Losing the battle

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Losing the battle
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 6:45pm

I am losing the battle of the bulge.
I do well for a week.. or even 2 if i'm lucky..
Then it all goes straight to hell.
I try one plan then another plan then something else.
I am getting really frustrated.
I have actually gained 10 lbs since my last post (a few months ago)
I don't know what to do.
Part of the trouble is environment (i work with some very large/very unhealthy women and there's always food around)
Another part is my own weakness.
Then there's always family (my mom was raised to feed people until they can't breathe) and even though I say i'm full or don't ask for more, i always get it and it's very hard to fight!
My fiance tries to help me but he is skinny as a rail and doesn't know much about nutrition.
My doctor has not been very helpful (I've already switched doctors twice).
I feel like I've tried everything on the planet and I'm running out of options.

I'm getting married in December and would like to lose as much as I can. Even 20 lbs would make me happy.
Can anyone help?????

I've been trying to lose weight for about 6 years and just seem to be getting bigger.
Right now I weigh 289.
I would like to weigh about 160.




Edited 8/22/2006 6:48 pm ET by misschiqquie
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:36pm

Hi There! My name is Jena. I also binge quite frequently and have recently lost 85 lbs. with about 135 lbs more to go. I have tried every diet known to man kind and sure they work for awhile but not as quick as I can gain it all back and then some. For me "dieting" does not work. I said enough is enough. I got tired of looking at it like well I can't have this and I can't have that. I changed my attitude and said oh look I can have this and that. I decided to incorporate colorful veggies into my diet (the more colorful, the better the nutrients - for example a red pepper). I also decided that I would change from eating high fat high refined sugar carbohydrates to whole grains like whole grain bread, whole wheat pasta and brown rice instead of white bread, regular pasta, white rice, packaged meals/rice like hamburger helper. I also decided that I would break my meals down into 5-6 small meals everyday. And I added variety to my diet so I would get bored. If I wanted Chicken Quesdillas one night I just changed the ingredients around to fit my diet. I also make sure I drink 64 oz of water everyday no excuses. I also decided that I need atleast 8 hours of sleep and I go to bed at the same time everyday to get into a routine. I don't know about you, but if I don't get 8 hrs. sleep I'm a little groggy the next day. Hope this helps! Didn't mean to give you so much info., sorry!!! Good Luck on your weightloss journey. I know you are frustrated, but just keep on going and you will see success.

Take Care, Jena
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 10:25pm

Very good point about the sleep, Jena.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 8:31am

I am sorry that you're so frustrated with this whole thing.. it takes a while with trial and error until you find something that really works for you. Everybody is different and even if a program shows success with many people it doesn't mean it will work for everyone. Many people (including me) can't work with structured diets. Its too restrictive for me and eventually I'll end up binging big time. What works for me is to make healthier choices and schedule treats. I know that if I'm good all week I can have a huge Sundae ice cream on the weekend. If this is too far away, you can think about daily treats.. if you've been good all day you can have a small treat (make sure it's 'small' so that it doesn't ruin the whole day work). What really works for me is scheduling everything. I know what I will eat at breakfast, lunch and dinner. If I don't plan, I fail. I also journal. Every bite I put in my mouth I write it down. This takes care of a lot of mindless eating. Also it keeps me more focused and I have a constant reminder of my goals.


Please come here often and ask for everybody's support. We're all going through this or have been at a certain point. We can get through this together.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 8:33am
One more thing.. did you consult with your doctor? Get your thyroid checked, rule out anything that can cause weight gain or prevents weight loss.. any medication/birth control

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 9:56am

Thanks for all the support ladies.
I was having a really bad day yesterday.
I'm feeling a little better today.

To answer your question merry-am, I'm on birth control but i have to stay on, as it helps control my ovarian cysts. I had blood work done 2 wks ago (haven't heard back from my doctor yet, grrrrr). The last blood work I had done showed everything completely normal, I was actually hoping it would show something as an explanation for my difficulties losing weight. It looks as though I just have too many emotional things holding me back. I am on antidepressants (Lexapro)--which doesn't cause weight gain and can cause weight loss in some people (fingers crossed!!!) I'm just so unhappy with myself, but I can't seem to get a hold on my eating habits. And people tell me I don't want it bad enough otherwise I'd be able to control myself, but that's SO NOT TRUE. The only program that I have been successful with was low carb eating. I didn't go crazy with all the fat and greasy foods, I just restricted my processed carbs and was able to lose 40 lbs but then I got tired of it and went crazy eating all those things again and of course, gained it all back with interest. I'm trying to start seeing a therapist to maybe help me get through some of these issues, but the prospect of that doesn't really excite me so I've been kind of dragging my feet. *sigh* I'm just typing what's coming to mind right now, I'm sorry it's so long.

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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:46pm
Hey, girlfriend.
Sarah