Ah, men! (steaming out the ears)
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| Thu, 12-21-2006 - 1:12am |
Or, specifically, MY man!
I'm with you, Sarah, I really do like the darlin'creatures in general, but today... aaarrgh! It was that old "pride cometh before a fall" thing. I've been literally working my butt off this week, trying to hit my short-term goal and feeling pretty good about sticking to plan, being virtuous at holiday parties, exercising, and being under 100 lbs to go. (See my off-my-head celebration post for just how psyched I am about that!)
SO, tonight, shortly after coming home from my office party (one beer and a handful of veggies--no dip!), pretty much out of the blue, my DF Cal asks if I'm going to try to lose some weight in the new year! OK, I try not to bring up the subject too much around him, and make what I'm doing just seem like it's normal, and I do still have a long way to go. AND he almost never mentions my weight except to say something positive. But, sheesh, I have lost around 50 lbs since last Xmas, pal!
OK. Time to put my head down and plow through. And get more exercise! Maybe it's not just weight, it's VOLUME (and flabbiness) that he was responding to. OK. OK. That's my whine/rant, the last of the year and hopefully the last for a long, long time! Thanks for listening.


Hey Misha,
Men are so oblivious sometimes (see Omar the tent maker) They open their mouth and out spews idiocy.
You are doing amazing! You know you are - and you are way better than me at the holiday partys - lol. I am struggling to just maintain this week.
If he mentions it again. "Well, I have been doing great so far, why would I stop now?"
It's not the sarcastic bite, but with guys, sometimes they mean well, and just need to be pointed out the obvious.
*hugs* btw, I love your posts, and you are always an inspiration to me. Keep it up! I'm proud to be losing with you :)
~ Kim
Angela
Angela
Disclaimer: What he said was biting and out of left field and I would have been fuming!
That being said, even the kindest of men sometimes can't get the sensitivity filter turned on. My DH usually makes those kind of comments because he's thinking about me and wondering what's on my mind and he's thinking about the time of year, etc., etc. We had a similar Mars/Venus moment when I was at the 25 pound mark. (Ah sweet memories...) He'd been exercising with me most mornings in place of a lunchtime walk. He by the way is at a healthy weight. He was commenting about getting up early and said something about maybe this just isn't working out because it's not like we're getting results. And I said, "Well, I dropped about 25 pounds since the beginning of summer. Isn't that a result?" He said something about how he'd been noticing and been meaning to tell me. Ugh! He so didn't want to hurt my feelings and was really trying to be supportive.
I seriously feel for the people who love us. Unless you have some twisted fatty fetish it's got to pose a real conflict. Of course they want us to be healthy and fit, but incredibly they love us for who we really are. It must be really hard to find ways to encourage us to correct our weight without sounding like they are judging or being insensitive.
Hang in there sister!
Annie
Thanks, Annie and everyone!
"Mars-Venus moment" is absolutely on the mark to describe it. I know this wasn't meant harshly... but it just snapped me into realizing a) that I still have LOTS to lose to get to a healthy weight and b) it's been a very slow process. Most people I see daily may not even realize that progress is being made.
That's the beauty of this board... you all really DO understand, in a way that most people, however well-meaning, just can't. What would I do without you????
Has someone else mentioned, I think I would have slapped him!
Brightest Blessings
~Dayle~