Update on me...

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Registered: 06-23-2003
Update on me...
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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 12:05pm

Thank you for everyones good thoughts, hugs and prayers. We have been under alot of stress at home. We had a pipe burst. I have been working all nights so I hardly see my family. Kids get up at 6:30 am and are home at 4:00 pm, DH gets up at 3:30 am and gets home about 6:30 pm. DH works for a local wireless company, they have been working on major launches and working weekends, one weekend he did not want to work, was our anniv weekend and said he was going away for the weekend and would not be able to work. So one of his co-workers made him this cd. He said he listened to the 1st couple of songs and then a song came on and he was like whoa whats this, he said he then stopped listening to it. He said he did not want to offend her as they work together and he did not think she was thinking of him that way. I told him to listen to the rest of the cd and he said is it that bad, oh its worse than that. He offered to give me all of his passwords and show me anything. What got to me is that this woman is probably 100 lbs heavier than me and all I could think of was does he not like me losing the weight. He had been telling me I do look good and he can see a difference. We talked for a long, long time. I think we were both so stressed, he works 2 jobs. We have anothdr kid going to college next year.

So we promised to talk to each other even with crazy concerns. He is off on the weekends and I always have to work.I feel better and after 19 years together, I can usually tell when he is lying. I feel better. He did stop by work to see me last night. My store is right by where he works.

On an up note I must say he is so supportive in my lifestyle change. We went to eat the other night just to subway and he wanted to know if I was eating. After our 17 yo was born I lost 70lbs in about 4 months, I wads on the bullimia diet. I do eat which is why I am losing slowly. So he was worried about me too. I told him if I felt the old ways coming back I would tell him.

Thank you everyone. I feel better now still a little stressed.

Kim

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Registered: 01-25-2006
In reply to: xsmom
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 2:37pm
I am so glad to hear that things are a little better. I am glad you talked it out. Best of luck.

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Angela

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: xsmom
Thu, 02-22-2007 - 4:00pm
Kim,
I'm so happy you two talked it out. If it's any help, my DH is completely oblivious to the fact that another woman would make overtures toward him. Once they know he's spoken for they'll just go away. Uh, not always the case, says his wife! We've been married for almost 14 years and together for more than 16 so I can relate to how your radar works on each other. I hope things settle down for you both! Annie
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Registered: 02-06-2006
In reply to: xsmom
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 6:23am
Hi Kim, so glad to hear that you're feeling better. I'm so happy that you've talked through it and settled down your concerns (or some of them at least). Hope

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