He's setting me back...
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He's setting me back...
| Sun, 02-11-2007 - 3:34am |
My boyfriend has told me many times that he wants me to lose weight. I really want to too. I'm up to 244 after my second child. The problem is... I'm trying to stay on a diet, but every time we have a meal together, he gets upset if I don't eat as much as him, or if I skip something really fatty. It's hard enough to tell myself I don't need the extra helpings, but it makes it harder when he puts it on my plate for me. I'm confused with the whole situation. any suggestions?

That's a really nasty situation. It really sucks when the people at home are not very supportive, or worse, try to sabbotage you.
You have to sit down and talk to him about it (not during the actual meal time when you're trying to say no, but sit down and really talk to him about it). Explain to him how he's messing you up and how you really want to lose the weight. I heard a lot of times that men get insecure (thinks you'll be too good for him once you lose the weight), so maybe emphasise that you're doing this for your health and so on (instead of emphasising on the looks factor)
I hope you can get this situation solved. Please keep us updated
I've been there, and it stinks.
It sounds as if he feels threatened by your weight loss.
Have you flat out told him that by him putting extra food on your plate and things like that are not helping you with your program..
I know that even though my husband is very supportive about my weight loss, sometimes he will say things to me that really piss me off... such as.. "are you sure you're hungry, maybe you should drink some water first".... my typical responce to him (now) is "What are you the food police?!? because when I 1st started my wieght loss journey, i told him that these small little comments, even though he is trying to help me, only make me want to just eat whatever I want just to prove him wrong...
just be open with him, and eventually it will get better.
Sara
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