Can you say T-A-C-T?!

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Can you say T-A-C-T?!
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Mon, 08-21-2006 - 2:30pm

Because apparently my coworkers can't! Here's a conversation I had today:

COWORKER: "Wow, you've really lost some weight. Are you trying to?"

ME: "Yep, I've been working pretty hard at it."

CW: "Well, it really shows. Your face has thinned out A LOT."

ME: "Thank you!"

Okay, so far so great, right? She should have just stopped while she was ahead, but nope, not her! Here's the rest of the conversation:

CW: "Now all you need to do is work on those thunder thighs!" (as she reaches down and pats my leg)

ME (THINKING): WHAT?!?

ME (SAYING): "Oh, well, I don't really think they are much of a problem..."

First off, who the HECK says something like that to someone?! Secondly, I don't have freaking thunder thighs. I'm so glad that I've always thought my legs and butt were too SMALL for my size or else I'd have been very hurt by that comment! I always have the problem of jeans being too baggy in the behind and thighs if they fit on my waist, so I know I don't have thunder thighs, but even if I did, so what? Ever heard of TACT? Apparently not.

Oh yeah, that was a nice conversation. Last week I had a conversation with a different coworker that must have been raised by the same people. Here's how it went:

CW: "Um, could you please talk a little more quietly, I have a migraine."

ME: "Oh, I'm sorry. I've always had a voice that carry's well, but I'll try to keep it down."

I felt bad for her and she could have left it at that, but did she? Nope!

CW: "Yeah, your voice is really grating and harsh, I think I might have to see if I can move."

ME: "Ummm...well, I'm leaving for the day, see you later."

Again, WTH??!! Yes, I know I have a loud voice that carries well. That's how I always did so good in public speaking competitions. Yes, I can understand if my loud voice is aggravating your migraine. No, I don't understand why you thought there was a reason to tell me my voice was harsh and grating! Once again, it's called T-A-C-T!

Seriously, I know 4 years olds don't always know better, but I'm almost 24, and I know better, so you should definitely know better at 34 or 44!

Staci


 


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Mon, 08-21-2006 - 3:31pm
(((STACI)))), Sorry you have to deal with such fools. One of the things I've learned over the years is that some people never mature, no matter what their age. The mom of one of my daughter's friends started WW around the time I started dieting and exercising. I commented to her this weekend that she's looking really good and congratulated her on her progress. She said, "Thanks. You should have joined me, huh?" Give me a break! I've done WW before and it has never worked well for me--something I told her when she started. Maybe my progress doesn't show like hers does, but even if I had done nothing this summer it's no reason for cheap shots. Anyway, it taught me not to bother complimenting her again. :-) Annie
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Registered: 06-11-2006
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 3:55pm

ulgh i hate stupid people.

to the first person i'd be like "looks like you'll have to work on giving compliments because you seriously lack at that ability!"

the second person.. i would of smacked.. in my mind... but still i would have enjoyed it.

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Registered: 01-27-2004
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 4:38pm
UGH!

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Registered: 03-01-2006
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 4:45pm

Well, aren't they just too bleeping bleep-bleepity-bleep?

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Registered: 01-25-2006
Mon, 08-21-2006 - 6:14pm

All I can say iis BRAVO to you for not beating them to a pulp. no seriously the fact that you held your tongue, oh I couldn't have done it. I would have looked at CW1 and said gee you think, personally men like my thunder thighs as you call them so I think I will leave them be. And if she was super skinny I might add that REAL men like a little meat on their women instead of all skin and bones!! LOL To CW2 I would have had to have added that I would be happy to tell the boss that I agree with her moving cuz frankly she is just a bit of an irritating person as well considering she OBVIOUSLY has no class!! I mean seriously. I speak rather loudly sometimes myself, and if someone said that to me, I would get louder by the min no matter how bad I feel for them cuz if they are that RUDE who cares! Again bravo to you for holding your tongue, I couldn't have.


 

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Registered: 07-18-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 11:25am
Hi Staci! I can't believe that....WTH is right! How rude and obnixious (spelling?)! I want to go beat her up for you. It sounds like workplace harrassment, you know? Just don't let it get to you, just let it roll right off of you and continue with your weightloss efforts. I'll never forget when someone asked me if I was pregnant and patted my belly in the grocery store. Of course I'm not pregnant. It was horrible and embarrassing. This is just as bad if not worse because you have to see this person everyday. Anyway, I have tons of compassion for you. Just ignore the comments and be your own cheerleader - don't let your co-worker get to you. Take Care, Jena 395-310-175
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:19am

Like Angela said, bravo for controlling yourself with no strong comeback. It's really

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