New and Need support!

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Registered: 09-11-2006
New and Need support!
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Tue, 12-19-2006 - 4:10pm

Hello all! My name is Cindy and I am 310 pounds. I need to lose weight because I know if I don't I will have many health problems. My problem is that just recently I got down to 279 and then I jumped back and forth from 300 to 279 and I couldn't keep off the weight. I was swimming a mile 4 days a week and I felt good. anyway I just really need the support of others to help me to eat better and keep the weight off instead of jumping back and forth. Any suggestions would help me immensly. Just as a background I have two wonderful children A DD who is almost 5 and a DS who is 2. I am married and I am an at home mom. I just finished my associates degree and I will continue on with my Bachelors when My children are in school. I do want to have more kids but I would like to concentrate on losing weight first. Thanks in advance for any support and help you can give me. I think that I will do better when I have the support to lose it where as I haven't had much support around here. (I love my DH but every time i tell him I need to lose weight he says I love you just the way you are.) ANyway that is a whole other soap box and my post is getting really long. So here goes with the weight loss and I hope to be able to lose it and keep it off with the help of you wonderful posters!

Cindy

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Registered: 12-10-2006
Fri, 12-22-2006 - 6:56am

Hi Cindy! My start weight was 310 too and my fDH (that's "f" for future, we're engaged) is the same way. He says he loves me just the way I am and wasn't very supportive initially. I explained to him that I know he loves me and I'm not questioning that, but that I want to lose weight so I'll be healthier and happier with myself. He understood that much better and is now even adapting himself to a healthier lifestyle because he decided he wants the same for himself (though he doesn't need to lose nearly as much as me). We're both eating healthier and exercising. It's much easier to skip the junk food if there isn't any in the house.

Just explain to DH that you love him and your children SO much & you want to be healthier so that he and the kids will have you around for a long, long time. Also, it's easier to lose the weight now, before you start having weight-related health issues. A lot of guys also tend to fear (whether they realize it or not) that if you lose the weight, you'll decide you're too good for him and leave. Although saying that flat out probably won't help (guys hate to admit their insecurities), be sure that as you lose the weight, you give him lots of reassurance of how much you love him, how happy you are to be with him and how lucky you are to have such a wonderful family.

As for the difficulty sticking to a healthy diet, sometimes it's too much to change your diet and exercise habits overnight. If you find regular exercise easier to commit to, start with that. Once you've developed a routine, focus on changing your diet. Although the initial weight loss won't be as quick this way, it's more likely that you'll stick to the new healthier lifestyle. I'm the opposite way. I lost my initial weight by focusing on diet and am now incorporating regular exercise to maximize my weight loss. When I'm tempted to binge on some junk food, I just think about the exercise I've done and I decide the junk food isn't worth it.

Good luck and remember we all know what you're going through and we're here to help and support eachother.

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