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How committed am I?
| Wed, 12-20-2006 - 1:58pm |
I am so freaking frustrated with myself. Because I go through the same cycle over and over again. I start to lose, start to feel good, then everything flies out the door. I start eating tons of junk food, tons of fast food. Its totally ridiculious, and I can't stand it anymore!!!
How committed am I to weight loss? Because if I was really there 100 percent, I wouldn't have such huge setbacks. Sets backs yes. But not days and days and days of setbacks in a row! And when I fall off, its so hard to start again! ARGGHHHHH! Can you tell I am so mad at myself, and everything? I just don't know how to not fall back into the cycle.
Part of my problem is, I go to the gym with someone. But it isn't consistent. So, I think I am about to say, I can't do this inconsistently. I am going to start my own workout schedule, and just forget about the gym. That's what I was doing before she decided that she wanted to go back to the gym anyway. But she isn't committed and she cancels on me all the time!!!!!
I'm sorry. I am just really upset with myself. This is going to get me no where, and I always feel sick and guility after I eat bad food. I just don't know how to snap myself out of it!
Tami
How committed am I to weight loss? Because if I was really there 100 percent, I wouldn't have such huge setbacks. Sets backs yes. But not days and days and days of setbacks in a row! And when I fall off, its so hard to start again! ARGGHHHHH! Can you tell I am so mad at myself, and everything? I just don't know how to not fall back into the cycle.
Part of my problem is, I go to the gym with someone. But it isn't consistent. So, I think I am about to say, I can't do this inconsistently. I am going to start my own workout schedule, and just forget about the gym. That's what I was doing before she decided that she wanted to go back to the gym anyway. But she isn't committed and she cancels on me all the time!!!!!
I'm sorry. I am just really upset with myself. This is going to get me no where, and I always feel sick and guility after I eat bad food. I just don't know how to snap myself out of it!
Tami

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Tami, Hi, I'm Susan and I too can understand your frustration. In the past when I have eaten fast food, I ask myself what I could have eaten that would have been healthier for me and always come up with an answer.
One thing you could start doing if you would like to try is if you must have fast food, eat something from a fast food restaurant, one day a week and choose something semi-healthy. You could also try Subway. They have really good food and most of their sandwhiches are under 6 grams of fat! How wonderful is that?!? Keep a food diary and after about a week look at it and see would you could possibly eliminate.
Just some suggestions! Hope it helps. -Susan
Tami,
I think you are committed, and you do know what to do.
If you weren't committed, why would you be posting? Why would you be frustrated? If you didn't care, you'd just go out for a hot fudge sundae and buy the next size clothes...I've been there, done that..and it is so not helpful!
And you know what to do - you came here and asked for support. You looked at what you are doing and how it makes you feel - and you're making a plan for some changes.
It must be so frustrating to be counting on your friend for encouragement/company and have her not meet her committment to you. But that doesn't mean you should let yourself down. If you aren't comfortable going to the gym alone, then by all means, make a Tami-centered plan to work out some way that you like.
We are so close to the end of the year when I bet we'll all be resolving to do better - can you pick three or four days over the next 10 that you will work out, and three or four when you will eat on plan, and then really stick to that? Then you'll have a running start for 2007!
This is a very hard thing we are doing, and no one can be perfect at it 100% - if it were easy America wouldn't have an obesity epidemic. But we are praticing at living a healthier life, and they say practice makes perfect.
I believe that you can do this!
SJ
225-172-135
Hey Tami,
Yep, I think we have all been there on that yo-yo. When I go by MacDonald's I glare at the restaurant and say "You make me fat and unhealthy, I hate you and I don't need you." And I usually can keep driving. But sometimes, those dang quarter pounders still call at me, and I turn in. But I do so very very consciously, knowing that I am about to do something that is unhealthy. However, when I do that, I don't feel guilty. Because I am making a lifestyle change and going to MacD's is something I will probably do for the rest of my life. So when I place my order, I think about where I can cut calories and how far I am gonna walk, to help make up for it. Then I follow thru with it, and I can eat my quarter pounder occassionally (hate spelling that word) and not feel guilty.
There was a time a few weeks ago that I did do something that is NOT in my lifestyle change and I felt like I fell off the wagon. I almost ate a whole dozen donuts in like 6 hours due to emotional overeating - It was so bad, but I came here (like you did) and posted - and the angels here got me back on track :)
So, keep up here and I know you can do this!
~ Kim
314/235/135
Angela
Angela
Tami,
You just summed up every conversation I've had with myself for the last couple of months.
Okay, here's my thinking on it all via an analogy. My DS (1st grade) just recently started reading, I mean REALLY reading. For months he's been struggling and slogging his way through book after book: guessing at words, not sounding them out, blaming me, blaming DH, giving up, slamming books. I'd tell him just keep trying, just keep doing the right things, it's okay to mess up. I honestly think he learned the most from messing up and from doing all the things that didn't work. Now he can't stop reading everything in sight. Every day harder and longer books. Every day increased confidence. A few months ago he never thought he'd really learn.
So maybe we need to learn from our mistakes too. I've really been off plan, but at my worst I haven't done as poorly as I was doing six months or so ago. We have to stay focused on what we can do moving forward, not on all the mess ups. Being down on yourself doesn't put your best foot forward. Hang in there, sweetie! Annie
Tami,
Don't let your gym partner's inability to commit make it more difficult for you. If she's not reliable, set up your own workout schedule and stick to that. If you're comfortable going it alone at the gym, let your workout buddy know when you'll be there and invite her to join you whenever she can. If, like me, you hate going to the gym by yourself, make yourself a non-gym workout schedule that you can do yourself. Then, on the days that your gym-buddy is available, substitute a gym workout for whatever other workout you had planned for that day (or if you feel up to it - do both!)
Remember that YOU are in control. It's your health and happiness on the line, so don't let anyone get in the way. Also, it helps a lot to set mini-goals. You're going to get really frustrated if you just set a huge goal because it will take time to get there and it's easy to get discouraged in the meantime. Set small goals that are easier to accomplish so that you can keep up your motivation and stay on track.
As for the fast food and junk food, you can try what I do. Tell yourself that this type of food is like a drug. It will make you feel good and happy for a very short period of time. After that, you will feel worse than you did before you ate the food. It's not worth it to put yourself through that emotional pain and stress. If you know you're going to be out running around all day, either pack a meal to take with you or plan to stop at
Subway or something like that that is healthier and still yummy. Keep water or another beneficial liquid with you as it will keep you hydrated and help you feel fuller.
Get back on the horse and give it a swift kick. You can do it.
Dee