What Self Confidence?

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Registered: 04-04-2006
What Self Confidence?
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Thu, 12-21-2006 - 8:20pm

Where do I begin. Before I had my baby I felt beautiful and confident, I was at the perfect weight for my height and my husband adored me. Now almost 8 months after my own little angel was born I am over my healthy weight, which I am struggling with weight loss, because I have never had to lose before.

Most days I dont get out of my pajamas, when I think about getting dressed I dread it because I dislike my body so much. Nothing I put on is flattering. Please help me feel better about myself, my negative attitude about it has affected my marriage.

I dont know anything about losing weight I need help, I want to look good, no great, in a bikini by Summertime!

Mommy to you
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Registered: 01-25-2006
Thu, 12-21-2006 - 8:30pm

How much over your healthy weight are you??


Are you sure you do not suffer from postpartum depression?


I suggest you talk to your dr. about depression if it is at all possible that you are having issues with that. Postpartum depression can last for quite some time if you don't recieve help. I should know as mine didn't resolve til my 3rd child was 2 and it started when I was pg with my 6

 

Angela

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-22-2006 - 9:54am

Hi Kenzie,
Welcome to the board! There are a lot of us here who know about both losing and gaining weight so I hope you can find help in losing as well as comfort for the feelings you have about gaining. I can tell you that regardless of how long it takes to lose your weight or how much you need to lose it's important to remember that you are much more than your weight. The people who love you, really love you, don't base it on the size of the jeans you're wearing. They see what can't be measured by clothes or scales. You have to remember what's wonderful about yourself or the self-confidence of being smaller will only be superficial when you get there.

I always feel better about myself when I have fixed my hair, put on a little make up, and given thought to my clothes. Pajamas and sweats say "I'm not worth any bother." Well I AM and so are YOU! Start with the little steps! Wishing you the best, Annie

A
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Registered: 05-19-2004
Fri, 12-22-2006 - 2:01pm
Hi and welcome to the board! I would say first off, I would talk to your husband. Ask him if he would be willing to support you in losing weight. Tell him a few of your goals, and ask if he could be a support system for you. My husband has been so great and everything, after I finally decided to involve him a little more, even if its venting to him because I'm having a craving or feeling frustrated.
Also, learn to love you body where you are now. I know its hard, but if you don't come to terms that this is how you look now, even losing the weight won't be enough, in my opinion. There is a long road ahead of you if you have a lot to lose, and its a lot easier if you aren't "enemies" with you body.
My last suggestion is what Annie said. I go days where I don't wear any makeup, and I'm just hanging out in my workout clothes all day. But putting on something nice, doing my hair, and putting on some makeup, helps me realize how pretty I am, and how much progress I have made. It also helps me feel more attrative, so I become that way to my husband too. If you are feeling gross on the inside, others can sense that, and like you have probably heard before, if you don't love yourself its very hard to give love to someone else.
Good Luck! I know you can do it! And the ladies here will support you along your journey!
Tami
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