What the heck.....
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What the heck.....
| Fri, 04-07-2006 - 1:13pm |
Will I ever get back to eating okay??? Seriously the past few days, I have been eating so bad!!! I don't know what is going on. I mean, I have a little bit of stress going on, in my life. But, that is not an excuse. Seriously, I have been eating way over my calories this week. It will be a miracle if I don't gain. I always tell myself today I will get back on track. Then after dinner, like last night, I had a bowl of ice cream, a small bowl of chips and salsa, and some skittles....I don't know what the deal is...I just wanna smack myself and say that is enough! You haven't worked these past few months just to go back, so stop!!!!!! AHHHHHH!!!!!

The harder you are on yourself the more stress you cause yourself and the more desire to eat all the things you listed. I would highly suggest that you get off your back and take a big deep breath. There is nothing wrong with going off course. What is important is how you handle it in order to return to where you want to be. I have learned that we will lose and if you are like me eating healthy and losing weight is a long term commitment. We couldn't possibly expect ourselves to not eat those things you listed. Its all part of the process. Last night I went to my sister's house and she had spaghetti, french bread and salad. I started my healthy eating in May 2005. I was so confused with eating out and holiday eating that on Thanksgiving I literally deprived myself and the same for Christmas. I went home feeling sick and beat myself up real bad over it. At what point is what I did wrong? What I did wrong is overthink it. Make it far more stressful for myself than it had to be. So now when I go out and eat or holiday eating or eating with friends and family I eat what I want with some moderation. Its all about control. I can control what I eat and you can too.
I hope that made sense. You just haven't gained complete control but it comes with time and desire to really want to lose weight. Outside sources also play into it. One week a month my normal female cycles makes me ravenous for a week. I fought and battled it each month for a while until I decided to really understand it. I researched online and found out that due to our normal female cycles this happens and is normal. It also indicates that our body is in overdrive during this time and the chances that we will burn more calories so the extra calories won't matter. And it really hasn't caused me to gain any weight.
Understanding all aspects of what we are doing is essential. Being kind to yourself is the most important part. Loving yourself and treating yourself with respect during the weight loss and the weight will just melt off.
I hope this helped.
F
Excellent advice! I've just started using this nutrition log at slim-fast.com (although I'm not really on their plan), and one of the best things is that they do a 7-day average analysis of calories/fats/fiber/vitamins, etc. This has really helped me see the big picture, and realize that "blowing it" for one meal or day is relative. We're in this for the long haul, and for a healthy life, not the panic-driven "must lose 5 lbs. this week" of the thin.
After all, it's not like we can quit our "vice" completely... don't need cigarettes to live, but try to manage without food!... and food is a big part of a lot of celebrations. Managing it without going overboard/crazy is the challenge, and the reward! (UUhhh, at least I'm telling nyself that this week...)
Well it sure made me feel a little better cuz for the last few days I haven't been able to stop eating for that reason. Why does PMS make us so crazy? I have tried to walk a little more this weekend though to help make up for the calories. And I am trying to eat low fat pudding for my chocalate fix but so far that hasn't worked too great. Thank god mine don't come as often as a normal one would or I would be eating all the time considering my PMS start 2 weeks before and lasts till it is over....LOL that is bad. I hope it made her feel better too...
Angela
Angela
I think you have to ask yourself why you're doing this...
If you're eating because you crave certain things and you haven't had it in a while, then I agree that you shouldn't stress too much about it. Have some of your favorite things.. and not the low fat/calorie version either.. the REAL thing.. and once you satisfy that, then you're over it and can get back on track. But if you keep thinking about it all the time, you'll start to obsess about it and go into a weird cycle. We are here to change our lifestyle and we'll be doing this for the rest of our lives, so there is no sense of labelling some food as 'bad' and ban it for the rest of our lives! It doesn't make much sense.
On the other hand, (I'm guilty of the following btw), if you're eating just because you've been good for a long time and you 'deserve' to eat some high calorie food, then this is a bad sign. Because you can just go on forever. And what you're eating is not really satisfying you because you're not really enjoying it. You're eating 'just because'. If this is the case, you have to reconnect with yourself and remind yourself why you're doing this. You have to literally stop yourself from slipping back to old habits. And you need some willpower to do it.
I hope this helps. Please give us an update.