I'm trying something new!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I'm trying something new!
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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 10:49am

You're going to think I'm nuts, but then again most of my friends do. This is related only indirectly to weight loss, but since attitude is so important I thought I'd share it. I've been feeling sorry for myself about how differently people treat me now compared to when I was a normal weight. I started wondering how much of this was because I was giving off a vibe that said I wasn't as valuable to myself.

Yesterday I decided everywhere I went I would act like I was holding back a secret. (I kept changing my mind about which secret I was keeping: something raunchy with DH, something wild from college, something I'm really proud of, something I laughingly regret, etc. Some "if they only knew" thing about me.) EVERYWHERE I went people talked to me, smiled at me, joked with me. It was such a lift! It really felt like I had captured that quality from my past.

So this is my new experiment: To stop hiding my light under a bushel! Do you catch yourself concealing what is special about you? Do you forget?

Annie

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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 11:05am

YEP I am a firm believe that how you percieve yourself and how you carry yourself will dictate how others (strangers) treat you. I can't say this about those that actually know you and how they treat you though. LOL


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Angela

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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 10:04pm

Annie,
Not sure if this is the same thing, but when I first had a job that required me to go to meetings, where most of the people out ranked me, I used to always wear sexy lingerie, preferably black, under my conservative business suit and I would think-Oh yeah, I look so professional, but I'm really a wild woman...I don't know why that helped me learn to speak up (and believe me, the line of people who wish I never had is l-o-n-g) but it did.

Now I keep my toes polished all year and that makes me feel sexy and special even though no one knows.

I do think a lot of life is 'fake it til you make it'.

SJ
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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 10:22pm
SJ, It's exactly like your lingerie. It's a fun way to make sure that you hang on to the real you that other people might not be privy to. :-) I've continued to walk around like the cheshire cat all day, and people keep laughing along with me like their in on my joke.
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Sun, 03-25-2007 - 8:15am

I read this post just before I left for my weekend on Thursday and didn't have a chance to reply (crazy day at work)..


You know what? I've been "keeping a secret" myself all weekend.. and it felt so good LOL.. I should do this more often LOL

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