Depressed

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Registered: 10-12-2005
Depressed
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Sun, 09-10-2006 - 6:31pm
I used to love having pics taken of me. Lately, I feel so depressed when I look at them. I have no motivation whatsoever!! I'm looking into weight loss surgery. Hopefully when it's submitted this time my new insurance covers it. I just seem to hate myself more and more for having problems with food. I'm an emotional eater. Ok, I just had to vent.
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Registered: 07-17-2006
In reply to: kygirl79
Sun, 09-10-2006 - 8:05pm
Hey there-- I have been in your shoes. How did I get fat...by emotional eating. I have been depressed, and felt like there was no hope. I think sometimes the fear of changing holds us back. Know that you are for sure not alone in your journey to becoming healthy- by whatever means you chose (healthy ways that is - no anorexia or bulemia) Hang in there, tomorrow si that start of a whole new week. Good luck!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: kygirl79
Sun, 09-10-2006 - 8:37pm
Hi Kygirl,
I can completely relate to your feelings of depression. I'm down about 20 or 25 pounds from my top weight and starting to see changes in my size--down to the 18/20 range. I was finally feeling pretty good about my progress and then today DH turned his new camcorder on me. Holy crap! He wasn't recording, just showing it on the TV and I almost screamed. I'm determined though to lose that mindset. I don't want others to turn on me or be repulsed because of my exterior, why should I do that to myself? No one knows more than I do how hard I'm trying and that I've made progress. Even surgery won't change your weight problem overnight and some people have side effects and even worse body image problems post-surgery. I'm not trying to talk you out of it, but please try to think better of yourself. We are all so much more than just our weight, just our size--even normal weight people. All the best, Annie
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Registered: 11-13-2004
In reply to: kygirl79
Sun, 09-10-2006 - 9:53pm
yes I have this problem too and I am obese.
Maryanne
322/318/250
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Registered: 01-05-2006
In reply to: kygirl79
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 12:39am
I've been away for awhile, but when I read your message it really hit home. I weigh at least 400lbs. and like you I hate myself. I hate having my picture taken too and I also seriously considered surgery. I was told how dangerous it was for me to have it and I realized I was looking for a miracle. The surgery is not as easy as you think. My sister had it and went through hell. She didn't have a lot of complcations, but the eating plan and other little things about the surgery are very hard on you. She lost a lot of weight real fast and she was the happiest woman alive...for a while. Then she stated to gain it all back. So please think about this decision to have the surgery very carefully. It is dangerous and it is not the permanent solution you are looking for. Just find a way of eating that you're happy with and lose weight slowly. Of course I'm one to talk being how super big I am, but seeing what my sister went through it's the best advice I can give you.Good luck on whatever you do. I'm in your corner.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
In reply to: kygirl79
Mon, 09-11-2006 - 6:42am

Pictures are usually depressing for me too.. even after I lost some weight I still dread being caught off guard in a picture.. But what really lift me up is that dh saw a picture of me at a company gathering and he was like: you don't look like that! So a little bit of relief there LOL


Tell you what.. why don't you join us here for a while.. until your new insurance kicks in.. and try losing some weight with diet & exercise. You may chose you like it better than the surgery and even if you don't then you have a head start with the weight loss.. you have nothing to lose there :)


I hope you decide to join us.. we really understand where you're coming from and I bet everyone here passed with the same pictures experience and frustrations you're describing. Good luck in your journey (whatever you decide)

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