Comment at Restaurant

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Registered: 08-09-2006
Comment at Restaurant
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:31pm
I have 4 young boys 1-10 yrs old. We went to Ponderosa as a family a couple months ago and I help my kids get their food and get it for my younger 2 boys. it takes me 2 -3 trips before I go up for myself. Anyway, when I went up to get my food there was an older lady that was on the heavy side and i heard her tell her husband "see that women up there, i don't know how many times shes been up there, she was just up there getting food" I didn't know what to say, I felt Stupid. I was getting a salad and i didn't even finish putting the extras on and I didn't get up to get anything for myself again. She staired at me the whole time. I know I shouldn't care or i should have said something, i felt so down and realized then i did need to do something, at least i didn't eat too much though, not the point i know. Has anyone else had this happen? Thank you all for your support and you understand!! Thank you, wendy
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Registered: 07-18-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:46pm

Hi Wendy - God, people are soooo rude!!! People really don't get it do they? It's so hard when you are morbidly obese and trying to lose weight. I mean I had to lose 85 lbs before anyone even started to notice. I remember I went to a restaurant once and I couldn't fit into the booth. God was I embarrassed and there was a couple across from us who kind of smirked. It was horrible. You know what I ended up ordering something healthy and just had the attitude of screw them I'm doing the best I can and I am having success so what do I care what they think? Just let that comment slide right off of you and stay on your weightloss plan. Remember, if you need to talk we're here.

Take Care, Jena
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Registered: 06-11-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:56pm

i would of looked right at her and been like "you try getting food for 4 young boys in one round trip" and then walked away. i think too many of us are trying to be nice when rude comments are made. nobody is perfect. and yes we are over weight and yes it's one of the most obvious things that can be poked at. BUT COME ON. if she was staring at you the whole time she should have noticed the 4 boys with you. i'm sorry you attack who i am in public i'm going to be rude back. it was not her place to make that comment. old people can be soooooooo rude and thoughtless.

hey i'm proud of you. 4 boys out to eat. i take my hat off to you. don't mind people like that. you are changing you. be proud of yourself and the changes you are making for the better. i know it's going to take 7 positive comments to reverse that one. but please, smile and be proud.

-Audrey

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Registered: 03-01-2006
Tue, 08-22-2006 - 9:44pm

Is it Rude Idiot Week or something? I have to get a better calendar, I keep missing these things!


I'm so sorry you were upset like that.

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Registered: 02-06-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 7:50am
Isn't it so easy to pick on an overweight person at a restaurant? I wonder when will people grow up! I mean my sister was stick thin and you can't believe the stuff she packed on her plates and she never got a look.. but not an overweight person (me).. instant judgement is given. These things sometimes just make my blood boil.

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Registered: 08-09-2006
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 8:42am
I want to thank all of you for your comments, they are all great and help me out a great deal. Thank you, wendy