight fast, 30 lbs in a few weeks, but i get very grumpy while on it, and feel deprived, than i like "carb binge" (my made up term) for a week or 2 and gain it all back (and sometimes more). I don't know your situation, but, I'm the type of person that hates to waste money, so maybe it was a mental trick i played on myself, but i bought a gym membership, and signed up for a personal trainer on a year contract, that i have to pay for weather i go or not. I can't stand the thought of paying for it, so i go! it's like this mental trigger, like when you don't want to go to work, but you know you have to. I go at least 2x a week, becuase thats how many training sessions i pay for. Now honestly, i do need to work on going when i don't have an appointment with my trainer, cuz i'm not to good at that yet, lol, but one step at a time. What i really love about my trainer is that he really hold me accountable. when i need to do 30 min cardio, he makes me do it, when i need to do 20 reps, he doesn't let me get away with 15, plus, i'm kinda clueless about where to start in a gym, and he keeps me on a path, when other wise i would be wondering "am i really doind any good?"
now i'm not gonna lie. I'm sore some days, but it's almost like, "wow, i must be doing some good"
i've lost a little weight, but i'm just starting out.
i did just order some Phentermine, cuz i just know that if i'm working this hard and i don't see some great results it would just discourage me to the point where i might quit. (i know myself). I just refuse to fail this time, so i'm overcoming my own objections before i make them.
I don't know know if this helps you at all, but it's made a differance to my additude. Also, although my eating habits need alot of improvement, it's almost like, after working so hard to burn 500 cals, i dont want to just eat it back up again in 15 mins. I guess i've just tried to change the way i look at things, like thinking about it from a new angle, instead of the way i was looking at it (which wasn't working for me anyway) lol
if you just wanna chat or want a buddy for this long journey, i would really like a buddy. my e-mail is mzbehavn78@yahho.com
Jamie
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Having a baby on your hands does make it tough to exercise. And I noticed that you're working too (like me), so I understand where you're coming from. Once you reach home, the baby is a priority and that kills the possibility of exercise. But you can lose weight at the beginning with dieting alone. And once the baby gets a bit older, you'll be able to fit in exercise.
It will take some discipline at the beginning to break the habit of the vending machine. And make sure you have *nice* options for lunch. Cuz I used to pack fruits & veggies, and look at them and go UGGGG, then order out. But once I started packing tuna sandwiches, chicken breast sandwiches, etc I found myself willing to eat my delicious lunch. It was higher in calories than the fruits & veggies, but it definitely was way lower than ordering out.
HTH
Mary
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