Who Knows That You Are Trying to Lose?

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Registered: 04-09-2007
Who Knows That You Are Trying to Lose?
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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:02am

Who Knows That You Are Trying to Lose?



  • Only the other people on this board.
  • One or two trusted individuals besides the board.
  • Several people, including another support group, i.e. WW, TOPS, etc.
  • The world: I tell everyone!


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Annie

"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living.  We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  &nbsp

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Registered: 02-26-2007
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 1:50pm

Tell everyone you are trying to lose. It makes you feel obligated to continue. I've noticed that. Also, it gives people a reason to give you advice on what works for them.

<3 Lyssa

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Registered: 01-25-2006
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 2:17pm
Only this board, my closest friends and my family know I am trying to lose because I don't want to feel watched everytime I put something in my mouth. I only tell those who aren't judgemental. It is easy for someone who weighs a normal weight to say oh it is easy to lose weight, or to judge you or to put you down if you slip up as they do not understand at all. Even dh sometimes says things that I know he doesn't mean the way they sound so if those that love me can say hurtful things then why tell anyone else (ex. co workers, strangers) only those close to me need know what is going on that way they understand why I make certain decisions or why I am upset that the scale denied me my just due, or they are there to encourage me no matter what. I am lucky in one aspect, my best friend did lose over 100 lbs and has kept it off successfully for 2 years. Yes she has gained a few lbs here or there and lost them again, but she has maintained a healthy weight for 2 yrs now and is my biggest support/motivations/cheerleader or whatever else I need her to be.

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Angela

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Registered: 10-25-2004
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 3:05pm

When I started, I didn't explicitly tell anyone, except my mother, and that's because she's on the same journey (sort of).


 


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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:41pm

I chose 'The world' but in the beginning, I only told one person, my boss - and that was because I needed to be able to be sure I could leave on time one night a week. And I told two people at the gym - the membership director and the trainer she picked for me (I bless the membership director every day for matching me with the trainer she did)And what I told all of them was 'I want to change my life' not 'I want to lose weight'.

I didn't tell anyone else because I was sure that it wasn't going to work, and I didn't want anyone/everyone to know how badly I had failed at something that I really really wanted. And I didn't want anyone to know that it bothered me that I had gained so much weight - true denial there!

It was a really long time before anyone noticed the changes - I kept wearing the same clothes so it wasn't that obvious. After about eight months, my mother came to stay with me and I had to tell her that I was going to the gym and that I ate differently, and she said that she had noticed I was losing weight but hadn't said anything because I hadn't. And about three months after that (springtime), I was wearing some new clothes and not winter layers, and my SIL about fainted when she saw me - The people who I saw everyday didn't see a dramatic change, but she hadn't seen me for a while, and she was startled by how I looked...and so excited for me.

Now, I am so committed to this way of living that I am always saying 'I'll be at the gym' or 'I have to eat now' and I am happy to tell people what I have done that is working for me. I know that you have to be ready to do this no matter what plan you choose, and that what works for each person is different, but I like to think that knowing that this has worked/is working for me might inspire someone else to try it and see if it works for them because it has made me so happy.

Long answer, sorry...I do go on and on sometimes.

SJ
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Registered: 03-28-2007
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 11:42am

I too have had troubles with telling people that just don't understand. I'm lucky in the fact that my skinny minnie boyfriend is really supportive and kind of actually understands. He understands weight issues from the other side, being made fun of when younger for being too skinny. His parents also have weight issues more akin to mine, that have turned into borderline diabetes and other health issues. So he's been through watching their struggle.

But besides that, I've had really bad luck with non-overweight people telling me that all one has to do to not be fat is to not eat so much, claiming it's so simple and that they don't understand why people complain about being overweight when they could really easily fix it.

So yeah. I'm really uncomfortable telling other people in my life. I only have 1 friend who is going through the same thing I am. Everyone else that I work with is very athletic and all men (for one thing) and all the rest of my friends do not have the same weight issues.

Although I do understand the concept of telling people to help keep yourself on track. That's what I did with my degree. I told everyone I was going to be studying Neuroscience, even when it still sounded totally outlandish to me that I could ever accomplish such a thing. But by the time I had told everybody, I really just had to do it. And I'm happier for it in the end.

Peace


~Bonnie~



Peace ~Bonnie~

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Registered: 01-05-2007
Fri, 04-13-2007 - 1:17pm
I let EVERYONE know I'm on a quest to lose weight and get healthy. Does this mean I get support from everyone? no... particularly when my fiance decides its a good time to order pizza... but I do feel like letting people know does make you feel like it's a solid "to-do" in your life. People who know are going to ask "how's it going?", and knowing you have to answer is a small incentive to actually get some results!
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Sun, 04-15-2007 - 7:59am

I used to at least tell all the family (that's a big family mind you LOL, including inlaws, etc).. but right now the only person who knows is dh. And I told him because I was going to the nutritionist so not telling him was sort of stupid LOL.


I don't like to tell everybody anymore.. mainly because it's so frustrating

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