New to board-must lose lots of weight

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Registered: 07-30-2004
New to board-must lose lots of weight
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Mon, 02-13-2006 - 10:38pm
Hi, I am a 43 year old woman with 2 grown children and a wonderful husband, why am I unhappy, I am at an all time high with my weight. I am 5'8" and weigh 330 pounds, I am starting to develop diabetes, I already have sleep apnea, and severe clinical depression, as well as high cholesterol and blood pressure, who knows what else. My husband is wonderful, but he works evenings, my oldest daughter is in college and lives away from home and my youngest is in college and at home but between school and work she usually gets home around 11:30 in the evenings with her dad, I am guessing part of my problem may be boredom eating, but I am also addicted to sweets and breads and breads that are sweet, well even better. I am a Christian and I go to a pretty large church 2000 people and I feel like everyone I talk to there just seems to think if I had more faith I could lose the weight and be OK, if they only knew. I am so depressed about my weight, I make myself sick, I go to bed with it on my mind and it is the first thing on my mind when I get up, I joined the YMCA last January (2005)and went pretty good, but then was hospitalized for a total of over a month on and off, plus I broke my ankle twice, so I renewed my membership again this year and I am trying to get back inthe habit, the only trouble is, I go and workout and then come home and want to sleep and eat right up until midnight or after. Please if there is anybody out there that is as big as me or understands my struggle I would love to hear from people, I am just now trying to get used to using this message board so I may be a little slow. Thank you all for listenting to me rant!

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 11:12pm

Hi, Welcome

I too know the struggle all too well. I am 46 years old and have been overweight 33 years out of my 46.

I have just begun this Jan to transform my life, I started on Jan 12th, and I am down 22lbs now. I have done it all by myself, just with healthy eating and exercise.

I have been told in the past to walk walk walk, never really believing I could even start , I have a great deal of arthritis in my right knee, and with my weight so high, I had never dreamed I could.

However, something clicked in my head this time, I thought , well maybe I should just try. So I went out for a walk, could only do a little over 15 min, at a snails pace I might add, and man did I hurt, my arches were burning.

That was a little over 3 weeks ago. I just didn't give up. I have been walking now EVERY day, rain or shine. I have been doing my treadmill straight for the past 2.5 weeks, it has been way too cold here, and too much snow.

I get on it at the same time EVERY day, that way I have no excuse. I am actually starting to get addicted to it, and I can't wait until mornings now.

I started the treadmill being able to only do 20 min at 2.4 speed. I am now doing 45-50 full min, at 4.5 speed. I was only able to do 1 mile, now I can do 2.75-3miles.I know I still have a long way to go, but even this for me is a small miracle.

So if I can do this ANYONE can. I never dreamed I would be at this place. Me exercising!!!!!

And this was accomplished in just a few short weeks . I can't wait to see where I'm at by May, or June.

I am just following healthy eating, 1200-1300 cal, try to keep my fat intake less than 25 a day, and I am very dicsiplined. I have NOT eaten ANYTHING as in junk , and that is why I have lost so much so quickly. But I am one of those people who loses weight very easily, as long as I am following things to a tee!!!

I still have 78 more lbs to lose, my goal is to lose it by xmas. I plan to double my walking as soon as the nice weather gets here, that is how much I am actually ENJOYING it.

Good luck to you, I hope that I have inspired you, remember BABY STEPS !!!

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 11:49pm
Thank you so much for replying to my post, I really appreciate the positive feedback. I wish you all the luck in the world on your journey, it sounds like you are off to a great start--if I could just keep the food out of my mouth, it's like I am so addicted. I need all the inspirationa and motivation I can get, and thanks again for sharing with me!
Karen
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Registered: 04-21-2003
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 1:47am

I am 5'4" and currently weigh 315
I am 33 yrs old and have 2 kids ages DD is 2yrs old and DS is 8 months
I too, suffer from the night munchies..
I try to keep in in control by drinking tons and tons of water.. i drink anywhere from 60-120 oz a day.
if I do breakdown and eat I try to munch on something low cal.. popcorn, rice cakes, baked tostitos and salsa etc

At the place i work they have a big fitness center (free) but i rarely go.. mainly becuase i don't have the time.

i just try to take it 1 day at a time, and if i "stray" from my "healthy eating habits" so be it, tomorrow is another day.

good luck
Sara
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 7:44am

Welcome to the board!


