Hon, just try to relax. He knows you for you not your looks and that is more important right? Plus I am sure you will still feel self concious for a while. You have lost rather quickly and change take time to get used to so give yourself some time to get used to the new you. I know that is easier said than done but just try to calm down. If he wants you for your looks over the inner you, do you really want him anyways??
I've come to know you as a kind, considerate person and one of your most endearing qualities is your lack of judgment when you respond to other posters. What if you approached your own reflection with the same kindness and empathy? Look at that woman within who is so much healthier, who is a more active and engaged mom, and who is on her way to a permanent change. Isn't it great that she's making such impressive long range changes? I'll bet if you approach yourself with the same attitude that you do the rest of us you won't see the size 26 and you won't respond out of vanity. I'm sure that whatever this guy sees in you he finds you hot inside and out! He told you as much. Believe him! Annie
Exactly!!! What do you have to worry about, he still wants to see you no matter what.
As for you feel fat for swimming in your pants??? WHY?? I would feel FANTASTIC, hey my old clothes are falling off me, cook!! I wish I could feel that. LOL
Everything is going to be A OK where guy is concerned so relax and enjoy the new you!!
You are going sooo good. You remind me of myself 20 years ago...all nervous about getting together with someone. Please please please don't let this sidetrack you.
All these lovely ladies gave you such wonderful words of advice. I do have to strongly agree with Staci and the fact that pictures never ever lie. I found that when I had lost roughly 80lbs a few years back, and had taken monthly pictures it helped to see the real me even tho I didn't see it in the mirror. Never could see that slimmer me the whole time I was losing and would be baffled when people would compliment on how "small" I was. LOL
60lbs is alot to be proud of, celebrate it loud & proud! I bet you look wonderful and will bowl him over with how great you look and feel. Body image is a hard concept to wrap your mind around, something that everyone will struggle with at one point or another. Like it was mentioned, good fitting clothes will make you feel fitter, not to mention make you look smaller and more put together. Definitely go for a new outfit right before you meet, you'll be a knockout I just know it!
Well, I've heard that you should picture yourself thin, also, but I don't know how well that really works.
Angela
Angela
Thanks Staci.
Exactly!!! What do you have to worry about, he still wants to see you no matter what.
As for you feel fat for swimming in your pants??? WHY?? I would feel FANTASTIC, hey my old clothes are falling off me, cook!! I wish I could feel that. LOL
Everything is going to be A OK where guy is concerned so relax and enjoy the new you!!
Angela
Angela
You are going sooo good. You remind me of myself 20 years ago...all nervous about getting together with someone. Please please please don't let this sidetrack you.
Just keep up the good work, man or no man.
All these lovely ladies gave you such wonderful words of advice. I do have to strongly agree with Staci and the fact that pictures never ever lie. I found that when I had lost roughly 80lbs a few years back, and had taken monthly pictures it helped to see the real me even tho I didn't see it in the mirror. Never could see that slimmer me the whole time I was losing and would be baffled when people would compliment on how "small" I was. LOL
60lbs is alot to be proud of, celebrate it loud & proud! I bet you look wonderful and will bowl him over with how great you look and feel. Body image is a hard concept to wrap your mind around, something that everyone will struggle with at one point or another. Like it was mentioned, good fitting clothes will make you feel fitter, not to mention make you look smaller and more put together. Definitely go for a new outfit right before you meet, you'll be a knockout I just know it!
♥danielle