Personal Trainer... HELP - panicking

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Personal Trainer... HELP - panicking
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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 6:37pm

Does anyone here have a personal trainer???

One of the guys I'm dating, (who is REALLY hot) does personal training, with a mix of martial arts... He offered to train me, if I want. And it would be an awesome way to exercise...

But he asked me how much I want to lose. I put the question off for the moment. BUT does your personal trainer need that info? I don't want him to know how much I have to lose nor how much I have lost already. He knows that I am losing and that it was "quite a bit" and I don't think he wants to know because he wants to figure out how much I weigh, I think it's a real question...

But I don't want the person I'm romantically involved with to know...

So do they HAVE to know? or can I just say, I'll let you know when I'm done? lol. (He's on his way over now, to get me for a date, and I'm afraid it's gonna come up again.)

~ Kim
314/230/135

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Registered: 12-29-2006
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 6:53pm

Say something like..."don't you know you're never supposed to ask a woman about her weight." I think kidding a little might be good. Just say you have a goal in mind and you're on your way to reaching it. I hope this helps.


P.S. Be positive you want him to train you before you accept...you know what they say about mixing business with pleasure!

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Mon, 01-15-2007 - 8:29pm

Kim,
I have an incredible personal trainer - I credit him with much of my success.

When I started working with him, I filled out a questionaire, and when it asked what I weighed, I left it blank, bacause I didn't know and didn't want to. I told him that when I hit 200, I stopped weighing myself. He never made any issue about this.

After about five months, one of the guys who worked out at the same time as I did said that he could tell I was working hard and losing weight(first comment I got that way) - and when I reported this to my trainer, he said -'Well, you are and you have!'

He has never asked me what I weigh...at one point, I did volunteer that I had lost 60 pounds (I've been down and up a little) and he has 'bragged' about that a little, but only to people I know well, and always asking me if it was OK first.

Last year, when I was 'stuck' at a weight level and not dropping, and I talked to him about it, he said 'stop weighing yourself every day. I don't care what you weigh - it's about doing the work, not the number'

I can't say enough about how fabulous it is to have someone who plans my workouts, and spends most of the hour saying 'good job' and 'good weight on that' (for what I lift) and yet still pushes me to go further than I ever thought possible. He has let me move at my own pace, while continuing to suggest what I could be doing to move things along.

I am truly blessed with him - but I don't know how it would be if we had a relationship outside the gym, because for me, it is almost like therapy. My trainer is the first person I have ever talked to honestly about the way I feel about food and my weight, and I am pretty sure I couldn't have done that if we had anything other than a professional relationship.

Sorry this is so long- I guess I'd say -ask yourself what you want from a trainer, and make sure your friend can meet that need before you commit to it.

Best wishes
SJ
225-170-135

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Tue, 01-16-2007 - 6:43am
I add my voice to the previous posters, are you REALLY sure you want him to train you? If he pushes you too hard, will you be willing to take that from him without taking it personal? Another thought, will HE be able to do his job well knowing that it can end up touchy?

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Tue, 01-16-2007 - 7:15am

Well, it did come up again, and I ended up being honest. I told him that I just don't want him knowing anything about my weight since we are personally involved. I just want to get healthy. He's fine with that and wants me to give him one month of training to see if I like it.

It wouldn't be weight training, it would be active martial arts, kicking and punching. But you girls are right about mixxing business with pleasure. I have a feeling at the end of the session, it would be steamier than a sauna, lol.

I had never thought about a personal trainer before, because I don't have the money for a gym, let alone a one on one... I don't even know what I want from one or what they are supposed to do.. So this is a whole new thought to me, that I will probably analyze, and over analyze and when I'm done, I'll analyze some more... lol.

~ Kim

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Tue, 01-16-2007 - 10:36am

Wait, Wait, Wait.. ONE of the guys you're dating?????

Sooo...you must be a hot mamma if there's more than one :)

Go you :)

Anyway...on the subject of personal training I don't think it's necessary for him to know specifics. But i don't have a personal trainer :) So I guess I'm not much help...Sorry

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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 3:16am

LOL I didn't catch that one.. "ONE OF THE GUYS I'M DATING"


Hey, how many IS Kim dating?

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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 7:44am

lol - you and Kim made me blush!!

Ummm... to answer your question... a few? There are like 5 that I am actively seeing right now ;) It gets a little difficult, cause I can only see them when I don't have my son... Had to double up on dates a few times. You know, two in one day :P

It's been fun, at first I was just trying to get over the heartbreak of my ex boyfriend, (who has gotten in touch with me again... not sure what is going to happen, I'm nervous) and realizing that men find me beautiful and sexy even at the weight I am, has helped me get over some of the damage my exhusband did.

My girlfriends call it Kamikaze Dating - lol.

I did a few posts on Craig's List that have REALLY had a lot of responses. The first one I did got like 60+ the one that I did a few weeks ago, I'm still getting replies so it's up in the 70's :P With that many, you are bound to find a few that click with you ;)

If you are interested, I attached my post :P It's kind of like fishing - lol.

http://philadelphia.craigslist.org/w4m/258779952.html

So there you go, for inquiring minds ;)

~ Kim
314/230/135

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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 12:26pm

Well I say...GOOD FOR YOU!!!!





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Wed, 01-17-2007 - 4:26pm

Hi Kim,

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