DH doesn't believe...
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| Mon, 06-05-2006 - 1:01pm |
I started jogging about 3 weeks ago and my goal is to be able to run a 5k (to finish, not to race) by the end of September. I've been faithfully going to the gym and I'm following a 13-week program for beginning runners that starts out easier then gradually gets harder until by the end I should be able to run 40 minutes all at once. Seems hard to believe, but I really think I can do it. Especially since the 5k I want to run isn't until the end of September, which gives me an extra month at the end of the program just to make sure.
Well, DH doesn't think I can do it. More accurately, he thinks I COULD do it if I follow the program, but he doubts I'll stick with it. On the one hand I can't blame him for doubting because I have quit physical activity before. On the other hand, my feelings are really hurt that he doesn't believe in me. I can't help but feel like he should be my biggest cheerleader, and now I have one more thing (his doubts) to overcome if I want to meet my goal.
What do you think? Would you be upset in my (brand-new running) shoes?
Thanks for reading.
Holli

Heck yea I would, in fact I am right there with you. My dh doesn't have much faith in me either but on the flip side of your situation he isn't verbally saying it just not showing any confidence in me to meet my goals. Ya know what I say, let's show them up. Let's do it then look them in the eye and say hey baby guess what, I proved you WRONG!!! Dh is constantly not wanting to show me any excitement over my progress cuz he is like well you have given up before and you will again and just gain it back...well this time I have stuck to it far longer than ever before and I think I can do it this time. And you can to. Get angry about it and let that fuel you to do this. You can come here for slaps on the back cuz girl I have faith in us both!! You can run that 5 k and I can get under 200 lbs and start enjoying my life with my kids again.
Angela
Angela
You bet I'd be upset!!! You're right, he should be your biggest cheerleader. Just b/c you quit in the past doesn't mean this time will be the same. I'd be mad enough to stick w/ it just to prove him wrong. You can do it!!!!!!!!!! Just think how excited you'll be
I'd be a little po'd... but then again i'd also have him put his $$ where his mouth is.. (so to speak)make a bet with him (doesnt' actually have to be money)... that way it'll give you some extra motivation and it'll teach him to be more supportive
Sara
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Sara
342-300-200
I'd be mad! He'd expect your support if he were trying to do something hard..
I agree with Sara.. Make a bet, prove him wrong and make him eat his words! :)
My First 10% of Body Weight
Holli,
What an awesome goal you have set for yourself...More power to you.
As for you dh, don't let his negativity bring you down. Use it to your advantage and PROVE HIM WRONG!!! Think how great you will feel at the end of that race!!! He will not be able to be anything but PROUD!!!!
Keep us posted on how your training is going.
Karen
I sure would be upset... but again as all the ladies mentioned, you have a chance to prove him wrong. Use this as your motivation. If you ever feel you'd rather slack than go exercise, remember how upset you were at your husband.. this should get you off your butt and going :)
Good luck.. you're working for a fantastic and exciting goal.. and you can do it!