Does your weight affect your sex life?

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Does your weight affect your sex life?
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Thu, 11-02-2006 - 7:05am

A question for the brave LOL..


Does being overweight have any affect on your sex life? Is it all in your head or does it also have to do with your partner?


Did I just open a can of worms?

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 8:03am

Sara, I am turning green reading the "imaginative (sometimes kinky)" statement LOL... For fear of providing TMI or X-rating the post I'll leaving it at that ROFL... But really, you go! Both of you

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 8:29am

A lot of rambling coming up


I met dh when I was around 160-165 lbs.. back then he thought I can afford to shed a few pounds so I can only imagine what he thinks now LOL. He never says anything though (the need to shed a few pounds comment came before we started seriously dating, we were friends and both of us were very blunt and we never offended each other by these type of comments, I think LOL.. he had a bit of a gut himself ROFL).


As I already said he never says anything, but I know he's watching. Like noticing I lost some weight off my butt and commenting on it a few days ago. Don't get me wrong it is lovely to get comments, but the fact that I'm being checked out like that is making me more self conscious. I used to love getting checked out, but not anymore.


For the most part I've always been

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 8:41am
I understand that completely Mary. I too usually initiate so it is a bit of a hinderance!!

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 9:07am

ok then...

What about "self-pleasure"?

Does your weight have an effect on that?

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 10:02am

Hey guys!

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 10:55am
No, but that's really not the same.

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 2:49pm

Mary,

You are worth so much more than that ex-husband of yours. Perhaps he was picking on you to compenstae for some of his own "inadequicies" (I know I spelled that wrong!)

I have a good friend who did not get her first kiss until she was 20 and we were in college, and she is now 25 still waiting to do much more. I tell her all the time that I know it is easy for me to say since I am married- but there is a plan out there bigger than all of us - and what you have accomplished in your life is worth far more than any man.

I am sorry you had to go through being called ugly and a "circus freak"

I wish you a future happy and fun sex life :)

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Sun, 11-05-2006 - 2:57pm

POSSIBLE TMI

Well - as I posted before- I certainly does! We are still newly weds (going on 8 months) but we have been together for over 4 years. Before we got married the sex was great! I was his first- so he does not really have anything to compare to. During that time I lost about 35 lbs- and it got even better! When we got engaged I realzed that we should probably not have been having premarital sex- and we cut it off- for the whole year prior to our wedding. From Jan 06- my wedding in March I gained 3o lbs (just what bride needs) Our honeymoon was fine- but since then it is just off. If I catch a glimpse of msyelf nakes in the wrong light-i don't want to have sex for a while. And when I do try to initiate- I get turned down about 80% of them time. (To his credit during the football season he works about 70 hours a week and is genuinely tired)

I have tried explaining that this rejection makes me more self concious and want sex even less- but he swaers he is not turning me down for any reason other than tiredness. He tells me daily how beautiful he thinks I am.

So long sotry short - yes it does!

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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 1:17pm

Mostly lurk, but felt compelled to answer this one....my weight/size most definitely affects my sex life. Not only do I feel self-conscious, that's secondary to the physical restraints, as far as I am concerned. I don't have as much energy, positions are extremely limited due to joint pain/discomfort/fatigue. I find it difficult to reach areas that I used to be able to reach. My belly gets in the way, the breasts can even get in the way. Most certainly, I don't have near the stamina that I had 75 pounds ago. I find it hard to believe that I am the only one who seems to have physical difficulty with sex, but there it is. My physical state bothers me a lot, but apparently not enough to take action.

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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 2:03pm
Definately not. My bf and I still enjoy each other very much. Part of this may be because he is 20yrs older than me and seems to enjoy having a 25yr old gf, but we mostly talk to each other, if one is uncomfortable we talk about it and discuss why, that usually gets me over that really quickly. We talk about everything. As for physically: It doesn't matter if a guy can lick his own eyebrow, as long as he can convince you he can :)