I eat when I am bored too and I'm a major sweets-a-holic. Can you keep yourself busy around the house? Get some projects going? It might help. I eat much less when I'm at work because I'm always busy. And when I get home, I try to keep myself busy with anything. Even coming up with small projects like: "organizing my night stand" works.


And the people at your church should see our pastor.. he's very obese and always struggling with his weight. If it was a matter of faith alone, this guy should be skin on bone.


We all here understand the struggle of being overweight. Please join us and we can all help each other.



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Tue, 02-14-2006 - 9:19am

Hello, and welcome.
I eat out of boredom too, when I get bored and want to eat, I just get on here and keep myself busy searching, researching, reading, and typing. That is why I post so much....LOL!!! Lately for me it has been hard cuz I have been sick and can't exercise much, but I am trying. I am also trying not to get discouraged and give up this time like I have every other time in the past. One would think that with 3 kids 19 months to 12 yrs i would have time to be bored and would get plenty of exercise...LOL I did, but found I was WRONG!!! Summer is easier cuz i do stay busier when the oldest two are home.
I wish you the best of luck in your journey.

Angela

 

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 12:44pm

Wow, that is a lot of water, I have trouble in that area, I can drink the grape flavored Fruit2O which is sweetened with Splenda, but just plain water is tough for me.I think it is great that you work and everything, I did not weigh quite as much as I do now when I was working, but the ugly comments and stares were awful, of course I had to quit working because of other health problems, not related to my obesity, believe it or not; but I admire people who struggle with a lot of weight to lose and still work, I think people can be so cruel. I wish you the best of luck and thanks so much for your reply, I need all the encouragement I can get.

Karen

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Tue, 02-14-2006 - 12:55pm

Thanks for your reply--I wish that I could find some more things to get involved in, but I am so tired all the time, my doctors think it is because I am starting to develop full-blown type II diabetes. I am thankful that I found a group of people that understand, maybe with some extra motivationa and inspiration I can start to make a difference. By the way, your son is adorable! I have a 2-year old nephew and he is a handful, whenever I keep him I stay very busy, but then I reward myself afterwards because I am so exhausted, lol, my 2 girls are grown, one struggles with her weight a little, the youngest is 5'7" and weighs 105 pounds soaking wet, she didn't get my genes apparently. Thanks again for the advice.

Karen

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Registered: 07-30-2004
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 1:00pm

Thanks for your reply Angela. I understand about the kids, sometimes I think being busy with kids makes the weight harder to lose, cuz in my case, we were always eating fast food, eating on the go all the time, etc. and now that my kids are grown up I feel guilty becuz I didn't instill healthier eating and exercise habits in them. Well, thanks again for the reply, best of luck to you in this journey that I too have started many times and failed and had to start over again and again.

Karen

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Registered: 02-03-2006
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:27pm

Wow...someone who sounds like me! My name is Laura and I'm 27. I'm a stay at home mom to my 10 month old daughter.

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Tue, 02-14-2006 - 5:52pm

Hi Laura:

Thanks for the positive reply. You have an adorable little girl and my husband's name is Tim also,lol. The struggle with depression is very real and very difficult and the weight has a lot to do with it, you are depressed because of your weight and your weight seems to go up because you are depressed and no it has nothing to do with your husband, I am married to a wonderful man for 25 years, very supportive or at least tries to be as much as he can, but it is so hard. I pray that you will meet your goals and maybe with us trying to inspire each other we will make it! Thanks again!

Karen

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