Hi, I'm new here.

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Registered: 08-29-2005
Hi, I'm new here.
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Sat, 01-07-2006 - 1:58am

Hi ladies! I am going to introduce myself a little. I have two kids, one of which is a year. I graduated high school weighing 130, got married had first baby weighing 237, lost back down to 135 for a brief while, gained most of my weight back, got pregnant while being at my heaviest ever, and had second baby weighing over 300, I can not believe it, I'd die if my husband or family knew how much i weigh! I am so miserable and I have GOT to lose weight. It takes all i have to keep up with my youngest, every night i am so worn out. I'm around 5'7 and 35 years old..... does anyone know what i should weigh. I don't want to get as thin as in HS, but i'd love to at least get under the 200 mark!

I am looking for support and friendship. I have stopped snacking, and have started eating a light breakfast, and no longer eat after 7. Doesn't sound like much, but i have already lost a few pounds. I used to not eat much all day and then eat a big supper and then I'd snack after the baby went to bed until bedtime.

I'm looking forward to getting to know you all, and it's nice to see other women that are dieting and NOT trying to lose 10 lbs. LOL!

ANN

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Registered: 01-07-2006
Sat, 01-07-2006 - 8:49am
I am new also. This is my first time here. I think you have done the most important things with eating breakfast and not eating after 7pm for sure. In 1988 I started changing the way I ate and lost 104 lbs. I lost 56 lbs. in about 7 months. Slow but very rewarding. I kept most of it off until 1996 when I was injured and since then have had other accidents with more injuries or adding to the ones I already had. I am disabled now and 50 years old and weigh more than I have ever weighed. My health has suffered horribly. After gaining 84 lbs. in 1997, a year after first injuries, I was ok for a while, but not being able to work brought on depression, staying home (for lack of money to do anything...did I mention I was single too, with 3 kids and 2 grandkids living with me at the time??) In 1999 I went to the E.R. twice and they swore because of stress I was having HBP...boy was I. It was uncontrolled for 3 years even on meds after meds. That in turn did damage to my eyes, my heart, and my brain/memory loss. UGH. But to get back to you I must tell you when I was 34-35 and lost all my weight the main thing I found was that eating breakfast DOES help. Our metabolism won't kick in until that first meal of the day anyways. Drinking more water and not eating late at night unless it was plain popcorn or veggie sticks were my number one things I changed and lQQks like you are on your way already. Keep it up. I need to join you. I am going to try and shed many pounds this year myself. I have to , for my health and age. GOOD LUCK to you and hopefully we can help each other out. Have a great day. (p.s. I never starved myself...ate anything I wanted just altered the recipes and made sure to walk off more calories than I took in.) Wish I could walk like that now, it sure reduces stress and lowers BP and cholesterol.
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Registered: 08-29-2005
Sat, 01-07-2006 - 11:25pm

Thank you so much for your kind reply. I have gotten more so worried about my HEALTH and longevity than appearance, and that is why i am finally doing something about it. My oldest child is a teenager and with the addition of a new baby, i need to be around a while (and eating myself to death is not going to keep me here) to see my future grandchildren, baby graduate high school etc.

I know what you mean about the health problems. I have border line HPB already and it runs in my family. It got really high with my last pregnancy and i have been watching my sodium lately to try to keep it at bay somewhat. I hope that once you lose weight you get better.

I loved reading your sucess story! It was motivational for me. I have decided that 'diets' don't work for me, i think i've tried them all and would lose 30-40 lbs... only to gain it back and then some! I need a life style change. I don't want to do anything drastic, for fear of burn out and feeling deprived. I have a major sweet tooth, so i can't see giving up all goodies. So far I am going to do little things and hopefully over time will evolve into a healthier eater with baby-steps. I LOVE fast food, so i told myself that i can still have fast food...but i won't get the fries large...only a small order and NO cheese or extras on my burger. I HOPE that i continue to see a change with all of this. I weighed this AM and in a week I lost 5 lbs. Out of 300+ it's not much, but it is a start.

Best of luck to you dear, i'll be checking in on the board and seeing how you are doing too.
Hugs and thanks for the words of encouragement. :-)
ANN

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Registered: 01-07-2006
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 4:55am
I think you are taking all the first steps in the right direction. I use to stop at the convenience store and get a hotdog without the weiner. I love breads and I love veggies. I would put mustard, onions, sweet pickle relish and jalapeno's and enjoy it too. I did the same thing at some burger places. I would ask them to hold the meat and I would order a veggie burger. Sounds weird, but like I said I love bread. I also ate all the pasta and pizza I wanted. I just started eating all cheese or veggie pizzas. It is easy to count fat grams. I find it easier than any other. The American Cancer Society asks that you have less than 30 grams of fat a day, and I did that except on cheat day once a week. Once or twice I got up to 47 or 56 on cheat day, but usually tried to hold it down. I find if you walk or move to burn off more calories than you take in, you have to lose. I walked home from my BF's parents today and it is just around the corner but I said a short walk is better than no walk. I need to start making several short walks a day. It will be more than I have been doing. I am with you about wanting to be around, with me it is for all the grandkids. My youngest graduated this year and moved away.(sniff, sniff) But I love, love, love, love, LOVE my 7 grandchildren. Good luck and I will remember you. Hope to see you here more.
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Registered: 06-11-2004
Sun, 01-08-2006 - 4:16pm

Hey! Maybe we can be diet buddies! I'm 5.7 and about 245 right now. healthy weight for our height is between 135 and 155, depending on frame. I'm small framed so i'm aiming for 135( i would be satisfied if i could be in a size 8 or 10, whatever weight that might be)
i'm doing like you, making really small changes at a time. no skipping meals is the change i'm mastering first. when i get that down pat, i'll add something else, but i'm just taking it one step at a time. Well, good luck, and ttyl!

ttfn

jamie