looking for friends and support

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Registered: 01-04-2007
looking for friends and support
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Thu, 01-04-2007 - 4:22pm
Hi everyone!! My name is Cassandra, I am 29 years old, I have been married for 10 years, I have a son who will be 10 in a few weeks, and two daughters who are 8 and 5. I have always been a larger person. When my youngest child was born I lost 100lbs but I gained it all back plus a few. I started my new lifestyle journey on Oct. 9th. Since then I have lost 35lbs. I now have about 105 lbs to go to get to my first goal of 150. My biggest discouragment is that no one has noticed my weight loss. I have gone from a size 26 to a size 18/20, I have lost somthing like 35 inches all over, and no one noticed. My dh is awesome and of course he has noticed, but he is also the only person who knows about the change. I feel kind of alone and am looking for some friends that know what I am going through so I can talk about what works and what doesn't and so on. So thats me in a nutshell I guess.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 2:21am

"Alaska is great, I was born in raised in Fairbanks, only leaving for 3 years while my husband was in the army. Sometimes I could do without the cold and dark, but it is such a beautiful place and the summers are awesome with 24 hours of daylight and all the wilderness and wildlife. We are about to hit a cold snap, and tomorrow it is supposed to be close to 40 degrees below zero for three or four days, I hate that part, but it sure makes 20 below (our normal winter temp) feel warm."

Oh, I guess I should have read further before I asked in another post where you are in AK! D'oh! Anyway, I'm originally from Massachusetts, so I thought I knew cold. The coldest I can remember is about 10 below. Now I'm in So. California and it's 68 degrees in my house and I'm freezing under a blanket! Of course, I don't have any shoes on either... I guess I should plan a summer visit, lol. Alaska is such a beautiful state; dh and I love wildlife and open spaces (though we don't get to either very often).

Anyway, welcome aboard again and I look forward to reading your posts!

Mary #3

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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 8:52am
I just wanted to add that sometimes people are afraid to comment on your changing appearance for fear of offending. I know I am apprehensive to say to someone "Wow...youve lost weight!" for fear that they might say "Ah...no"...lol!
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 4:12pm

Mary--Yeah, not alot of people come to visit AK in the winter. But summers are awesome, ecspecially if you like outdoor activities.

Thanks for you comments and support. Everything just really came together for me this time and I am so committed not just to doing it, but to doing it right, and doing it for life. I love getting rid of my too big clothes because I just know that this time I will never let myself go back. It seems like every other time I tried I was battleing my cravings and hunger so much and this time I have them all under control and feel like I have a new life.

I am so glad to have found this place, I think it will help so much to be able to talk to people who know what I am going through!

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 4:16pm
Wendie--I know, I am actually that way too, but I guess there is that part of me that is just looking for acknowledgement and validation. I wish I didn't feel like I needed that.
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 5:01pm
Congratulations on your progress so far! I know first hand how frustrating it can be to work your body to the bone and have nobody bat an eyelash... But remember, you're not doing this for them, you're doing it for you. If they notice and congratulate you, great. If not, who cares? It's a goal that you've acheived and you should be proud regardless whether others notice or not. If you're looking for support and friends, you've come to the right spot!!
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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 5:45pm
Thanks Evelyn!! That is exaclty the mentality I am going for. I am not doing this for anyone but me and my health and mt bettered life. I am so glad I found this place, its a wonderful place for support and information.
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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 9:06pm

I know it's different, but I've dyed my hair from blonde to black before and no has said a word about it to me.

Brightest Blessings

~Dayle~

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 9:08pm
I've been on the other side of the quite a bit and I hate it.

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~Dayle~

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Registered: 12-29-2006
Fri, 01-05-2007 - 9:44pm
I have a silly question...is it hard to fall asleep when it's daylight 24/7? I heard that the summers there are wonderful...beautiful greenery. It's been in the 80's here all week and sticky hot and humid. Sounds like were at different ends of the spectrum!

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Fri, 01-05-2007 - 10:00pm
Dayle--I don't know why I don't tell people, I guess I don't want people watching me or asking me questions ect... I know it seems dumb. I guess part of it is I am the biggest person on either side of the family, my mom had bariatric surgery and still eats everything she wants just in smaller amounts, and doesn't excercise and stays at an average weight, so she doesnt get it, my mil works at a gym and lost over 100 lbs but we arent close, in fact she scares me more than a little bit. Everyone else in my life is average to small. I did tell my best friend but she doesn't live here, she is very supportive though. I guess because of the way that I am it would be better for people not to notice until I am closer to my goal, then I can show it off!!!!!! I hope I don't seem dumb talking about this. I think I am just gonna focus on what I feel about myself and what my dh sees in me. Thanks!!!!