Frustrated with myself today!

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Registered: 07-18-2006
Frustrated with myself today!
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Tue, 09-05-2006 - 8:30pm
All weekend I did nothing but eat and today wasn't any better. My nerves are on end. I am Bipolar (manic-depressive) and I have only been sleeping about 3-4 hrs a night since Friday. I went and talked to this really cute guy (that I have an interest in) at church. He was so nice and he was encouraging me to go to a special thing for our age group. I ended up not going because I was supposed to spend the night at my Gram's. Anyway, he is very nice, very tall (I'm 5'11" so this is a good thing), stable and a gentleman(unlike my ex-husband). This is the first time since I've gotten divorced almost three years ago that I have even felt an attraction for another man. I have lost alot of weight (he didn't know me back before I started losing weight). Even though I have lost almost 90 lbs., I am still a really big girl. I doubt that he would even consider being romantically involved with someone like me. Everytime I see him I almost ask him out but, as usual my weight holds me back. Plus, I would just die if he said he was already dating someone and he couldn't. I would have to see him every week then. What should I do? If I was manic, I would have already asked him out and kissed him by now! When I'm manic, I feel sexy, confident, funny (or atleast I think I am at the time), high-energy (and I mean HIGH!) and only need about an hour of sleep at night to keep going. I don't think I have ever asked out a man in my entire life. Any love advice out there for us big girls?
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 8:10am

Wohooo!! Love is in the air!


OK here's me: I am a bit old fashioned when it comes to dating so I wouldn't probably ask him for a date that early on.. I like to get to know him first.. a bit casual you know.. go to this or that meeting & all.. then start to

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 9:21am
At risk of being too much of a mom, what's the rush with this guy? Why not let things unfold on their own for a while and enjoy that tingly flirty feeling? If you ask him out later once you know him better and he knows you better, it will be that much sweeter if he says yes and if he says no you'll maybe understand more about him and know why he said no. All the best, Mama...er...Annie
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Registered: 04-23-2006
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 10:41am

Well...

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 09-07-2006 - 11:20am

I think everyone is right get to know him a little better. Go to some of the meeting and talk to him . Like Kimberly said causally ask if he ever brings his girlfriend and then you know which direction to go.

In my opinion if a guy doesn't like cause of your weight then he's not really worth it. He should like you for you. Best of luck :o)

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