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Can ya top this???
| Sun, 12-17-2006 - 4:03pm |
Went for a little holiday luncheon today and saw a great aunt that I havent seen in years (10 years?). When we were leaving and walking in the parking lot she rubbed my tummy and said (disclaimer: we were not talking about weight or pregnancy when she said this) "Oh don't worry about this....this will go down eventually...you'll lose the weight". Uh...I had a baby on October 18th, Im in my pre pregnancy clothes (lost the preggo weight..just have another 50 lbs to go now...sigh) but beyond that can you ever imagine saying that to someone? I know I shouldnt let it bother me but I feel self concious to begin with...my tummy is a major concern for me after 3 kids (2 in less than 2 years). It just took the wind out of my sails on a day when I thought I looked ok.



Oy, old ladies! You know they pretty much say anything that comes into their heads, right? My dh's family is full of them and they don't mind telling you if you look fat or if you've lost weight either. Sometimes, you just wish they hadn't said anything at all...
My dh's grandma was commenting several years ago on how much weight I'd lost. It was only about 30 lbs., but she was acting like it was amazing. I was feeling pretty good about this, until she laid this one on me about my former rear end: "Before, you could ride that thing!" Uh...thanks, grandma, thanks for saying my ass used to be the size of a horse's. I had to laugh, though.
Here's a try...
My first job was at a daycare center. We had a few sub. teachers who would come in on call if they were needed. One such particular "lady" hadn't been in for several months and upon seeing me exclaimed (in front of coworkers, kids, parents and all) "Oh, my goodness you've put on weight!!" I admit I had gained about 20 lbs; I was in a deep depression after having a miscarriage (1st tri, no one even new). She had no right to say that in front of everyone. So, I looked her up and down and said "So have you." Rude, I know, but she had and I couldn't stop myself. She got really upset and stompt out of the room. Later in the day, I had a talk with my boss whom the other teacher had told what I said. I appologized to my boss for my unprofessional behavior (I was 16 at the time), and one of the coworkers who was there when it happened explained to the boss what had been said to me, which of course, the other teacher had conveniently left out.
You're right, you shouldn't let it bother you. You're doing a great job and she has no idea what she's talking about. Hey she's your great aunt.. and saying unexpecting things like that is in
At least she didn't think you were still PG..
I had my kids 16 months apart.
We were having family pics taken (w/ DH side of the family) about a month after Zac was born and my SIL, whom i only usually see on holidays asked me.. "YOu're still pg! when you gonna have that baby" and I told her " actually, I already did" and pointed to the couch where he was sleeping... she didn't say too much to me after that. I almost felt sorry for her cause she couldn't look me in the eyes the rest of the day.
- about 2 months ago while my DD (who will be 3 in february) was going potty, she out of the blue said "mommy you have a big butt and i have a little butt"... i didn't know how to respond, so i said "yeah, i do, but thats ok"
Sara
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Edited 12/18/2006 9:23 am ET by saej72
Sara
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Thank you very much.
Of course in that pic, i was all "gussied" up cause we were at an outdoor wedding.
on a typical day, i have my hair up in a ponytail. I usually wear makeup (foundation & powder) every single day cause i had real bad acne as a teen (and still do sometimes).. so i have some scars on my face...
Sara
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http://www.babiesonline.com/babies/s/samanthagrace/
http://saej72.extrapounds.com/
Sara
342-300-200
Well I can't top it, but I can probably come even with ya :)
I've lost 20 lbs and have 25 more to go.
Come visit my page and say hi!I don't know if it tops it but....
In the 7th grade I had a girl ask if I was pregnant. She was just doing it to be mean I'm sure, and I didn't like her anyway so I never really talked to her again.
I was also riding my bike down the street about a year ago and a guy yelled out of his truck "lose some weight"
People can be very rude sometimes!
I'm so sorry to hear about your awful discussion. I've been there. Twice my husband's family has made me feel like dirt on the ground. The morning after I'd given birth to my son, my father-in-law was sitting in the hospital room and said to me (now mind you he's no twig himself), "Wow!! You really gained a lot of weight during the pregnancy!" I noticed he was looking at my extremely swollen post-IV ankles, and told him so, but it really hurt. Then a few months later, we took my mother-in-law (they're divorced) out to dinner, and she looked at my healthily-plump baby and then at me and said, "I think he has your double-chin, Jennifer." What in the h--l do you say to a comment like that??!!
I feel your pain, sister!
Jennifer, Proud SAHM to Benjamin Michael
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