Stress and Emotions

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Stress and Emotions
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 12:55pm
I have been reading a few other messages that have been posted lately and I can absolutely relate to what stress and emotions can do to your eatting. Why is it that stress and and being upset or lonely can make you cuddle up to a pint of Ben and Jerrys' or Breyers' Cookies and Cream (my favorite). I am currently looking for a job and that is seriously stressing me out. I have been on a few interviews and I can't get past the fact that I believe that I am not being hired because of my weight, which may very well not be the reason, but it is the only thing that I feel is holding me back. Does anyone else ever feel that all consuming stress or emotional tsumani that just takes you over and almost feels like it is suffacating you? What can be we do to get and keep control of ourselves and our eatting during times like this?
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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 1:34pm

A million times YES!!! I definitely understand that feeling!!!
If you figure out how to control it let me know PLEASE!!

Angela

 

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 2:42pm

Okay, first off I wanna say, its a proven fact that overweight people ARE discrimnated against. I saw a study they did on it on 60 minutes about 6 months to a year ago. Which is really sad. I know that I have been, so just realize you have a lot to offer a company, even if they don't see past the weight.
Second, most overweight people will find they medicate themselves with food. I have felt what you have described MANY times. And even as recent as a week ago. My grandmother passed away, and seriously, I wanted to eat everything in site. BUT, I have been reading Dr. Phils book The Ultimate Weight Solution, and he really gets to the root of the problems. Its helped me realize that I do medicate myself with food. And I also realized how much negative self talk I give myself, which has a HUGE impact on my mood. So, I try to catch myself in those times and turn the negative self talks into positive, and it actually helps me alot!! And all this time I never really realized what I was doing.
Also, he talks about the fact that WE are in control of what we eat. I seriously chant that to myself sometimes when I am craving something. That I am in control, that I can get past this craving because the rewards will be greater then eating that yummy food.
He also suggests that if you take something out of your life, like overeating, etc, that something needs to replace that to take care of your need. I really really suggest reading this book, because a lot of times there isn't much focus on the behind the scenes stuff. Like, why you overeat, why you don't exercise, etc. Usually its tied to some underlying emotional need.
Hope that helps....sorry I didn't intend it to be so long! Good luck! And you CAN do it!!!

Tami
257/226/195
Can't wait to move, and walk on the treadmill!! Time hurry up!!!



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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 3:28pm

It sickens me that looking down on people because of their weight is real. I didn't want to face is at all I know THAT LOOK, that look that people get when they meet you for the first time and are shocked because they never imagined that I would be "FAT". I have tried to ignor it but to know that this has been examined on television is scary. Just plain scary. I know that my emotions sometimes get the better of me and I eat to settle those feelings. I need to do a lot of self examination and know that I can rise above this, but I really really believe that maybe it isn't me who should be ashamed, but the rest of the world, the media, magazines and oh just everyone who believes that fat is just wrong. Look at the Lane Bryant Catalog and other publications for the overweight. How many of them even use overweight models? I am a size 28 so having a size 12/14 model isn't doing anything for me, how will the clothes look on me? I'm sorry to ramble on but it really does scare me that this is such a problem that there are news stories on it----no wonder I am an emotional eatter. So what do we do, do we hide until we are presentable for society, or.....

Laura

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Tue, 07-11-2006 - 6:21pm

I know what you mean. I have been passed over for jobs that I have been qualified for, and everything, but get turned down. It really bugs me. I mean such a big percentage of American itself is overweight, yet its still so wrong for people. It really does boggle the mind. How plain would this world look if we all were skinny, and fit? I think it would be boring.

On the weight loss side though, you really do need to ask yourself why you are trying to lose the weight. Obviously to look good will be on there, but it also should be a matter of your health. Yes, overweight people CAN lead happy, wonderful lives. But its far more likely that you wouldn't live as long as you could. That you are at a higher risk for SO many diseases, that will be exsasperated by your weight. That's the thing that gets me going. I have been trying to have a baby for over 2 and a half years, and I would all most be willing to bet, that the issues are with weight.

Its hard to want to go out in the world. But really I try to embrace my body, at each stage its at. Yes, I could look better, yes according to the "world" I am abnormal. But, I wouldn't trade myself with anyone else. And I am doing the best I can to better my life, and emotional state. Even if it takes me 10, 20 years, to get down to the weight I want, the journey would be worth it!!! Even in these past 6 months of actually trying to lose the weight, I have learned SO much about myself. And my "personal truth", according to Dr. Phil. And I think overcoming certain aspects of my eating habits have shown me, that if I set my mind to something, it really is achieveable!!! It really is!!!

You can do it Laura! There is probably a wonderful job, that is waiting for you, and you have SO much potential! Even at the state your body currently is in. Celebrate yourself, and know that even with the smallest triumphs, your are that much closer to achieving your goal!

I hope this makes sense, your posts just touch my heart, and I feel for you. Good luck, and I'm here for you!!

Tami
257/226/195



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Wed, 07-12-2006 - 8:46am

>>>But really I try to embrace my body, at each stage its at. Yes, I could look better, yes according to the "world" I am abnormal. But, I wouldn't trade myself with anyone else. And I am doing the best I can to better my life, and emotional state. Even if it takes me 10, 20 years, to get down to the weight I want, the journey would be worth it!!! <<<


So very well said.. Once I got in peace with my size losing weight was

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