Does your weight affect your sex life?

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Does your weight affect your sex life?
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Thu, 11-02-2006 - 7:05am

A question for the brave LOL..


Does being overweight have any affect on your sex life? Is it all in your head or does it also have to do with your partner?


Did I just open a can of worms?

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Registered: 10-25-2006
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 3:02pm

Oh, wow! lol


Well, I would say that it definitely has an impact on our sex life. When we married I was about 215-220 range. We had ALOT of fun. We were both virgins when we got married so I think we had to be a little extra wild! lol Anyway, by the time we were married for 6 months I was already in the 260 range. Now after almost 4 years I'm about 296. It has slowed down and changed our sex life very much. I look at myself and think "how on earth does he still want me?" KWIM? I love being with him, but I almost get a sick feeling because of thinking about my body. I get uncomfortable and I really hate that because it hurts him. I'm sooooo ready to lose this weight.

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Mon, 11-06-2006 - 3:05pm

""It doesn't matter if a guy can lick his own eyebrow, as long as he can convince you he can :) "

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Registered: 11-06-2006
Mon, 11-06-2006 - 7:16pm
OMG I totally think being overweight and not liking what I look like has A LOT to do with why my husband and I do not have sex often..... :(
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 6:42am

You were both virgins when you got married? Ha! We're not the only ones then LOL


Edited to say: Darn this thread.. it's turning into a TMI scandal LOL



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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 6:59am
I can relate to the physical restrains issue... right now after I lost only 30lbs I can feel a big difference, both in my energy levels and in the positions I can get into. I am more flexible and my knees hurt a lot less (still do though). I think I can attribute exercise to these improvements also.

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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 8:46am

I find it disheartening that a majority of these posts reflect that poor self-image is the biggest hinderance that weight has on sex. I know that poor self image usually comes with the territory, I have similar issues. I am simply saddened by the fact that it seems to be the main issue that prevents many women from truly enjoying sex, more accurately....intimacy. Most posts make it sound like the sex itself is not affected by weight, but the closeness/intimacy of it is. Perhaps I read too much into these things in my current state of mind.

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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 9:55am

OMG! You are literally the first person that I have met that both of you were virgins when you got married too! That's so cool, and SO rare. I usually get reactions like "you're kidding!" LOL

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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 7:59pm
Sorry to say yes.. It is not a good feeling also a huge wound in the heart for others whom are very sensitive till it’s cured because when we gain the weight with a 99.9% free choice! it's not easy to lose it and will take longer than we think to boost it...
I liked the idea of the newest nutritionist whom are managing our food “portion” to make us loose faster but still don't like the taste of it, so I don't like the idea of letting anyone controls me!! I'd enjoy what I choose better. We have to control our selves and lives too to be happy too.
Speaking of sex life, it is influenced of course by weight because we won’t have the energy and/or the ability to enjoy the great feeling of sex with the partner as long there is no self satisfaction to ourselves.. Women should pay attention to that point because if you don’t feel happy toward yourself, you won’t be able to give it to the other part. It’s a mutual relationship and if, I am saying if the other part “MAN” is accepting the fact of you being fat it won’t be for long because who really enjoying this beautiful energizing feeling is the woman more than the man.
Take my advise, try to go for stretching classes under supervision of an expert, it’s good for flexibility and inner satisfaction rather than the main problem which is weight till we do something without getting ourselves to surgery or clipping our stomach.
Wish you happiness and good life.
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Thu, 11-09-2006 - 4:09am
I am single mom who is 150 pounds over weight. I didnt think about my weight being an issue when I was married. I was able to enjoy sex often. After my divorce I was very self conscience about my weight. I avoided it as long as I could. I have since learned that there are a lof men who dont care about my weight. Believe it or not there are men who love to have sex with overweight women. So that being said, I feel as long as you are able, you can enjoy sex as long as you can relax and enjoy it.
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Thu, 11-09-2006 - 9:13am

Lilred, your post made me think (not a good thing for me cuz I usually turn into a drama queen LOL)..


>>>I am simply saddened by the fact that it seems to be the main issue that prevents many women from truly enjoying sex, more accurately....intimacy.<<<


I really agree with you on this one. I usually get p*ssed off at people who descriminate others because of their weight... and to a certain extent I am doing the same thing to myself. I am putting myself in the 'not deserve to have good sex' category just because I look a certain way.


See? I told you I can turn into a drama queen :)

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