Vent: Why is it so difficult?
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| Sun, 03-26-2006 - 6:10am |
A long unorganized vent coming up.. you've been warned LOL
Last week it was getting pretty hot, in the nineties most of the time, so I pulled out a short and a t-shirt.. Big mistake.. I wasn't really ready to see myself in that... NOT flattering at all... I thought I would actually like what I see for a change.. so far I've been *good* for a long time.. looks like it will be a summer with long pants only. I usually don't care what other people say and wear whatever I like.. my moto is: if they don't like what they see, they can close their eyes.. this time it's me that doesn't like what she sees
Oh and my husband is now trying to lose weight. His sister's wedding is in a month and he wants to wear his wedding suit (yep the one he wore at our wedding 4 years ago). So what did he do? He stopped eating junk, decreased his portion sizes, and is doing everything according to the book... and he is not struggling with it AT ALL... (OK I am starting to get very mean now).. and he is actually showing RESULTS.. yep I can see it... and he just had to ask me if I noticed that he lost weight.. yeah I noticed.. he lost weight in less than a freaking week! He is very close to his goal now...
Oh and there is one more episode related to my pants and how they tore at work today, but I'm saving you the details.
I mean why does it has to be so difficult for ME? I just want to crawl in a cave somewhere and disappear.. not really I'll eventually snap out of it..
OK thanks for letting me vent




What was the advice you gave me when I was struggling with my plateau? If I remember correctly you encouraged me to focus on what I have lost instead of what I wasn't losing!!! This advice is perfect for you right now. My goodness do you realize that you've lost a great amount of weight and while doing that have taken control of your eating. Why in the world would you focus so intensely on what you haven't lost and what is left to lose?? Come on Mary.....look at yourself in the mirror and remember that body parts that use to be there and that are now gone. What an incredible accomplishment.
As far as your husband....you know better than any of us that men lose weight easier than women. Let him inspire you. Work on this together.
You are a phenomenal woman. A beautiful baby boy.....and you have lost a great amount of weight. All those negative thoughts will reverse that weight loss and you will be back where you started. You don't want to go there Mary.
Take a big breath and wear those shorts. Hold your head up high and be proud of the woman you are. Breathe through the cravings and know that you will succeed!!
Just wanted to return the favor.
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miss Diva is right and I don't really have anything to add because she said it so beautifully.
You are an amazing woman well on your way to accomplishing what many can't even imagine.
Even if men didn't lose weight faster than women, you can't compare your struggle to someone else's. You aren't in competition with him or anyone else. This is about being the best you can be!
it's so hard to look in the mirror and not see that "big girl". She was part of your life for so long. But she is steadily disapearing every day. You need to be proud of the accomplishments you've made and the ones you will continute to make. Wear your shorts and be happy with your ever-changing body. Watch those shorts become too big and get the next smaller size. Enjoy the time with your family, make good choices and be the best person you can be. Don't wait to live your life the way you want to live, it's not going to wait for you.
My First 10% of Body Weight
Mary,
I am sorry that you are feeling similar to how I did a few weeks ago, when you responded to me.... at a time I was feeling my lowest.
Here's the link to that particular thread:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-fb100plus/?msg=119928.1
I *know* how miserable it is to feel like it is so easy for others to lose weight while we have to struggle immensely. I hope you get over this slump soon and are back on track to losing. :-)
HUGS,
ANN
Thanks for the great words of encouragement Jessalynn, you're right, it's not a competition... and to tell you the truth, I am really happy that he decided to lose the extra pounds. He only has 20lbs or so to lose and
Thanks for your reply Ann.. I remember your original post... and I remember
Awww, thanks Mary...you are forgiven, we all have bad days and the frustration of dieting, gaining etc. etc. etc. is enough to put anyone in a bad mood.
I hope you are feeling better now! :-)
Hugs,
ANN