Who Knows That You Are Trying to Lose?
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Who Knows That You Are Trying to Lose?
| Thu, 04-12-2007 - 9:02am |
Who Knows That You Are Trying to Lose?
- Only the other people on this board.
- One or two trusted individuals besides the board.
- Several people, including another support group, i.e. WW, TOPS, etc.
- The world: I tell everyone!
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Tell everyone you are trying to lose. It makes you feel obligated to continue. I've noticed that. Also, it gives people a reason to give you advice on what works for them.
<3 Lyssa
Angela
When I started, I didn't explicitly tell anyone, except my mother, and that's because she's on the same journey (sort of).
I chose 'The world' but in the beginning, I only told one person, my boss - and that was because I needed to be able to be sure I could leave on time one night a week. And I told two people at the gym - the membership director and the trainer she picked for me (I bless the membership director every day for matching me with the trainer she did)And what I told all of them was 'I want to change my life' not 'I want to lose weight'.
I didn't tell anyone else because I was sure that it wasn't going to work, and I didn't want anyone/everyone to know how badly I had failed at something that I really really wanted. And I didn't want anyone to know that it bothered me that I had gained so much weight - true denial there!
It was a really long time before anyone noticed the changes - I kept wearing the same clothes so it wasn't that obvious. After about eight months, my mother came to stay with me and I had to tell her that I was going to the gym and that I ate differently, and she said that she had noticed I was losing weight but hadn't said anything because I hadn't. And about three months after that (springtime), I was wearing some new clothes and not winter layers, and my SIL about fainted when she saw me - The people who I saw everyday didn't see a dramatic change, but she hadn't seen me for a while, and she was startled by how I looked...and so excited for me.
Now, I am so committed to this way of living that I am always saying 'I'll be at the gym' or 'I have to eat now' and I am happy to tell people what I have done that is working for me. I know that you have to be ready to do this no matter what plan you choose, and that what works for each person is different, but I like to think that knowing that this has worked/is working for me might inspire someone else to try it and see if it works for them because it has made me so happy.
Long answer, sorry...I do go on and on sometimes.
SJ
225-169-135
I too have had troubles with telling people that just don't understand. I'm lucky in the fact that my skinny minnie boyfriend is really supportive and kind of actually understands. He understands weight issues from the other side, being made fun of when younger for being too skinny. His parents also have weight issues more akin to mine, that have turned into borderline diabetes and other health issues. So he's been through watching their struggle.
But besides that, I've had really bad luck with non-overweight people telling me that all one has to do to not be fat is to not eat so much, claiming it's so simple and that they don't understand why people complain about being overweight when they could really easily fix it.
So yeah. I'm really uncomfortable telling other people in my life. I only have 1 friend who is going through the same thing I am. Everyone else that I work with is very athletic and all men (for one thing) and all the rest of my friends do not have the same weight issues.
Although I do understand the concept of telling people to help keep yourself on track. That's what I did with my degree. I told everyone I was going to be studying Neuroscience, even when it still sounded totally outlandish to me that I could ever accomplish such a thing. But by the time I had told everybody, I really just had to do it. And I'm happier for it in the end.
Peace
~Bonnie~
Peace ~Bonnie~
I used to at least tell all the family (that's a big family mind you LOL, including inlaws, etc).. but right now the only person who knows is dh. And I told him because I was going to the nutritionist so not telling him was sort of stupid LOL.
I don't like to tell everybody anymore.. mainly because it's so frustrating